LONG STORY SHORT: I'm 18 and my ex is 17. I came out out of an abusive relationship about 2 or 3 months before going out with him (Aug. 1, 2007 when it was official). I was his FIRST SERIOUS LONG-TERM girlfriend and in the beginning didn't know how to deal with it but learned through his mistakes. We went out for 10 MONTHS/7 months official. I went on a family trip this past winter break (dec-jan) for a MONTH without any way of contacting him besides myspace. The time before I left for my trip, things were perfect, we never fought as much and both of us REALLY had strong feelings for each other. But when I came back (jan. 20, 2008) things felt like it changed. YES, he was faithful (or so he says) and all he committed himself to while I was gone was wrestling. We were all right in jan. But our fights escalated to February over stupid things like myspace and how he wanted me to give it up because it was ruining our relationship. He gave up his for me and asked me if I can delete when I came back from my trip- I DID NOT only because I felt like I had the right to chose when to delete it or not yeno? We also fought over the way I dressed (he said it was too revealing) and the amount of make up I apply (JUST eyeliner, mascara, and blush) NOTHING HUGE in my opinion! I guess it came to a point where our fights were centralized on those things and he pretty much lost the effort of even trying to remind me that the things that I do is hurting him. So just yesterday he ended it (March 12, 2008). I found out that I pushed him too far with the things I did and it made him feel like that since I wasn't willing to change then he wasn't important enough to me. He said he lost feelings in Feb. But still held on hoping that things would change- but to him it never. We would fight on a daily basis if not then every other week. I never expected him to just LEAVE LIKE THAT. Since in the begininning he was the one who had MORE feelings for me than I did for him. I know I am at fault, I felt like I took him for granted. In my perspective I REALLY believed that I was changing. I slowly stopped signing onto myspace, covered myself even more but the efforts I tried showing to him "wasn't GOOD enough". When he broke it off, I told him that I would delete my myspace RIGHT THEN AND THERE if it bugged him so much. He said there's no need. I told him that all I want was us to be normal like before I went on the trip- FOR US TO BE BACK TOGETHER AGAIN. He said he still has a lot of feelings for me but he can't see that happening because he hasn't seen a change from me. I couldn't handle the pain anymore and he had to go home so I did what I always did before- I ran away from the problem. I left his truck and walked away and stopped a few feet away HOPING he would chase after me. HE DIDN'T but drove away without looking at me. His myspace is still like before says in a relationship, our picture is still his default, NO changes yet- is that a good sign? Are we REALLY REALLY OVER?
Hmmm, I think he still has you in his mind, and is really really hoping you'd change to the type of girl he likes. Well, it's a relationship, which can hold many challenges such as the ones you face now. If you want to keep going with him, do you think he's Mr. Right? Is this the kind of guy you want to be with? If he is, and you really love him, then I guess you'll have to convince him that you're good the way you are, or make the changes he wants.
To answer your question, your relationship is definitely NOT over, really.
I really hope it isn't. But it's still very hard for me to accept it all together. Thank you for taking the time to help me out, SERIOUSLY (: - 8 months ago
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