So I'm trying that strategy out "don't contact your ex boyfriend and after some time he WILL get back to you" . It's ONLY been 5 hours since we last talk (or "argued" since we do that every damn day) today .
And he already called me 3 times within those 5 hours .
This will be my second time in NOT contacting him in order to get him back . It worked before (2 weeks ago)- he said that he felt like he needed me and that he missed me which also made him want me back as his girlfriend . But then again- we ended up fighting that night and he IMMEDIATELY changed his mind - . -
We still talk and still hang out even after that lame fight but now it's a bit different . Unlike the previous 2 weeks, he really did sound "happy" to talk/see me but now it's like he has NO LIFE within him to make him smile or joke around besides complain and tell me I'm annoying or boring him . I mean really, if I get on his nerves SO MUCH then why keep contacting me, right ? !
Anyway, like I said before . It's only been 5 hours since we talked this morning and he already called . You think I should give this strategy up ? You think it'll make him miss me and want me back like he did 2 weeks ago ? And if so, how long should I keep this up ? Or by me doing this (again) and by the way he's acting it would only push him away even more rather than make him miss me at all ?
And I think one reason why he calls or hangs out with me is because his best friend isn't here- he's on a trip and is probably gona come back this weekend like he said . And the time when he told me he wanted me back was because he felt lonely- this was only last week and his friend was already off of this island (i live in hawaii) . Do you think the only reason why he wanted me back as his girlfriend is because his best friend wasn't there to keep him company ?
I asked him why he hangs with me a lot (lately) and mentioned about his friend's absence . All he said was "just because my best friend isn't here doesn't mean I'm using YOU as a replacement . I have my other guy friends to chill with . " and that's all he said .
I think it's a dumb childish game to be honest . Either you like him or you don't . If you like him, then it's rude to not respond to him . If you don't like him then tell him . Why must we play these stupid games with the opposite sex ? You're not the only one, believe me . But it really is dumb in my opinion .
I definitely agree that avoiding someone makes them want you more . But my question is: Why do you want to hang out with someone who is always complaining that you annoy him or bore him ? That doesn't sound too cool to me, sounds like he should be nicer to you .
Yeah I realized that too, that's why I decided to stop "everything" with him (for now) and hopefully he'll realize that what he's saying is hurting me a lot . Thank you for replying to my question . - 8 months ago
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Your welcome :) Also . (you may already have done this) . If you do talk again (DO NOT call him ! ;) but if you do talk, definitely tell him it's hurtful when he says those things to you . - 8 months ago
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Okay, I'll give it another shot . Thanks again ! - 8 months ago
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When: 8 months ago
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