What Should I Do Now?

I am sorry to hear about that. I am also happy to hear that you have an interest in this child. It is valuable and important for children to have a strong male role model in their life. In the same token, It is also important for the baby to grow up in a household which is stable and not riddled with tension and arguments. Believe it or not even baby's can sense when adults are arguing. I wish that your girl could see that! You have not explained where the 'other man' went. Does he still visit this baby? Is he paying any child custody/support? How much involvement does he have? The thing is, you have replaced that male role model the baby would have had in her life. Unfortunately the baby isn't yours. You have taken it upon yourself to be that male person in her life. (I am guessing the real Dad doesn't want anything to do with her. ). Disappointing that you and this girl fight too much. It's not good for the baby at all. The best thing to do is let this woman sort things out for herself. Let her know your there for her because you love the baby as your very own. Likely this woman is trying to find a stable man who can provide for her and her child. I am not sure what your financial situation is like. Perhaps you have all the love in the world to give, but may not have the financial resources to support this lady and her kid (by the way you have no obligations to do anything for the baby. As you know it is not yours). Love for a baby is great. But, stability, financial resources, and a healthy environment is also extemly important. Just remember the wonderful moments you had with this baby. Babies, no matter who they belong to are a wonderful gift of god. How can you not love them?!

Tell her how you feel. If she refuses to let you visit the kid, there isn't much you can do. Sorry.