Can I win her back?

If she wanted you to fight for her. She wouldn't say she is NOT in love with you. Because just like "i love you", "I am not in love you" is also pretty strong. And it is something very difficult to say to someone you love. She might've said something like, "I need space", or "I'm not sure I can be in a relationship, right now. " stuff like that. She would say something that would keep the "situation" open.
In this situation however, she straight up said she doesn't love you. And she means it. The reason why she still wants you around is because you and her get along, as FRIENDS.
There are a lot of guys we meet, who we think are perfect. Gentleman, funny, smart, successful. etc. But there is a certain character in each man that triggers our attraction, and makes us see them as more than a friend. In your case, you are one of those perfect guys, but not the type she is attracted to. She wasn't trying to hint when she explained that to you. She was being honest, because you are good guy, and she doesn't want to lead you on to something that's not going to happen.
If you really care about this girl, and it won't hurt you to be her FRIEND, then move on as a friend. Because you never know, maybe someday she will realize she wants more from you.
(don't hope for it though)
But if you know you will keep falling for her, and it will hurt you to see her with another guy. Then quit seeing/contacting her, until you are totally over her.
Im sorry for what happened. But you can't force her to love you. And trust me, I would know if a girl wanted the guy to "fight" for her.

I don't think you should pursue this anymore. I am reading a book and it talks about relationships and how they shouldn't be that hard. If you are meant to be together you will end up together. I think she needs some major counseling. If she says she doesn't love you why would you want to be with her. I think there is someone waiting for you and her problems won't get in the way.

Sounds similar to my story, except for the fact that I’m much younger and there were no ex girlfriends that my ex had. Since she was hurt so many times, she may have a tendency to fall away from guys, and in her mind telling herself that she’s not meant for you-she may not be. But you need to love on her with the boundaries that she has given you. Since you’re not dating, don’t try to grab her hand, or try to kiss or hug her. You need to love on her and let her know that you’re here for her. She’ll fall into your arms in time. Be an amazing friend to her, let her know that you two can talk about anything, if she needs to talk about getting molested let her, if she cries with you hold her. Like I said- Love on her with the boundaries that she has given you.
If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be. If you would move on then that would mean that you would’ve given up on her… if you were crazy about her before why not be crazy about her now even though she doesn’t want an intimate relationship with you. She will value the strength of the love and care that you have for her if you don’t give up. Don’t be stalkerish, be a great friend and be a help toward her life.

Good luck<3

The thing I've learned about girls who want you to fight for them is that a few (not all) need it not just once, but always. If she falls in that group, and a suitable confrontation doesn't come up again on it's own, she will seize upon or create scenarios that cause you to always need to fight to keep her. Or she will at least test you.creating smaller situations so she at least knows if you are ready and willing.
Your girlfriend or wife is occasionally going to be the object of some guys advances.often shrugged off and you won't hear about it. The girl I'm talking about needs to know that you won't ever let something like that go unanswered. So you will hear about every occurrence. When I hear the words "fight for her" that's what comes to mind. I shouldn't let it, because as I said, it's just some who need that. I think it's an insecurity thing. But just food for thought, in case that sounds familiar.

I have gone through this situation with a girl in the past. It can be very complicated, so I will try to be as thorough with my advice as possible. Personally, I agree with you that she totally gave you mixed signals, and I totally understand where you're coming from when it comes to being confused as to what you should do - fight for her or not. Since you know a bit of her history, you can understand that there is a possibility that she may just be scared of having a committed relationship with someone due to the sexual abuse in her past. However, women who are sexually abused sometimes find themselves unable to say no to guys. They can have a tendency to just go along with whatever the guy wants because they are afraid to say no. So, having said that, the only way to know whether she really likes you and is into you without pushing her is to allow her to have her space. Also, from a normal standpoint, when a girl tells you that she doesn't really love you, she normally means what she says. This can be the most hurtful thing for a guy to hear from someone that you really like/love, but if she says it, 9 times out of 10, you can believe that it's true. In a normal situation, if this occurs, you should drop the girl immediately and move on because she truly means what she says and she doesn't want a relationship where she is not in love with the person. There is the other 10% of women, however, who say something like this for a number of reasons: they are fearful of commitment, they don't really know how they feel, they want to hurt you, they are testing you, etc.But, like I said, for the most part, you can believe a girl when she says this because most women are looking for someone they feel totally in love with. In any case, whatever the situation, it would probably be in your best interest to respect her wishes of not being with her in that way at this time. Also, if you give her time and space, she will have time to find out what she really wants. If you are what she really wants, she will have time to figure that out. However, I would be careful to not get your hopes up. Sorry - this is probably not what you want to hear! However, I hope that you will have the strength to get through this because I know that it's probably really hard for you right now!