I had a mutual break up with my ex boyfriend two years ago, but I have never stopped thinking about him. We agreed to be friends, but stopped speaking for a year after I threw a drink over him in a club, recently we have started meeting up again, we have met up twice in 3 months, and had 'relations' every time we met up. However he has got a lot of women on the go and has confessed to me that he says anything to women to get them into bed. He is a very secretive person, but chooses me to tell all of his secrets to, when I'm with him, he picks me over everyone else. We have real history and he is really the love of my life, I do want him back but I can't read him. I'm frightened of saying how I feel in case I scare him and he doesn't feel the same, he tells me he doesn't want relationships and just sees these girls for the sex. He asks me once a week to come to his house, but I can't tell if he just wants the sex! I don't know how he feels and it's driving me mad! Please help!
Yep. Your being used! Clever lad this one is. This is not healthy for you and you need to move on. You may think this is the love of our life, but if your willing to settle with a guy who lies for sex, then you may need to re-evaluate your ideas on what the definition of love really is. I know it sucks because the heart wants what it wants, but if you don't go out and start something new in your life that has meaning. Then all you are is girl #456, "the one who believes she knows all my secret's. I got a secret for you. "pssst! Your getting played by a real jerk! " -now be a smart cookie and pass it on, and get out of all that crap and find a real man who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Unless of course your like a lot of girls that are happy enough with just being a man's doormat. . Nope. Not you huh.? I didn't think so either. Good luck and happy hunting - j
Hi me again. He digs you but honey you two obviously have great physical chemistry. I don't see why your confused. He has told you he doesn't want a relationship. And he isn't a jerk. He told the truth right.
Why would he want the responsibility or the work of a relationship when he is getting pussy on a regular basis.
He is ok with being single and being your friend. If you're ok with being friends who fuck once a week. Then be ok with it. Your young. And besides you got work to do girlfriend. Yeah it's me again. You need to take care of number one YOU. Start counseling. And getting that anger under control. Or your gonna have lots of X boy friends.
You got to love yourself before you can love anyone else truly. We love but it isn't without unresolved anger.
If you need help working through this anger issues. I am available. Sent you my email.
Don't wait like I did. You miss out on a lot.
Have a great nite. And hey fucking -friends can be very exciting. Have fun!
You should consider this: if he REALLY wanted you back then he would have made a much more concerted effort to meet up more than two times in 3 months.
I am sure this is not what you want to hear, and believe me it is really hard (I can relate to an extent, my boyfriend just broke my heart into a million pieces at a bad time in my life). But in your case, your ex is clearly taking advantage of your emotional state. He knows and sees that he can get you into bed anytime he wants because you've told/shown him that all he has to do is tell you a "secret" under the misrepresentation that he's being intimate.
You owe it to yourself to know for sure that he's not using you. If he wants to meet up again, make him wait to see you for a little while. I hate to be the one to say play games, but MAKE HIM BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE TOO BUSY to just pop-in and see him at the spur of the moment! He should respect you, and you should respect yourself, enough to have him make a date/plans/schedule, whatever you want to call it, to see you. If he stops calling you back, or doesn't want to do it on your terms then you'll have your answer.
Take back control of your heart and emotions. If you see him - hold out and just observe his response before doing anything the next time you see him. Otherwise, let him go.
If the love of y our life is meant to be, he'll figure out a way to make it work for both of you! TRUST ME!
Basically he's using you for sex. You said ". Has confessed to me that he says anything to women to get them into bed. " Wake up girl. That's his ploy for you, to get you into bed.
Excuse me! She isn't an idiot! They mutually using each other and it is apparent that she discovered that she still has strong feelings for him. He on the other hand enjoys her friendship and has up front with her. The only thing that should be suggested is she stops sleeping with him if she can't handle that he doesn't want more but it doesn't mean that they have to stop being friends. You meant well but calling her and idiot and saying that he's solely using her is incredible insensitive - 3 months ago
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I think you are being a little insensitive. He's using her for sex too and anyone can see that. She should stop sleeping with him and I bet when she stops doing that. He won't even be around, not even as a friend. - 3 months ago
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