Life.. Turned Upside Down.. Please Help.

This is way too long for me to read but that sounds pretty hot, lol.

FIRST LET ME SAY I'M SO SORRY TO HEAR THIS BUT THEIRS ONE THING I KNOW AND THAT IS THAT YOU WILL BE BACK AND STRONGER THEN EVER . I THINK IT WAS JUST KARMA COMMING BACK AROUND ON YOU I KNOW YOU DON'T WANT TO HEAR THAT BUT IT'S THE TRUTH AND I CAN TELL THIS HAD TO BE YOUR FIRST LOVE AND IF SO THE FIRST IS ALWAYS HARD TO GET OVER BUT IF IT'S MEAN'T TO BE YOU WILL PLAY THIS OUT AND MOVE ON CAUSE LIKE I SAID IF IT MEAN'T TO BE SHE'LL COMEBACK AND YA'LL WILL BE ONE AGAIN BUT RIGHT NOW YOU FOCUS ON YOU . TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME AND YOU WILL GET OVER THIS HEARTBREAK. TAKE TIME TO REALLY GET TO KNOW YOURSELF BUT FIRST FINDING OUT WHAT YOU TRULY WANT IN A SOULMATE AND WHAT YOU HAVE TO BRING TO THE TABLE AND DON'T EVER SETTLE FOR NOTHING LESS CAUSE YOUR SPECIAL . AND YOU WILL BE IN PRAYER SWEETIE BE STRONG AND PRAY...

i know what ur going through so much...im younger but I still understand, the only thing you need is time and something to occupy yourself with hardcore style ya know? its like no matter what you do those memories of that person come back and it breaks you down by every fiber of ur being and ur basically a walking wreck of a person. The smell of them the sight or even their name can bring a flood of sorrow over you and it seems unbearable but the only thing I can tell you is time heals deep wounds and that's what its going to have to take. maybe pick up a hobby or start something of a routine so you can get them off ur mind while ur heart heals. I picked working out and I took all my stress off on that and it worked out for me I hope I helped in any way I'm truly sorry for the misfortune you have endured - Nick
p.s. don't be afraid to add me in case you need any further help or just wanna be friends :)

This I bad. I can understand too what you are going through. What you need is time off from dating people for a while. you need to do something you love to do, or develop a new interest. like guitar or photography or even gym. There is nothing you can do about the relationship because basically things are upto her now. and maybe even nothing good might come out of it.
All you can do is let time pass and be brave. Heart breaks always feel like this and remember that you are not the only person going through this. There are people who are going through worse like death of a loved one. Realise that its not just you who has problems.
The only thing you can do is look at the bigger picture. you are young, you have many people to meet. And many new experiences to gain. And what you are feeling is not going to disappear soon. You will have to bear it and go through it. its really horrible but there isn't any other way out either. be brave.

break ups are never easy, especially long ones. I myself have never been with a girl, but I was with my best friend every step of the way while she dealt with one, and it last for about 8 months, pretty close to yourself. One thing I can say about a women is that we're not men, and something in our minds will always function similarly, even if your lesbian straight or bi. So my whole point of this is, its not that she doesn't care, but she is moving on, and maybe you should do the same. You have to put yourself in her shoes, consider what she went through while you were doing your own thing in college, I honestly think you have to be fair and see the consequences of your actions. I'm not trying to make you feel bad or anything, but you made your decision, you did your own thing. When you came back and you guys were talking, she probably thought it was just harmless flirting, and who knows maybe at some point in time she too thought about getting back together. My best guess is that by the time you came back, this other girl was already telling her she deserves better, yadda yadda. I apologize that you had to feel that extreme amount of pain, it sucks, but this is kind of a 'you made your own bed' kind of thing, you should just leave things as they are, and if its meant to be she will come back.