sounds like you just have to deal with it. YOU broke up with him, and you can't have it both ways. a break up is a break up. SOMETIMES things work out and you can be friends later, but in a relationship where you were ENGAGED, that seems doubtful, and especially since you were the one to call it quits, you're just going to have to let it go. of COURSE he refused friendship. you broke his heart and he's not ready! that's completely understandable. there's pretty much no way you can continue to be best friends - probably not friends at all, so you're going to have to let it go.you can't have your cake and eat it too.