Well after a 2 year relationship with my boyfriend whom I lived with we broke up. Close to the end he told me he didn't see sexually attractive and our sex life went down hill, no matter what I would do. We were also having arguments over his constant talking to his ex girlfriend, I truly was convinced that his behavior had to do with what they would talk about. He hid that they talked and would erase his phone calls, so I wouldn't find out. I tell you this woman in my relationship was like a curse. She tried to do whatever she could to break us up. He ended our relationship when I found a naked picture of her in his phone that was sent a few months before. And also the day before I found that out she had sent him a picture and him back but not a naked one.
It's been over a month now since he left the house. About like a week after he left he came back and we had sex, before anything happened he told me that it didn't mean we were back together again. It has continued on since that day. Two days ago he got here drunk and was acting a little jealous. He made passion marks on my neck so that people would know. I can admit he has acted jealous a couple times when he knows I am out acting like it doesn't bother me we still together, but it does. My question is I really don't know what to think about the situation. Have I been wrong to keep sleeping with him? Should I still have hope? If one of the reasons that he left was because of our sex, now he coming for the reason why he left. WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?!!
Should I try to move on with my life even though I still love him?
He's not coming back to fix your relationship. In fact you're very clear that its due to jealousy and that "it didn't mean we were back together again. "
Since you instead want a fixed relationship with him, you're doing the wrong thing, because that's not what he wants. So give up on it, he's not a good boyfriend. Move on even though you still love him.
It would probably help you to realize that you ARE sexually attractive with or without him, so that you don't go seeking that out from him, or any other wrong guys.
You should also get to the point where you KNOW that no guy worth keeping would have such as relationship with his ex when he's now with you. Any guy doing that is wrong needs to stop or get booted.
Also, start thinking in terms like "WE did what it took for the passion marks on my neck" because you wanted them too (unless he forced you which is a whole other question). Not "HE made them. " In other words, be accountable for all your choices, learn from them, so you can make better choices in your next relationship.
That way, you won't stick with jealous drunks with naked pix of their exes on their phones. You probably won't even choose them in the first place. And then, you'll have a shot at a happy relationship.
BECAUSE you still love him - you must CUT HIM OFF. For your own good. This is slow and steady torture. He's not doing it on purpose, he's doing it because you seemingly do not have a problem with this. He's bored and acting a little selfish. Please don't do this to yourself. And yes: you should have never slept with him after the break up and it is wrong that you guys are sleeping together now. Not just because you two are broken up & sex confuses break-ups, but because of the LACK of trust & respect he has SHOWN you since you've known him: in your relationship, during the break up, and after it. He is using you for sex and you are letting him do it. But you're only human, and everyone makes mistakes, you we're following your heart: don't get down on yourself. Just rip off this band-aid quickly. You know he's not going to change right now. And doing what you guys are doing, certaintly won't turn his act around. You know what you have to do here, I'm so sorry you love him because this cannot be easy. But I've been in your EXACT same situation, and there really is no other way. :-(
move on girl. I went through this and I loved him so much. I did everything for him and it wasnt enough he left me and told me after 2years that he didn't love me. He was seeing somebody for the end of September 2008. Even as hard as I try it seems he using me for things if he couldn't get it else where. you got to put ur foot down and show him that you could live without him or he would keep using you and walk all over you cause you allow him too. I think this time around if he come back to me I am not taking him back cause if you think about it its to much heartache.why waste your time. just appreciate what you did have and go become a better women on your own. We are young its a waste of time to live our whole life around one damn man. He didn't love you in the first place if he was secretly talking to his Ex. you gotta love yourself in order to give love. Men are assholes.the think in there pants while we are emotional recks. The more you show him your weakness is taking him back the more he will keep doing you wrong. Find somebody who will appreciate you completely.there are a million men out there. I gotta learn that too. Regardless what you had with him another girl would never replace that, but you don't need a man who can't love you right. Gotta treat yourself like a queen.its wrong to sleep with him because your selling yourself short. From your story you kind of sound like you are insecure with yourself. Go work on yourself and realize beauty is skin deep.he keeps coming back to have sex with you cause you let him. Sex takes two. you gotta learn that its you who brings happiness to yourself not somebody else. it really takes at least 4 years to get to know somebody.but only you know yourself and if you don't like I said before find yourself and learn to love what you got.no man loves a women who begs for him.thats a turn off.not even that your like giving him the right to play with your emotions. I could go on forever with this topic but you gotta let him go.
I don't know if you are still in this situation but honey it wasn't the sex he is just trying to think of something and sleeping with him is the worst thing you could do. I am going though the same thing only we were together 2 years and now have a 6 week old daughter
Girl come on.. he wants you as a booty call no doubt about it! Of course he feels some comfort because you guys been together for a while.. STOP! please have some respect and dignity he's basically seeing you as a girl that can give it up whenever he wants.. SHOW THIS BASTARD that you are more than that!
1) Once a cheater always a cheater 2)You let him make "passion marks" on your body and you're not even dating gross eww! 3)You might as well say "here I am! Use me please I'll let you!" 4)You want to have sex with someone who says you don't excite him sexually? 5) you have been wrong to sleep with him: all women need to adopt a "no sex with ex" policy. 6)There's no hope for this relationship, there is no respect 7)Maybe the other girl left, so now you're the only girl left to have sex with, basically, you are his "plan B" 8)You don't love him you just have really low self-esteem and that's sad
He's a sadistic, manipulative jerk who wants to have multiple women to himself. Move on.
Oh, and that may sound harsh, but I've been there and done that. It hurts, but you need to ditch him. He doesn't respect you, and without respect, there is no love.
Girl I'm gonna tell you to move that ass on, he doesn't really want you. This happened to me before. Don't give him what he wants, make him earn you back if he wants you. If you don't wanna wait no more move on and erase him from your mind and you will be all good.
I am going through this right now with my ex-boyfriend. We had been together for 2 years, during which I fell madly in love. Fast forward to a few weeks ago when he started to act distant and communication was rare. Finally I confronted him on it and he 'fessed up to being interested in someone else. I am hurt and not happy about it, but I figured, "Hey, it's his right to not be in love with me anymore, so I'll go on with life". Not even two days later, he text messaged me. Apparently, things didn't work out as he thought with this woman that he was newly infatuated with. He is a wonderful, kick-ass guy and I really enjoyed our relationship (and I'm still in love with him) and we still communicate. But I figure that I need to not be 'the go-to girl' when his other plans don't work out. I deserve to be in a real relationship. What will happen 6 months, a year later if we got back togeher now? I feel that my feelings would get even more caught up and he would lower the boom on me again eventually. In the meantime, I try to keep a bit of distance, pursue other opportunities as they come up, and try not to get my feelings too involved. If, down the line, we both have our heads screwed on straight and he wants to make a real go of it with me, I would gladly accept us getting back together. In the meantime, I am going on with my life; he is back in the "friend" category for now.
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