How can I get him back?

Sorry that you feel so hurt over this guy.

You are 18, just about to go into college. You dated the guy for two months. And because you would not put out, he left you, is clearly through with you, and has moved on.

I bet he was nice, but that was just him charming you, trying to influence you to sleep with him. In those two months, he never showed his true side to you. That's why he left so quickly, guys that young who lie can only put a front on for so long. Then they get sick of the front because it's not working, and plain give up.

If you believe in not having sex yet, then follow your belief and don't waver from it. This guy is a jerk, and you will be soon surrounded by many men. In high school, the odds of finding someone decent were very hard, I'm sure. In college it gets better. A lot of the freshmen guys are still going through high school nonsense, so try to distance yourself from them. As a freshmen, try to learn as much as you can without engaging into a serious relationship. More over, don't fall for anyone, keep yourself level headed, and do more observing of the person than thinking of them.

You're a good girl, and you deserve better. Allow yourself to find it, don't settle.

Good luck!

Why do you want him back? Think about this:

1) He claims to be too busy for a relationship. Now, this is rare, but it could be true. Let's assume for a second that it is true. You're playing second fiddle to. whatever comes first.

In my own case, I own my own business. That comes first. Not to say that my priorities don't change, but I have to work at making the money so that I can afford to do things with my significant other. I understand that it shouldn't be at the cost of the relationship, but work does come first for me.

If it's not true, then you've got a person who lied to you in order not to spend time with you. So an excuse came first. Do you want that?

2) He's ignoring you. Now, if you're the type of girl who is calling 4-5 times a day, then you need to cut way back. This would be almost to the point of stalking, in my opinion. I had a girlfriend who did that, and then when I wouldn't pick up all the time, she was mad, and accusing me of not being there for her, when I would be, but not for a half hour conversation each time, and not for her to insult me for that period.

As long as you're being reasonable, and not harassing him, then he's acting a bit silly, and personaly, I would hope you'd feel like you could do better than someone who ignores you a lot.

3) Be cautious believing certain friends. Listen, but you might give him the benefit of the doubt, mind you, that is on the condition that he has earned it.

To me reading from my POV, I wonder if he has truly earned it. It could be a sister. Could be a friend. If he's being way too affectionate, then he's checked out of the relationship. And if he doesn't think he has, then he's cheating, and frankly, even without knowing you personally, I know you deserve better, provided you've acted honorably with him during the relationship.

I've got the nagging suspicion that he's moved on. And I doubt you should take him back.

As far as I know, a break means that you're taking the time to think things through, focus on other things; it doesn't mean you're completely single again. He should have had the guts to officially "break it off" with you instead of saying "break." A break happens when I'm super busy and my life it crazy at the moment, and I can't handle the seriousness at the moment. It doesn't mean I get to hook up with someone else I've been eyeing. -

A guy with a plan like that. it just seems like the priorities are at least a little off kilter. I didn't die because I didn't have sex. College didn't mean I had to have sex. College isn't an excuse to have sex. It's the improving yourself as a person and getting a deeper understanding of things as WELL as some of the fun that goes with being young and in college. I had fun, but I studied. You don't need to be with a guy who's just looking to get into a girl's pants (any girl at all!), and you don't need to be that girl.

There are guys who will treat you better. Trust me on this one. Good luck.

First of all, take some time to think about what you want. Do you really want to be with someone who you think wants sex but you want to wait and is willing to break up because of that? Sounds like he's very immature from ignoring your calls and the break up. My advice for you is to just better yourself as a person, do things you enjoy, and have fun.