When my boyfriend and I started dating 1 year ago, we quickly fell madly in love, and the honeymoon stage lasted awhile. I was entering my senior year of college and he was going to be a junior. Things went well all yr, everyone who knew us saw how in love we were and always made comments about how good we were together. We were BEST friends and did everything together, we were rarely apart. He recently started hanging out with a different group of friends, of which most of the guys are single and total jerks. My boyfriend NEVER treated me badly.He always went out of his way to make me happy and we always compromised on issues we disagreed on. He is a total gentleman and has a good head on his shoulders. About a month ago, he started putting his friends before me and we started to fight about dumb things, usually when one or both of us was drunk. Each time we fought we made up and said we didn't want to break up and both wanted to work on our problems. The day after I graduated, we got in another argument, and he said he needed space. He said he didn't think our relationship was working right now and he wanted to spend some time apart. I tried to give him his space, but it hurt so much and I called him after a few days. We agreed to meet a couple days after I called him, and that night he officially ended things, saying he doesn't want a girlfriend right now, but maybe we can be together in the future. When he said that, he said it like he didn't know me, and it seemed like he completely shut off everything we were in his mind. It wasn't the guy I fell in love with, the guy who would never act so cold and distant like this guy was. I am completely heartbroken, I didn't see this break up coming at all. He said we can still talk and see each other, but I know I don't want to put myself through that, I don't think I can just be friends with him. Its been a few days since the official break up, and I'm going out of my mind. I want my boyfriend back, I want him to realize what he gave up. Please help me with some insight as to what might be going on in his mind!
umm. all I can say is that I hope you can get threw this easily
i must say that the new friends thing has got into him badly. friends can influence a guy if he wasn't strong and sure about whatever he's doing.
from another side he didn't fight back that influence and he was worried about how to fit in this new bunch of friends he's with.
What I can say is that you do have all the rights to ask for a reason because I don't see that he gave you any good reason for this break-up that ended an amazing year for both of you.
so talk to him one more time and ask for the reason . maybe you did something that was a turn over for him that you didn't notice . maybe he did something wrong and didn't want to face you about it and going threw things that could hurt your feelings more than the break-up
again I say ask for a reason . and ask whatever comes on your mind it would be either a chance to get him back or at least you would know the reason.
If you want him to realize what he gave up, have no contact with him. He'll get the picture after a few days of hanging out with his loser friends. Besides, if he is strong willed, the opinions of his friends won't really matter. But if he can leave you at the drop of a hat, why would you want to stay with him?
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I know it hurts because I'm going through a similar situation although I am married, but the pain is real nevertheless. Try and stay strong as possible. If it makes you feel better call him and talk about your feelings with him whether he wants to hear it or not because I know that it is him that you want all answers from. My husband was cheating on me and as bad as it is, most men that want there freedom are trying to see someone else. If it was meant for the two of you to be together it will happen. In the meantime, look for positive activities to keep yourself occupied while he makes his mind up. Don't feel like a fool for giving him time, let your heart feel what it feels. Take care and I wish you all the best.
Well for one do what he is doing hang out with some different friends and cut yourself off from him. Then maybe he'll see, after you act just like he is exactly how it feels. But personally I think its his friends filling his head with stuff. Or he was occupied with some one else that night and you were getting in the way. Not trying to be rude. Nice guy + Bad friends= another a**hole. Most of the time. If he can't deal with his friends pressuring him I wouldn't take it back, because he could and would most likely do it again. (my opinion)
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