How do you get over someone?

The most important thing is to not sit there and worry about what your ex is doing. It will only drive you crazy! This is the time to get to know yourself better. So learn from it. I know its going to be hard, but trust me, when you look back, you'll feel so much more in tune with yourself. Take up a new hobby that you've always wanted to do. Spend some time with friends. Just concentrate on being the best "you" that you can be. I know it may sound a little corny, but I had to go through this very same thing last summer.
Try not to call or accept calls (or any other forms of communication) from your ex. This will cause confusion, hurt, and maybe even regret.

Maybe some time down the road you can be friends, but now is not the time to try it. You need to be happy and healthy independently of this person. It is hard not seeing the same face, hearing the same voice that you've had for the past 4 years, but you will get through it. And if you need to cry. Then so be it. We are all human and we all share the same feelings at one time or another.

Man, that sounds awwwwful. Impossible situations really suck. I have been there (engaged to a Muslim, then his mother found out that I'm Jewish and threatened my life. Most fun). My best suggestion is to try and really connect/bond with some of your close friends. Talk it out and try to laugh with them. Steer clear from alcohol (it feels good temporarily. ) and drugs. Do something that is very "you"; perhaps something that you did before you met the girl (swimming, biking, whatever) in order to remind yourself that you're an individual (versus half of a whole). You can also start something new to try and get your mind off it. The best thing to do is focus on yourself. Express yourself in any way that you like; just don't keep the pain inside.
and get rid of her stuff if it's in your room!

This is a tough question. But I'll give you a little advice try and go have fun and find some girl to hang out with she can be a really close friend. Just try to forget about that person and if she for you she'll come back ok but don't let that bring you down . It sound to me that you really love her but as they say " if you love someone you have to let go "thats all the advice I can give you good luck. Bye

I used to be in the same boat as you my friend, I had a girlfriend for 4 years we practically lived together and what got me over it was lots of drinking, hanging out with friends, meeting other women, cutting off all contact with the ex, and just getting rid of anything that reminded me of her. Most importantly time it will take time, it took like two months to get over my ex and now I'm back in the game.

I guess everybody gets through things differently, but It really seems to me that having nothing to do with that person is the only surefire way to get over them. I'm not saying forever. But for a few months at least. I dated a girl for a year and she ended up dating one of my roommates immediately after. That actually helped me.

I didn't want to see them together, so I just completely avoided her for months after that, and when it finally settled down I saw them together, kissing, whatever, and I didn't feel anything. They're getting married in less than a month and it doesn't bother me at all. Getting over somebody is something that is really sucky because of this: 99% of it is time. What you do with that time is up to you. You can pine over your lost love, or you can have fun, hang out with friends, learn new things and stay busy, maybe even date after a while.

There is a song by a GREAT band: You are a splendid butterfly it is your wings that make you beautiful, and I could make you fly away, but I could never make you stay, you said you were in love with me, both of us know that's impossible, and I could make you rule the day, but I could never make you stay, not for all the tea in China, not if I could sing like a bird, not for all of N. Carolina, not for all my little words, not if I could write for you the sweetest love song, doesn't matter what I do, not for all my little words...I could make you pay in pain, but couldn't make you stay..." Guess this band for 100000 POINTS
hang in there enjoy the good memories you had get really drunk get laid and who knows she might be back until then enjoy life, like I said just don't do anything petty and stupid

You're not alone, partner. If the break-up is recent, then it will hurt. A lot. After a while it will get better. The best idea is to try to keep yourself busy: watch movies/TV shows you liked as a kid, start reading books, play more video games, hang out with friends.

The first few weeks will be very tough for you but you have to stand your ground. Re-evaluate yourself. Try not to think about her or what she is doing at the moment - that always leads to trouble. If you plan on contacting her or are contacted by her, try not to have an emotional breakdown ;). Be calm, cool and relaxed. Other than that, all I can say is good luck and you'll be a better man once you come out on the other side.

-Just A Random Guy

Hey guy, we've all been there and all it takes is time for the adjustment. You going to have to get used to her not being around. Keep yourself busy with other interests and friends. You will find yourself thinking about her often in the first stages. Places you go and things you do will remind yourself of her. But as you get used to those things and places without her, you'll find that it will start to get easier. Eventually you will start thinking about her less and less. You don't forget but it will turn into a fond memory.

I think that you should enjoy the good memories that you have with that person, and decide to think fondly of those times. But you also need to realize that people change as well. Just because you guys were together for 4 years and had a relationship doesn't mean that you're both the same that you were back then. You've both changed, so I would accept that and move on. It's natural to still have feelings for someone you've invested so much time in, but at the end of the day you've got to realize that things are different now.

Be honest about your feelings - there's nothing wrong with longing for what you've had before, or even wishing that you had it back. But it is very unrealistic to expect that you can have it back. Take what you've learned from your past experience and maybe write down a few resolutions for your next relationship and work on that. Make progress - don't just pine over what used to be or what might have been.

And it may take a long time to get it done, but in the end it is definitely worth it. You'll be a much more solid person when you're through this tough time. Trust me. I've been there.