How do you move on from a break up when your ex didn't break up with you? For instance, say you had an argument and he avoided and ignored all your e-mails, text msgs, calls and even hung up on you. blocked you on chat, etc. after 3 weeks of silence it means that he broke up with you, right? please tell me I'm right because the past few weeks I've just been moving on assuming that we're done. so why is it that I'm having such a hard time? what do you do in this situation? do you just move on as if you got dumped? I don't understand. someone please explain why guys do this.
guys, why do you do this to girls? why can't you just say that it's over? words hurt but silence breaks your heart even more. it's frustrating and disappointing.
That must have been a heavy duty argument for him to not call or acknowledge you. And it does hurt, but you need to move on. There is only one word to explain him.Scumsuckingpig! You deserve better!
Actually it wasn't even a heated argument. I didn't cuss or try to push his buttons. I just told him that I would deal with this problem that I was having alone but he wouldn't let it go and when I didn't reply, he logged off chat. the next day I told him that we needed to talk because I wanted to clarify things and I also apologized but then he txted me saying 'maybe we just shouldn't talk at all'. the was the last thing he said to me. that was about 3.5 weeks ago. so what am I supposed to do now? - 2 months ago
The best way for you to deal with this situation is to stop bottling up your feelings and let them out.
Listen to songs that make you cry your heart out because they describe exactly how you feel. Talk to people and let your emotions flow. Try to let out all your feelings until you have no more feelings. Its no fun at all during the time it happens but once you've cried your eyes out and you cannot feel anymore emotion from it, you won't suffer from it as bad anymore the next time.
I remember I listened to: "You were mine" By the Dixie Chicks [I know its country and blah blah blah its not a lot of people's types of songs. its not my type of music either but the words truly resembled how I felt at the time, and made me cry a great deal. After a few days of listening to it once in a while and having my 'crying' moments, I started to recover and eventually I got over it.
Also talking to people who are willing to put up with whatever you have to say helps. Just tell them that they don't have to respond, just to listen. [That way it doesn't put them in an awkward position where they're trying to comfort you. Just remember that someone who listens to you is usually just as good as if they were giving you advice. It gives you the time to let our your feelings to yourself as well as the other person, but also lets you re-evaluate the situation]
If those don't help, maybe try the opposite approach.Try reading a book or write a blog? Try to keep yourself busy by playing video games, sports, hang out more than usual. Go work or play the piano, or keep yourself occupied. The key is to keep your mind off of things. I guess it works temporary from my experience but its better than sitting around and bottling up your feelings while doing nothing.
Thanks for your suggestions. I've actually been working out on a daily basis. I find that the rush I get after I work out makes me feel really good, even though it's just temporary, but it's a start. :) - 2 months ago
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