It has been over a week since we broke up and all he's really said to me is how hurt he still is. We broke up because I drank too much one night and for some reason danced with another guy. I feel terrible and all I want is to show how sorry I am. He's all I want but it seems right now he doesn't want to give me another chance... What should I do?
Update: thank you all! I've made some progress but still a little stuck
4 months ago
Like I stated in another post if we think you may be cheating of will cheat or give the impression then that's probably it. After this occurs we put up a wall and think that if you will dance with another guy then waht else will you do. But I personally like persistence so that may help you out. Hope I helped!
The stated reason for breakup sounds like a flimsy excuse to me.
If he's serious, about you dancing with someone else hurting him too much, he's being completely unreasonable and pretty stroppy. He doesn't sound like much of a man!
If you seriously love him though, confront him, tell him he should have more faith in you and how you feel. Tell him your with him and if he doesn't stop being stupid he'll lose you unnecesarily.
If he sticks by his weak excuse, feel lucky you got away from this pathetic looser.
Don't do anything. PS, don't get back together with him either. Most guys would get mad if their girl danced with another guy, but if he really wanted it to work he wouldn't have dumped you for it. There are probably other reasons for him dumping you, and this was just the straw that broke the back. And don't blame yourself too much for this. It's not all your fault.
Look to your friends and people that care about you. Also leave him alone. He'll want to talk eventually, then you'll have your chance.
This same thing is happening to me, but my ex-boyfriend broke up with me because I "wasn't acting like a couple". I don't know what that means but I really want him back too.
wait what? you guys broke up because you danced with someone else at the party? that makes no sence. I think you should move on. if he is going to be jelous and posessive like that over a dance then you don't need that. its not like ur engaged or married if you were it would be a different story, but ur not so... be like.. whatever... go about your bussiness do the things you do as usual if he wants you back he will come around if not then who needs him? I know he is all you want, you might love him even, but, you need to know that it is not fair for you if some guy is going to control your every move and get jealous over something as stupid as a dance.
If you truly want to get your ex-boyfriend back, you're going to need to use some important and time-tested measures. It's time to get back to what made you desirable to him in the first place!
Think back to the point where you first got together. What did you look like? What did you act like? The chances are very good that the time the two of you spent together was great in your mind -- but something must've changed or gone wrong to cause the breakup.
As you think about these things, you're going to need to begin a journey of self-discovery and getting right with yourself once again. That doesn't mean you're going to change yourself in order to conform to his standards. Rather, you're going to become a whole person who can stand on her own without having a man by her side. This might sound hokey to you, and next to impossible, but this is absolutely essential to do if you want to have any hope of getting him back in your arms again.
After you have taken these steps, some time will have passed. He might have even started to miss you. At any rate, you will appear more mature and collected since you have given him space.
Now's the time where you can casually start to talk to him once again. As you start talking more, you might hang out as friends and see a movie or eat dinner together. From this point on, you can treat things as if you are getting together for the very first time.
The timing on this is very critical. Trying to get your ex-boyfriend back can blow up in your face if you rush things or take too long. It might sound nerve-wracking that the advice for how to get him to stop ignoring you is to cease communication!
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