okay , so me and my best friend josh ended up dating . well it ended 12 days later he said he just wanted to be friends and I said okay. Well we had a great friendship and decided to keep it cause he really wanted to stay friend and so did I well we hung out monday at his house and we were just watching a movie like friends do well he starts tickling me. And I'm thinking "just friends" don't really act like this? so anyway we lay back on his bed and he starts rubbing my stomache so I ask what are you doing? his reply it's soft and I mine isn't that soft? so we hung out last night and he would do things like putting his feet over my legs or poking me tickleing me wrestling, And then he was like here you can lay your head back here if it would be more comfortable And we wound up my head on his chest on my couch. me and my other just friends and I don't do that? and he was trying to comfort me because I got confused during the movie about something and he took his hand gently rubbed or held kinda my side and was like it's okay ' Being sarcastic about the movie"hen he just left it there for a minute and when my hand accidentally brushed his he moved it. then he left we haven't kissed since we broke up but that doesn't matter. I'm just confused on how you can break up with someone and lay with them on the couch but you just want to be friends? maybe it's just me I just don't understand and me still liking him doesn't make it any better.
You guys have extremely mixed feelings for one another. Is he the player type? Because if he knows he can do that to you, it seems like its a quick piece of ass. And he can go to someone else without getting in trouble for it. And when you find out if he is seeing someone else on the side. You will be extremely hurt because your feelings will still be strong.
Hold strong to your words "be friends" don't let him do those things. Play hard to get but not too hard. If he says later on he made a mistake then go back to him but not jumping right back to the same old routine. Take it slow don't do the same mistakes.
Thats true but I know he's not a player. I mean every time he's off we hang out. And others he works for his mom like mowing her yard since she can't she had a heart attack. And he works 6 to 6 so most of the time we talk and hang out when we are both free. or we make time.even only for a few minutes like today he came by and gave me a dvd. but when he left we hugged but it wasn't a quick c-ya bye hug. so I don't know. I think he's just scared of commitment. and he does have commitment problems we d - A month ago
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If he has problems commiting then why go through the trouble of wanting something that won't? Ask yourself that. Do you really need that to happen to you? Try fishing others to get your mind off him or just go out and have fun. Don't be serious about it-- if you are with him he will probably get scared and run again. Also don't play the jealous game either if you meet someone new. Because you will end up hurting yourself. - A month ago
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Alright. So I finally decided to talk to himabout it and told him basicly that I felt like he was leading me on into someting he didn't you know? So he said he was sorry adn that I took it the wrong way. So he said basicly he was just being nice? So I asked so you did all that becasue yuo where being nice? he said well you are my frind and I do care about you, I said I do to but I wouldn't do any of that stuff with my other guy friends unless I had any intention it going further that just friend - A month ago
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I'm glad you came forward and talked about the issue. It took courage of doing that and you wanted answers. You were honest -- although it seemed like was too. He was very hurtful and probably just wanted quick a$$. If it helps start looking around again for someone else. The process is hard. Once you find someone and have fun with them he might realize what he lost and come back into the scene. Then its up to you on that subject or its another topic on this site. :-P good luck - A month ago
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Yeah.. me too. I feel better now that I said it. I'm less confused. but I'll still want things the way they where but it's not my choice were just best friends. And we can jsut take it from there and if something comes up later about us dateing then I will just have to try it but until then . well he still crosses the line of caring too much but I don't know maybe that's just how he is. and I did ask if he did that with any of his other friends who are girls and he said sometimes yes. sooo, I don't know whatever! - A month ago
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Your expecting too much. You say your good but your feelings are all over the place and want it how it used to be which is normal at this time. But its too much. It seems like you are hoping to become boyfriend / girlfriend again. But he rather just be the friends with benefits which for him is better when it really isn't. And trust me nothing good comes out of that. That isn't love that is being used. Try venturing out and looking for another person that will care for you and admire you for who you are. - A month ago
Yeah, thast what I thought but I know some guys can turn the tables. but he defently said last night that. well okay asked if " so is this leading to a fwb?" his reply " no I don't thikn that would be good for us" So I guess I'll have to see what happens... - A month ago
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