I think it's mainly because people associate certain things about a shy individual as being intentional, instead of realizing it's just something shy people do unconsciously. For example the hot and cold game. Shy people don't play this game, they may behave in a certain way which gives the impression they are playing hot and cold. They are not even aware of it.
People don't understand how shy people work, their behavior and their complexity. A shy girl (or guy) will much less communicate with people outside their clique, and they feel much more comfortable being around their friends. This will make them behave different with people they know well, and people they don't know well or at all. This will make them less likely to acknowledge strangers and avoid behavior that will invite strangers to approach them. It will look like they think their belongings, their friends are the best around because around them they feel most comfortable. The unknown is just something they don't like and that's why they will long for what's familiar.
This is a small example, and some people will consider that individual to be stuck up. It's because they have a lack of understanding of shy people and assume things way too fast, and probably also have some prejudices.
To be honest, there have been some people I felt insulted by and I thought they were really mean, but then I figured out they were just shy.
BUT: I recently met a girl who was in my class and colleague of mine informed me about the 'fact' that she was very shy and insecure and was crying about something she was insecure of and fear for failing a test. Now I have worked with this girl and observed her for a while and noticed she was just acting to be shy and insecure, probably hoping I would develop empathy towards her and make her pass the course. Luckily I also spotted her outside the classroom setting, when she was comfortable and I could see with my own two eyes she was not shy nor insecure, none of that: she was faking it. She was trying to manipulate me + she was actually stuck up.
This example shows that people who appear to be shy can really be stuck up, but I don't think my example is that common though. The answer to your question is mainly that people do not understand shy people, and just make assumptions about them without critical thinking.
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I think it's shy people in general, not just the pretty ones. Part of the reason why, depends on how you handle your shyness. If you don't talk to people when they talk to you, that comes across as stuck up. If you avoid eye contact as well, you look extra stuck up. It makes people think you're blatantly, and intentionally ignoring them, even if that's not the case. If you avoid people, it makes you seem antisocial. If you blend into the background, like some shy girls who aren't as pretty, they tend to think those types are introverted.
These are just a couple of examples. But I think that if you can push past shyness just enough so that you are actually talking to people, it would help a lot. Even if you're mumbling or stammering, or if you're not quite getting it out there, you're at least talking, and you being shy or insecure comes across more clearly. Y'see, if you can talk to people, even a little bit, people might notice you being shy more. They could be sympathetic. They might even find it cute. Especially if there's a blush. But the other types of shyness listed above, doesn't help anyone.
I know this sounds like a lot to ask, but you really should put in an effort. Unless you have social anxiety disorder, chances are you can push past it. Even then, if you don't try, your problem will only worsen over time. So at least try. What's they worst that can happen? They laugh? They're probably not laughing at you. They probably are just laughing at the situation. You think they'll get mean? Then they're not good people. Not patient, and not worth your time.
Anyway, I kinda soapboxed a little here. Sorry about that. But yeah, those are some theories, and a few suggestions on how you could maybe change the way you are seen, by a little bit. At bare minimum maybe it can make you rethink how people might perceive things.
Good luck.
Just like a few of the previous people that have already posted touched upon - it tends to be people that are insecure that want to place that insecurity as the responsibility of another. A person doesn't HAVE to talk to anyone- everyone has free will. There could be a myriad of reasons why a person is quiet but others are quickly to think about how they feel about them and place them being a responsible and thus, apply a negative attribute of them being the problem not them having one.
I can even recall a real life example of this guy in one of my college classes was looking looking through Facebook during class with another person and they came across a profile of this girl (I could see it also and I admittedly was eavesdropping) and she was very pretty she had this bright glowing gorgeous smile with this cutesy pastel floral top. Her profile was entirely private couldn't even click her one picture and the guy first reaction of this cheeky smiling girl was "She looks like a b.itch". Yep. Not admitting she was attractive but rather...a b.itch.
ugh that pisses me off, I feel like people think of me that way sometimes too just because I'm not in their face and all.
as to why pretty shy people are considered snobby while uglier ones who are shy are not, I'd say maybe because everyone around them will be like, 'that girl is gorgeous, what does she have to be shy about?' Most probably think that being attractive means that you have it all, and it can't possibly be paired with any insecurities or weaknesses, such as being shy.
I was shy when I was a teen and up until maybe a year ago and it was always mistaken for arrogance. I don't know why people have that opinion about good looking people, maybe they think, well they're good looking , so they should be confident and outgoing, they have no reason to be self-conscience or shy?
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Well I think most guys and girls assume these people are stuck up because it makes themselves feel better about why the person may not talk or associate with them. Basically it's like a safety blanket. Kind of like when a girl breaks up with a guy and the guy then decides "oh that chick was crazy" it is essentially to make it easier for them to cope with being rejected.
That said I don't think everyone across the board simply assumes pretty girls who are shy are stuck up... I know I don't make that assumptionThey are just mistaken as stuck up. Even though, they are two opposite things they can be mistaken for each other. If your shy, just come out and say your shy. Stuck up is purposely ignoring people because you think your such the sh*t and too cool to talk to some people. Shyness is something people can't help and really to me it shows innocence. But there are many instances, the two get confused. I hate stuck up girls so much, but have nothing against shy girls. In fact, I probably like a shy girl because chances are she is going to be the nice girl whos gonna treat you right.
Try being shy and good looking at the same time. I'm a pretty good looking guy and one day at church I saw a young guy who looks almost exactly like me only a bit traller. I was a bit terrifying at first because we looked like brothers. I was looking at him and he looked at me for a sec and I couldn't do anything but laugh because of the resemblance. i learnt a Lot about myself just by looking at myself from I guess 3rd person. Even though he look very classy and handsome he looked super stuck up. It was a humbling experience.
It´s usually ugly people who say that. People tend to think that if you are beautiful there has to be something wrong with you. Beauty is considered to be something positve so people can´t accept the fact that you hav plenty of positive things, like being pretty and a good person. They HAVE to believe that if you are pretty you are mean.
Everyone that is shy is thought of that way. If you're attractive, you'll have more people think that because you naturally have more people drawn towards you, but it's the same for others.
I guess they think that because they have a certain way of acting and they know others that act the same, so they can't get the mindset of a shy person. They think everyone is like them, so instead of thinking "oh, (s)he is shy," they think "what a snob."I don't think it's only pretty girls. I think being shy in general makes people think that the person is stuck up.
Being beautiful and shy doesn't make a girl stuck-up. Who told you it did? As long as you're not mean to people, you're good.
Because people have this stereotype of the pretty bitchy queen bee popular girl and automatically think that about most pretty girls. so if you aren't talking to them they think that you think you're too good
I think it's because we affiliate good looking people as outgoing
I wouldn't agree with that at all. Shyness has nothing to do with your looks.
shy is sometimes mistaken as arrogance
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