If I don't settle I will end up alone that's a fact how to deal with it?

Congratulations, you're going up and going through something that all women go through after they stop being permiscuous as a way to find love. Now you'll resort to dating far more men who you'd have never given a chance to before.

I think your mentality is kind of f***ed up, to be completely honest. I mean, I don't know these guys, maybe he eats like freaking cookie monster, but you should have developed realistic expectations from a young age, instead of the insane expectations that you developed in your life. And of course, _you don't think they're too crazy_ but that's because your idea of a relationship is defined by Hollywood, and Disney movies with princesses that always find prince charming and have a perfect wedding where everybody loves them and couldn't be happier.

Good job, you were manipulated to stimulate the economy

Have any of your friends ever told you that you sound super picky? You even admitted to never giving chances to any guy who has come your way! You're almost 30. Are you honestly searching for a Ken Doll, or a real man with all his faults? I'm not joking, that's a serious question you need to ask yourself before you consider a long-term relationship or marriage. Answer that question for us and you'll be better off knowing where to go from here.

Girls like yourself, with too high an opinion of themselves, often wind up alone or in unhappy marriages because they didn't get the Prince Charming they thought they deserved.

Typically, you will find the guy you like, but only when you've married someone else. Statistically, it's women like you who cheat most often in marriages.

Why don't you just approach a guy who you're attracted to yourself? I highly doubt any guy would mind girls making the first move.

Sounds like you'd be better off alone, as you seem more picky than you give yourself credit for. My guess is that you find fault with a lot of little things a guy does, plus he has to be hot on top of it. You're almost 30. You can't be that picky if you want to get married. You either learn to put a lid on your pickiness, or you resign yourself to be alone. You're competing against younger girls now. The time to be picky was in your early 20's, when you had more guys going after you. Either lower your picky behavior towards looks and actions of the guys you interact with, or just start making friends and be content with being single forever. This isn't that complex.