Me and my girl have been together for over 3 years. We have a 7 month old daughter together and recently she left me. I have never cheated on her and never will. I have broken her trust only twice before. Both times were just with my friends, meaning I told her that I would have spent time with her but instead went with the guys. I have never been the kind of guy that when I'm with my buddies to scope out chicks. I have or had her I should say and she was honestly my everything. Recently we had a baby girl. I can honestly say I know I wasn't the best father possible, mostly for the fact that I hide behind fear of the whole fatherhood transition. We are/were engaged to be married. It was just that a whole another person that I was personally responsible for, which scared the hell out of me. What if I mess it up? I do admit that I ran off to my friends way too much. She recently moved out, which two days later led her to tell me it's over, that she couldn't take it anymore. It's been over a month now and I spend every waking moment kicking myself in the ass for my mistakes. I can honestly say by losing her, it made me get over my fears and run-offs completely, but she won't give me a chance to show her. All I want is to be a family but she tells me she can't take it. There is also another guy in her life that she swears to me she is only friends with, but he has tried on more than one occasion, many more, to be more than friends. Does he have anything to do with this? She tells me no, but something else inside me thinks otherwise as much as I believe her. What can I say or do to get her back and be a family with her and my baby girl again? They are my world, she knows it to. I can honestly say I've changed from who I was. Her leaving me, especially this long, sparked an emotion inside me which I never knew I had that. Inevitably made me realize my mistakes and how to not make that happen again. I love this girl more than anything in the whole world. I can understand her fears about me and my trustworthiness and fatherly abilities but can honestly say that if she were to give me another chance she would realize my difference too. How do I get my family back?
I think it's the other guy. You weren't there so she moved on to someone who was. You need to put your feelings aside and spend as much time with your baby. That she be your first priority.
Schwildcat
(Age:30 to 35)
When: More than a year ago
I don't see that you did anything wrong and don't understand why she left. If it was just over you spending time with male friends then she is being really petty.
Try to talk to her and find out the TRUE reason she left...there has got to be something else going on here, because this doesn't make any sense at all.
First of all, shame on you for your behavior! Any girl would have left. Why don't you be open and honest and tell her everything you posted on this website. Maybe she'll give you another chance if she believes you're being genuine.
mandingo
(Age:25 to 29)
When: More than a year ago
Look, there is something your not thinking about. Your daughter. aside from all this stuff with the mother she is still your kid. If things don't work themselves out, you are still a dad. This is not a bad thing. She probably feels you are not going to be good for her daughter. Prove her insecurities wrong. But if it doesn't work you are still a dad. Take it from a fatherless child: you don't want your girl growing up like that. You need to keep things in perspective. Your daughter is more important than her or even you. You still have a family. You still have your daughter. The mother will come around. Congrats on the baby girl. You will do fine, in your own way. That is as long as you try.
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