Ok, so I just got out a long relationship last July. In September I started seeing a guy. We were never an official couple, but we were not seeing anyone else when we were together.
So we were getting along great. Never really fought, and was really open about everything. Actually I have known him for a really long time before we started doing anything. So I have told him things that I have never told anyone before and he has done the same.
Only thing is his parents didn't like me because when we first started talking I was still married. Even though my relationship had been over long before we ever split up. His mom takes care of his money because she's an accountant, and she spends his money leaving him broke at the end of the month. I have told him he needs to take care of his own shit. This is another reason they don't like me.
Anyway, Thursday, he told me we couldn't see each other anymore. I asked why and he said "I have my reasons" That pissed me off, so I told him to leave. Next day I sent him a text asking what I did to him. And his reply was you didn't do anything I have my own problems I don't want to talk about.
So tonight he was over at his brothers and called and asked if I wanted to come over. I did. It was ok, we all just hung out, like we have so many times before. The whole time he just acted like we were friends. No hugging, or kissing or anything.
My question is, what the heck is going on. I have asked him and he don't want to tell me anything. Personally, I think it has to do with his parents. But I don't know for sure.
Also I really just want to be with him. I wouldn't say I am in love or anything but I loved being in his arms. How do I tell him that?
My opinion on this matter is that if you guys have been friends for along time and then became unofficial partners and he can't tell you why you guys broke it off, it shows the type of person he might be in the future if you stayed together. It seems to me that the mother plays a big role in his life, and if he cannot make the decision to be with you then you don't need him. But if you do want to find out ask him straight up, if he cannot answer then you can do better for yourself, I hope it all works out in the end for you
This is true. I think that he is embarrassed that his parents don't want him to see me, since he is 29 years old and shouldn't be listening to them in the first place. It's like they have to control his life. They don't do it with the other brothers and sisters just him. Mainly because he lets them. I have asked, but he will not say nothing. But his brother makes comments all the time about it, apparently they don't want him to hang out with his brother also. - 7 months ago
You tell him just that. You say that you care about him and you are worried about him and that you like to be with him. From what you said it does sound like his parents. I would have a conversation with him, if you can, and say you are worried and want to know if there is anything you can do. Be supportive and he will be supportive back.
Thanks. He already knows that I will be here for him. Since I have known him forever, we always know we can count on the other one just the way it is. - 7 months ago
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