This question is for guys. Just broke up 2. 5 weeks ago with my boyfriend of 2. 5 years. We were best friends, shared a lot of the same interests, etc. He was in a bad relationship before me and said I was like a god send compared to her. He came close to marrying her but he says that she broke it off. I only know his side of that story. He said I was the best thing to ever happen to him and that he loved me so much. He promised me he'd never cheat on me or do anything to hurt me because of what his ex did to him. He said these things pretty much for the first 2 years of our relationship. I moved in with him after 2 years and we started not getting along after 3. 5 months. Not really sure why. I took care of the cooking and cleaning so he didn't have to do anything around the house. He started a new job the same time I moved in that was more demanding that his previous but he loved it. I was happy for him. After living together for 3. 5 months he started going out and not coming home till 4 am. One time 7am. He ignored my text messages and calls. Finally I suspected he was cheating. Our sex life dwindled and before we had a pretty awesome sex life. There was no reason for him to need to go out and get it somewhere else when he could have got it every night at home. Finally after 6. 5 months and 1 month with no sex at all, he because affectionate again and we had sex twice that day and cuddled but I found text messages on his phone that night between him and a girl he worked with at his old job who is married and has three kids. He denied anything and told me I was crazy and to move out. This after just an hour before we were making passionate love together. We talked a few days later and he said he would remain friends but that hasn't happened. We don't speak at all and he's ignored the email I sent him requesting something that belongs to me that he promised he'd give me. I was 100% faithful to him during our relationship. Nobody saw him as the cheating type. Especially me. Why after having a bad relationship and you finally find someone who loves you unconditionally would you treat her like he's treated me. Note: he is a workaholic and started drinking a 6 pack every night he came home from work.
Sorry my story is so long. Just need to get the point across.
1. You hurt him and it is a payback thing to hurt you back.
2. You weren't putting out enough so he found somebody that was.
3. You weren't putting out at all, so he found somebody who was.
4. You acted like his likes where off the wall so he found somebody who thought his sexual likes where pleasing, or entertaining.
5. You became dull and weren't willing to try new things, or do some of the things he enjoyed.
6. When ever he asked you said "Im not in the mood right now." He obviously didn't feel it was always his job to get you in the mood. A lot feel that way.
7. She is hotter than you.
8. She is cutier than you.
9. She's willing to tell him what he wants to hear.
10. She's not quiet, she's vocal and loud and ur not.
11. She acts like she enjoys it and you act like its, "work, a job, boring" to him, which wasn't a turn on.
12. She actually does enjoy it. You don't. She Shows him by returning the favor unlike you.
13. She likes to go down on him, you don't, and no she doesn't spit. You do.
14. She likes him to go down on her, you don't. You don't even let him near that area with your mouth, but she will.
Just remember that its not your fault. I hate to say it but all guys are horny to a fault. But that's all I can answer I couldn't tell you why he wouldn't spend time with you or anything. It really does sound like you did your best. Just let it go is all you can do. Trust me you will find someone better, that will treat you like you want to be treated! I could say more but I'm uber hungry. Drop me a line if you need anymore convincing.
Well, it sounds like you did your best to please him. Its hard to say why he started treating you like this, but it does sound like he is does have some personal issues and problems right now. Its not normal to drink a six-pack every night when you come home from work. I think the only thing you can do now is forget him, and find someone who appreciates a good person like you. There are other goods guys out there, looking for someone like you; don't give up!
He does have some major issues like his parents had him late in life and told him he was a mistake. He had a brother 15 years older with diabetes and he died in 1998. Apparently his parents told him that "the wrong son died." I can't imagine how that would mess with his head. They also sent him away to a boarding school through I think 8th grade. He didn't go to public school until high school. His parents basically just sent him off to be raised. Sad. - 6 months ago
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