Ex really upsetting me

:( tha'ts terrible and confusing it doesn't make sense so I guess you have to take it in and then get rid of the though it's gonna be hard but hang in there.

Oh god, I am so so sorry and know how this hurts. And "shock" is the righ word. Your entire spirit and physical being actually goes into shock. It's ok to cry...vomit if you have to as well. But don't stay sick too long because she is just not worth it. Once you start recovering you will see things differently...you will feel she is disgusting and you won't even think of going there again. My ex broke up with me 2 months ago. I smoked cigarettes for 3 weeks (I quit over 10 years ago,) and didn't clean my apartment for an entire month. I didn't shower everyday either. Ugh...that first month sucked. There is nothing you can do but go through the pain. The second month I'm feeling almost 100% back to me. The place I was for the first month I call the "abyss." It's total hell, darkness, confusion, sadness. Please don't let this woman change your attitude and the way you are toward other women. There are so many beautiful women that would love a decent guy. Decent guys are so hard to find. This ex-girlfriend of yours is nothing but a pig. The guy she slept with doesn't give a crap about her and all he wanted was sex. She gets what she deserves. With that said, she does not deserve you. Take time out to heal before you date again.

sorry but what is your question? because you didn't actually ask one? or were you just wanting an outlet to write how you were feeling?

Maybe she had already cheated on you couldn't live with the guilt so she broke up with you or she felt like she was gunna cheat on you with this guy or whoever that's why she broke up with you... eitherway its lame!
well if I were you I would do one thing id ask for an explaination about everything. did she tell you why she's breaking up with you?

That is totally bogus of her. But understandable from a girls perspective. She actually must have felt very strongly for you to be going out and screwing some new guy so quickly. A new guy in bed helps a girl get over and forget about her previous bf. So she is trying to get you off the brain. She is going about it all the wrong way, and will likely regrett it later (or she should), but it is a help to you too in the long run. It will help you get over her faster too. Good luck...I'm so sorry she had to do it like that.

Wow that really is horrible, and she was cowardly for doing it over the phone and not explaining it better.

I'm guessing she did not want to be tied down to a reletionship anymore because thing got a bit to stable as in not exciting or fun any more and she wanted that feeling back so she broke it off (abet poorly and immaturly I mean over the phone!) and went back to being single like a fish to water.
I'm sorry man but that how people feel sometimes your still in your twenties so the only thing to do go back out there.

I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but once its over, there is nothing you can do. Its a crushing experience. Almost like your whole inner being is being tattered and torn apart by it all. It happens whether you were together for three weeks or two years. Its a shame she is doing that to you, but if she won't talk, there is nothing to do really but shut up about it and not bring anything up. I don't know about your current situation but I'd suggest getting as far the hell away from this broad as possible. No offense meant, but as the saying goes, you don't fix a caustic burn with water, you treat it with acid. If this broad thinks so little of you that she went off and did that, leave. Your in the same house I gather? Well that's no good. Your just asking to get hurt. If your not, good for you for moving out. Either way, get outta there. For some reason, every woman can get the idea that your not good and after they have decided that, you have no choice but to accept defeat and go home or away.

Here is a good way to get her to think about what she is doing to you. and btw, you gotta have some serious balls to do this and it will force you to hurt her a little also, but hopefully she sees how much of a fool she is being.

First of all, star off by talking to her buy saying that you miss her and stuff and ask her if she misses you or your relationship. She is obviously going to say no but anyways. Next, leave her an e-mail as an apology message like this:

I just wanted to let you know that after careful consideration that I would not miss this relationship part of us after all. You were right. And the relationship wasn't a great part for either of us. I can see clearly why you wouldn't want one with me. And me thinking more about it, makes me come to the same conclusion that I don't want one either. Nor will I miss it. I feel bad that I acted to selfish and immaturely and I'm sorry for not considering you in all of this.

of course you will have to tailor this for your situation and conversation you had but that's about it. Of course she might be p*ssed about what you said to her but hey, if she starts to make a fuss about it, that just means she never expected that you would be that way with her.

Next step, cut her loose. Cut off every last outlet that she had to contact you and don't bother talking to her or anything. Then move away (or out) or purposely cut the contact between yourselves. If you see her, you can either look away like you don't know her or smile politely. its all up to you really. either way hopefully it makes her confused about you and makes it seem like you changed all the sudden, just like she did to you.

Damn, I feel for you. That was pretty intense pretty quick. There were no other signs before that? Usually the shock turns to sadness and then to anger. Try and channel the anger towards something positive, boxing, the gym.. anything that makes you feel better and achieves something productive. Remember, she has no right to make you feel like crap so ensure she doesn't.

There is nothing wrong in crying if a girl does this to you. Just be glad that you found out what kind of person she was before you got too serious. She probably met this guy before she broke up with you.

I hear ya brother. I never expected my girlfriend to leave me. We were such a great couple, each group of our friends loved us together and wished their relationships were like ours. Then one morning she just up and left me. My ex has had several sex partners already and we have only been broken up for a few months. I understand your heartbreak, I have it too. I am devastated still to this day. I went into a depressive state, I became a hermit, drank excessively, stopped taking care of myself and basically just lost my mind. I cannot explain why either of our girls are acting like this. It's like when a girl hits this stage in her life, it is terminal for us guys. They have no remorse, feel no guilt waking up at some strangers house and most of all have no regard for us and our feelings anymore. One morning they will wake up, they will realize what they did, and they will want us back. I am going to be strong enough to say no. I treated her like gold, treated her like a princess, and would have given my life for her and never regretted it for a second. Loyal and dedicated guys like us are hard to find. They will eventually realize that once they are labeled, made to look stupid publicly and their friends get tired of their antics. It will happen my friend. I promise you.

How did you know she slept with another guy?

forget that hoe

Dude... there had to have been signs... Was she adding distance between you two? Was she answering you with shorter answers? Taking calls in the other room? Being secretive on the computer?

Look, everything happens for a reason and I'm super-sorry for your loss (I may go through the same here shortly), but there are always clues and signs to the impending disaster which should allow you to either react or to prepare yourself. It hurts either way.