My ex girlfriend and I lived together for about a year. I have to admit that she cheated on her husband with me and left him to be with me. Everything was wonderful between us until I moved in.
From the beginning, I knew she was sad from hurting her ex-husband. I tried very hard to understand, but at time I did get a little jealous when I knew she was thinking about him.
As time went on, I was called to active duty with the NGto go to Iraq. After 3 months I was DQ'd because of an injury. When I cam home I didn't have a job. She told me not to worry about money because she wanted me to take time and find something I really wanted to do. However, about 2 wks later she started worrying about paying bills. So I took the first job offer. Because this job didn't pay very much, took on a second part-time job (bartending). As time went on the arguing got worse.
She would complain about me not having much money, always being tired, and not able to spend time with her because of not having money or working all the time. I told her this part time job would only be until about Nov. after paying some bills off.
Our relationship got to the point that we were arguing every other day. I felt the whole time she has resented me for coming into her life an "causing her divorce." Believe me I do feel very bad for that because I know it was wrong. However, I really did fall deeply in love with her. About the middle of June she started going to Clifton, TN (at the river) with her best friend at her parents getaway place. I couldn't go unless she asked me to ahead of time so I could request off of work at my second job. Anyway, as the time went by, I noticed some changes in her attitude (even though we argued alot) by snapping at me or ignoring me. My intuition told me that she was cheating on me. I bluntly asked her, but of course she denied it. Well on the weekend of Jul 4th, I went to find out after she told me she was going to OH with her mother. I was right, she went to the river with her friends.
After confronting her, she of course cried and told me how sorry she was. She admitted she was wrong, but liked the attention from this guy who was her best friend's boyfriend's friend. I told her I wanted to for giver her and move on. She did say that this cheating happened two weekends, but she is not talking or seeing this guy. Two days later, we got in an argument which was my fault because of the lack of trust I have now. I asked her to please give me time. She then said that it would be best that I left She said that she still wants to see me and that she now just wants to miss me. I called her the next day (crying) and apologized for all of the times that I hurt her (emotionally). I asked again if she is seeing this guy. She swears no. But I have not heard from her in 3 days. I think she is seeing him. I miss her so much. Does she miss me? How can I get her back even if she is seeing this guy? Please help my heart hurts.
To be honest man turn and walk away from her, the way I see it if she cheated on her husband and divorced him for you, she'll do the same thing to you when she sees something better. To put you on the spot I have to ask if you've ever been truly happy because I know after a woman cheats and admits to it there is always suspicion in the backs of our minds right? so all I can truly say is follow your heart and your mind and if your minds running your heart will soon understand why.
what do you do when the guy you really really like. talks to you every time he sees you then just quits all of a sudden. and then find out he lied...
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(Age:30 to 35)
When: A month ago
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