I love to wrestle and "humiliate" my girlfriend. Am I strange?

x3 honestly, it sounds adorable. Even if that sounds werid. I would like the feeling of being controled at times. It's a way the guy lets you know that your HIS and HE wants to be the one in charge.

You are strange and a little messed up. I would call the cops on you! if she tells you to stop, then STOP! You sound like a sadistic maniac, yes you are very strange.

to tell the truth, I mean it is kinda creepy. but if you are doing it out of love then its cute. ha. I mean like if my guy did that to me I wouldn't mind it but if he does it to the point where I am scarred. that's when you have something to worry about. ha. but if she hasn't said anything about it. I think you fine she probably likes it

If she doesn't like it you shouldn't do it to her. You would be mad and upset if she continued to do stuff to you that you didn't like. It's not cute. If she likes you to do it and thinks you get a kick out of her acting like she doesn't like it, then by all means enjoy. My guy gets a kick out roughhousing with me.But I like being rough, lol.I don't mind but sometimes there is a point that he realizes I've had enough and it's time to stop or I'mma bit him,hard.It does fall into that category of BDSM. You're just thinking of the hardcore stuff.

My roommate does the same thing to me! He likes to tickle and bit me until I admit defeat. I asked him about it and he told me he finds it adorable that I'm so helpless and can't defend myself. Personally I like it although it might not be for everyone. I think you should always gage your partners mood though and be sensitive to when you're really hurting.

that so disgusting what is your problem? why would you get joy out of hurting her?
i have no idea why she stays with you.

Heck no. That's totally hot for some chicks too! But you have to realize where she may be coming from... Some people just aren't into being controlled either through negative connotation of a previous experience or just self conscious about their vulnerability. Maybe you should try moving your controlling urges out of the annoying zone and more into the sexual one. She may just prefer you tying her up and doing what you will than being tickled. Try it.

Loll, another anonymous user that sounds verrry familiar...strange.

ur not weird at all.just mind where you pin her.

honestly that sounds sickk and kinda lik rapist sh*t lmao sorry ... but its kinky lol but yes you are kinda strange

dont humiliate her be fun but not rubbing your junk in her face. if you do pin her down next time hold her arms above her head then kiss her!

s&m sh*t

nah lots of guys do that

either your a sadist or into BDSM.

If she doesn't like it. Then stop.

Or just tickle her and that's it.

me and my guy wrestle and tickle each other and when he pins me down I think its super cute I wouldn't like it if he put my head between his thighs but other then that it seems like its fine , I tell my guy to stop to but that's just cause tickling gets overwheleming you know but I don't actually want him to stop. its my opinion that if she wanted you to stop she would menetion that she didn't like it , and or yell . raise her voice telling you to stop.

well as long as you do treat her with dignity and respect out of this intimate environment and she's ok with this, then it's 'ok'

I think it depends on how far you take it. If you're just fooling and you both know it, I don't think it's strange. If your hurting her, or out to actually make her feel inferior, then ya, that's a bit strange.

I would definitely not be into the 'humiliating' part of that. Wrestling. . . HOT as hell! Not necessarily being 'weak and helpless', but wrestling does sound like fun. . .

My, my, somebody's the alpha male, ain't he? Look, you're just playin' around, she's got the idea it's a joke, she thinks it's funny, why on earth would that be strange? A lot of girls here are p*ssed at you for doing this to your girlfriend because they probably don't like it. Myself, I hate wrestling with people, but I'm not every girl, I'm no spokesperson for my gender. Some girls like to be dominated, they like the feeling of somebody stronger than themselves, it shows you're also strong enough to take care of them so they don't have to whip out their own nukes, they can relax. But on one point, you asked the question, and some people had a bad reaction. Don't defend yourself, it's unnecessary, and useless, and honestly, a waste of your time, I'm sure. Just let it roll off of your back. Pin your lady to the floor and kiss her senseless. xP

My boyfriend does the same exact thing to me.

And I hate it so much.

