Are you intimidated by successful women?

When I think of successful, independent women, I think of business women, but I really don't know many business women. Something I know, from being a businessman myself is that I am successful and independent, but extremely lonely in my success. I find myself using it to fill the void of having a life partner. It's rewarding, but it's just not the same. So, I don't know how successful women feel - whether they feel the same way as someone like me feels or not, but that's all the thoughts I can bring to the table with this topic.

Success and being able to be your own person aren't turn offs. It's the women who have these traits, but are also emotionally void, or are unable to be the loving and comforting partners most guys expect. That is when problems arise. Guys who are attracted to women, don't want to date guys. (essentially repeating what a few others have said there).

I know when I encounter some of these women, I don't bother, I feel like they want to just get married and have kids because they are completing some "checklist of life" in their mind. Sure there are stages in life that we all go through, but making it mechanical like that takes the pleasure out of it.

I would have to say B.

I also greatly respect women who show a great deal of ambition. Although, what can be a turn off, and very annoying, is the women that seem to do it to prove something to the world, or will look down on those that don't strive like they do.

What I mean, is that there are some women that I know that are very successful, that will actually look down on women that choose to stay home to raise a family. They will talk down to them and treat them like it's their fault that (some) guys look down on women. I think that's really crappy and ignorant. It's great to choose to be successful at work,... but I think that it's equally as great to choose to be a successful mother.

Those that go after success at work for themselves and their personal gain don't seem to have this attitude towards others,... those that do it to prove something to the world do typically have an attitude and while they don't intimidate me I find their attitude somewhat insulting to not only myself, but also the women in my life that have decided to find success in other areas rather than their jobs.

I answered B, but I have to say one thing. If she throws the fact she makes more than me or has a better job, etc, in my face in arguments or uses it to make it seem like she's better than me than it's a huge turn off. I'm all for people being successful. People who work hard to get themselves somewhere in the world are nothing to be intimidated by. I don't think however that should be used as an accuse for her to try and say she has more control over things in the relationship because she makes more. I think a relationship should be equal and split fairly for who's in control. I don't think money or who has the best job should play any part in it.

I wouldn't be intimidated by their success. Good for those who do succeed and good luck for those who go on to try.
But some that do succeed do come along with an attitude as C as shown, which I feel intimidated by. What's with the attitude?

I'm a woman but I wanted to say YES! Men seem to be very intimidated by successful women. I have had men tell me that they needed to know that their woman needed them for a lot, almost dependent.

I have also been told that because I don't need a man for anything, that scared men.

I think most guys like it when a girl is independent. From my experience they don't like clingy ones. And with success also comes confidence -- there's nothing sexier than that IMO.

I would say most guys are if they are not successful themselves. I believe the more successful a women is, the harder it is for the women to find a man.

Hey girl,
That's an awesome question and I'm glad that you asked it! I think that girls these days, really confuse being successful and independent with being a bit of a bitch. Like some of the guys here have said its not the success that scares them of .. it's the fact that chicks think that they are "so awesome" once they start making some money or whatever that they have the right to be more bitchy.

When I say more bitchy, it kind of covers a couple of other things as well. Say a chick is very ambitious and what not. I think guys actually like that, they like a girl, who has her own drive and doesn't simply want to live off him, who has a good head on her shoulders.

What I have a feeling they don't like ... is the girl, taking the same aggression she has in her career and then applying that to the dating game. This means that essentially the girl doesn't allow for the guy to chase her and she ends up chasing the man. Because she doesn't know why this doesn't work, she then goes on to blame in on her success .. and that guys simply just don't want a successful and independent woman.

At the end of the day, guys don't like it .. cause the "independent chick" ends up being the man in the relationship and well no one wants that.

I think that it can work really well, if a chick is more ambitious has her own dreams and goals that she goes out to achieve but at the end of the day when it comes to dating she can relax a little and let the guy still take care of her and most of all chase her.

That to me .. is what being a hot alpha female is all about =) That what I have written a whole freak en blog about! LoL

Good luck with it all

Hot Alpha Female

I think there definitely are some men that are intimidated but the majority a men aren't!!