Ok well I have been going out with this girl for like 2 1/2 years and she loves me to death she thinks we are getting married and is naming the kids, kind of clingy, but I like that it re assures I won't get cheated on, but anyway we never have sex and about 7 months ago we did it like twice in one night and it was her first time and she loved it then for like the next two nights we had sex, and I know for a fact that I was good so that's not my problem, then she was like I don't want any of that any more it makes me feel dirty, or something like that I can't remember.
but since then she won't even give me more than a two second kiss and I am really losing interest, whenever I try to seduce her I buy her flowers take her out to nice dinners and such I won't get any response out of her except maybe I love you so much. Sometimes she even tells me that she wishes we could do it again and I ask her why not, she will say because I want to wait again till we are married and I respect that but its getting ridiculous is we went from sex addicts overnight to amish the next.
so I get nothing when I am with her and I would never cheat on a girl but when I am with my friends I could easily pick up girls because I have gotten phone numbers or my friends have tried to set me up with someone else. But I insist that it will get better but it hasn't.
Oh and she refuses to see me on the weekends now because she is afraid I will turn her on. what do you think I should do? Stick it out for a while longer or start looking for another girl? Thanks for reading my story.
First of all, I understand the whole, going from addicts to amish "overnight," but that being said, sex isn't everything in a relationship. I think you should try and get to the bottom of what exactly happened and why her morals suddenly changed - which may actually not be an awful thing. However, if you try and talk it out, and your moralities and convictions don't line up, it may be time to just move on.
As for the clingy thing, the fact that she's assuming you're getting married and already naming kids is a little disturbing. There again, I think you need to confront her and if she continues to act the same way and that bothers you, really, move on. I've known plenty of people who've married those clingy, baby-wanting counterparts, and trust me, marriage does NOT Make it better. Better to break up and cause pain now than be trapped in a miserable marriage.
My guess is she really religious she feels what she doing is dirty and wrong. I know you love her either tell her you can wait or walk away till you guys get married. Its up to you.
I think that you should start looking for another girl. If it is bugging you then change that. Find someone that won't toy with your feelings. Someone that has the same feelings and does something about then instead of nothing.
Seriously your girl sounds like the kinda girl I am. And if she's big on religion I can relate to her so much more. She might b thinking your whole relationship through over and over in her head if your relationship is truly going to wrk;;jus if you love her stick with her cause if you guys decide to wed I'm sure she'll pay you bac from all the loving she dint give you;)
Maybe she is ready to marry you like right now and it's a way to pressure you to do it. I don't know of anybody that after that much passion goes cold as ice. Something is wrong. Tell her you feel denied and if she doesn't tell you the truth you will find somebody else. I think even if you love her she is not reciprocating and that's wrong. Good luck.
Well something is definitely wrong if she won't even kiss you properly. I think you should talk to her and let her know you're not happy with your sex life and don't want to stay if this is how it's going to be. See what she says. The kissing thing seems suspicious. Maybe she's feeling like she wants to get out of the relationship as well.
Dude went through that. In high school I had a girlfriend and we made out and such the first month of our relationship then she went cold on me saying she didn't want to be tempted (no sex until 1 year later!). To be honest its not easy in todays world. People try to be moral but keep finding themselves in precarious positions. I even tried stopping sex in one of my other relationships (lasted 2 hrs, she jumped me) because I was worried I would get her pregnant.
The problem is you feel teased and its like Pringles "once you pop you just can't stop"! Try setting her down and say what you feel and what is on your mind. Tell her you want to talk in a mature manner and get down to the bottom of this. See what her feelings are and see if you guys can come to a general agreement. I would recommend doing the suggestion that was in "There's Something about Mary" when they talk about baby batter on the brain. It' actually works at least for a couple of hours. Just try to be patient if you can. Don't try to pressure her into anything. If you really love her then try everything possible to make it work. If she keeps on acting reserved in her love toward you then ask your self if it is really worth it. Your obviously didn't force her to have sex. Reassure her that it was a great experience and that it is an expression of your love for her instead of animalistic lust!
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