It's not fun being held down and tickled until you can't breathe. Especially when there's other people there. I just don't understand why you do it. You sound like a total asshole by saying "I just love the feeling of totally controlling and dominating her." Domestic violence much?

Ask her opinion on it, and if she really doesn't like it, then stop!

I would love a guy to do that to me. Its pretty hot :)
...As long as she's in to it its not a bad thing.
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omg, I just read over some of the comments you made and dude: you're sick. you're showing her who's boss? wtf! you really took this sh*t to another level. I feel really bad for your girlfriend because you honestly feel like a "man" when you do this to her. this isn't about lovingly teasing her, it's really about making her feel small and weak and making you feel big and manly. that's crazy. it's one thing to tease, but you just said you like to make her feel helpless and unable to defend herself and "humiliate" her. either you need better word choices, or you need therapy.

you should never get off from seeing someone you love be put down. if you're such a big and strong man and you know it, why do you have to attack her like that? isn't it your job to protect her instead? I don't get it. I really hope we're all just reading this wrong and you're not the abusive weirdo that you sound like. get some help, man. show your girl, your relationship, and yourself some respect.

dude, you should ease off her a bit. it's good to tease her, but if it honestly bothers her (i'd probably punch you in the balls for covering my face while you were tickling me) you should stop. teasing is fine, but that sounds just plain mean to me. I like it when goes put me in a headlock for a bit or give me a playful shove or something, but if it gets to the point where I'm seriously asking him to stop and he doesn't, it's not cute anymore. I think you're just being too much of a guy with your girl. keep in mind that she's not one of your boys, even if you guys are comfortable with each other.

Yeah that's strange. It sounds like your saying controlling her makes you feel more like a man which is pathetic! I don't understand how you get any kind of excitement out of "controlling and dominating" a female damn that, some one your suppose to care about... That's the words of an abuser to be honest!

I'm sorry, but if she is telling you to stop, you should.
respect what she is saying
I know guys like to dominate, but you don't want things to go to far.

Hahaha no there is nothing wrong with that.

Me and my guy wrestle like that all the time, except I can fight back so its more like a battle that ain't over till the first person whines lol.

As long as you know the "enough is enough" point and stop, then that's all you need. That and if it makes her cry or get really mad about it or something, that's a red flag.

I love when my guy does this. I act mad and fight back but it's all part of the game. He always chases me into the bed and pins me down with his knees while he tickles me. I scream and kick and bite but it's all in fun. I doubt it bothers her, especially if she is provoking it. I bet she likes it. You said it would be weird to ask her about it but you don't have to exactly ask, next time you do it, after you're done just say I love picking on you :) She should tell you her feelings about it.

its not good to be a control freak...idk if you are one...but if you are, try not to be. Because its very hard to like a control freak.

You're not strange, but it's only okay when both parties are fine with it. You say your girlfriend doesn't seem to like it, so why do you do it?

Um...well, I wouldn't mind that much personally...but it can get annoying if it's over the top. Plus, she clearly doesn't like it, so I think you should stop...or at least tone it down.

hell to the NO. you're like a guy very of me! haha..

Strange? Not at all, man! I too share this fantasy - however, I've not actually asked my girl to let me take her on. However, I've begun putting her in some interesting wrestling holds as our foreplay progresses - she seems to like it. Nothing that hurts, just holds that restrict her movement. Like putting her in a tight full nelson - or pulling her into a cradle hold. I would like her to do the same with me - however, I haven't asked . . . yet. Would be fun to have an all-out wrestling match with her! Winner takes all sort of thing :)

I WOULD LIKE TO WRESTLE YOUR GIRLFRIEND, TOO . . . WHILE YOU WATCH! You think you'd be into that?

hahaha its funny
i think you have child instinct in you
but be sure not to hurt her neck

You sound like the same conceited douche that I just commented on before this... Hmm, connection? o_O

I love a good little wrestling match with a girl. Just don't get carried away or you'll be bit... and dumped.

Just as long as your not over doing it. Regular Guy said it best though.

If she says know, don't do it. You may not think your hurting her, but in the end we must accept the other person's right not be acted upon in a way they do not wish to be.

Umm well ..she might feel you're immature. Not all girls like getting tossed around like that by their boyfriend.

no your not strange just love to be dominate in which your girl might not find very amusing so maybe you should just ease up a little because its only providing you pleasure and not really her but its all good hope I can help

Save the domination for sex dude!

Seriously you might want to see a counselor or something to see where this stems from. It doesn't sound healthy at all, go through it in your head and put yourself in her place. Would you enjoy being dominated and controlled like that?

If you really can't get passed that, join and adult site and meet a girl who enjoys that. Then you can be in heaven.

Wow dude I just read what you wrote to that other girl and ur kinda fukd up. Seriously if it takes beating up a girl to make you feel powerfull your a sad pathetic guy. I can't imagine actually hurting or doing any of that to any one of the girls I've hooked up with. And I assure you, you can think your big, but I'm a highschool swimmer, I bench 250 weight in at 180 and am 6' even... I could kick your ass so don't even try to intimidate me with a response. I'm not even kidding you sound like the kind of guy that me and my friends would ignore in school casue ur just a doushe bag, seriously show a little respect.

I like wrestle with my girlfriend too (in a fun way) but she when tells me I stop. Maybe you should too and not get charge for rape.

I don't like to judge others, but you need to listen to what you are saying 'humiliate'my girlfriend!
Am I strange?
if you want to be totally controlling and dominating her you could do that while you guys having sex in the bedroom.
you need to talk to her and see how she feels about it instead of asking us.

This is either a troll post and you have a messed up sense of humor, or you are just messed up. Wrestling is fine. Dominating, humiliating, covering her mouth with your hands while she tells you to stop, calling her fat--every one of those actions is abusive and pathological. Those things and "doing it in a loving way" just don't match up. Your inability to let somebody else win when your physical superiority is not in doubt, and your need to validate yourself by pulling the internet tough guy show you to be a very insecure person. If you are not trolling, you are an abuser.

No, your not strange. Most guys tend to be the dominant ones in bed. Very rarely women are going to be dominant.
It's okay unless she doesn't enjoy it. Both parties have to trust each other, and enjoy it for it to be acceptable. You say you put your hands over her mouth, and she tells you to STOP. The key word being STOP...I don't like this!
Or it could be apart of the role play...
Just ask her if she likes it when you do those things to her. Communication is key in any relationship. If she doesn't find something else you BOTH enjoy.

Yeah you have issues.

You pin her down, put her head between your thighs until she's "totally helpless" and you "love the feeling of totally dominating and controlling her." But you also think you're "loving."

Funny idea of love.

Abusers rarely think they're abusive.

They think abuse is funny ("my dad gave me beer when I was 5 and I turned out fine!")

They think it's for someone's good ("I told her not to buy those expensive shoes, we're on a tight budget")

They think it's to keep someone in line because they have no common sense ("I'm not nagging; he'd lose his head if it wasn't screwed on...")

They think it's not that bad ("I pin her down, dominate and humiliate her, but it's in a loving way.")

They think everyone does it so it's okay ("spare the rod and spoil the child")

I don't mean to beat up on you (pun intended). But I do mean to make you think about this wrestling in a new way.

What I find disturbing is that she's not an equal in the wrestling matches. If you two were both having fun rolling around and wrestling, I'd say go ahead and have fun but watch out for the furniture.

But when you say that she's not that into the wrestling, and that you get a big thrill from dominating and humiliating ... that's a different story. That's a red flag, even if she initiates these matches. Does she initiate these matches, or are you always the one who starts 'em?

My guess is that she has some abuse in her childhood, and she doesn't know how to stand up for herself. You're seeing her (partly) because of those traits, and she's seeing you (partly) because she responds to a subtle abusiveness in your personality.

you're abusive.

abuse doesn't only mean hitting, screaming, rape, name calling.

abuse means overpowering someone to satisfy yourself.

and you admit that's exactly what you're doing.