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My girlfriend is moving away and she insists on us breaking-up.

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Anonymous User (Age:18 to 24)     When: 4 months ago
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My girlfriend and I have been doing fine for the last couple months but now she's moving away, out of the city. She called me up 2 days ago and told me to meet her up. We met up later that evening. She sat me down and told me that she was moving away. I was shocked and obviously speechless.

Now, I have never been in a long distant relationship but since my girlfriend and I have always had good communication, I figured we can still continue to see each other. She insists that we break up. She says that she can't keep a boyfriend if she's no where near him. I have already assured her that we can work this out and still stay together, no need to mess up our relationship. However, she is determined to break-up. I really do have feelings for her, that's why I am even taking my time to think about this situation. My gf, on the other hand, isn't so honored toward our relationship.

My question is, what do I do? Do I agree with her and break-up or should I spend more time in bieng persuasive toward her? Any answers are appreciated.

Thanx in advance.

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wildd (Age:18 to 24)      When: 4 months ago
I think your girlfriend is right in her own terms, and you are right on your terms. It would help if you looked at this in a different way: meaning, if she is moving away, to her the idea of a long term relationship is intimidating and she obviously doesn't feel ready to continue. On the other hand, I would recommend you talk to her about your feelings so she knows that you truly care about her and how much you want to be with her. Explain to her how and why you would like to continue with this relationship . If she still insists on breaking-up, than I would say: go along with it and let it happen.

Would you be happy with a forced relationship, if your girlfriend obviously doesn't want to be with you? I can see why you would want this to continue, but if the other side isn't clicking than its better to just let things happen. I hope everything works out for you and don't worry, even if it ends, you'll eventually get over it. Perhaps find someone better.

Goodluck.
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993099142 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 4 months ago
I think you should let her be and break up with her as she is not satisfied with the amount of time and affection she can have with you being so far away so try to find someone closer. It's a two way street.
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wish121 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 4 months ago
i think your girlfriend is right. If she doesn't feel that a long distance will work then she probably isn't willing to put the work into it. I think you would be saving your self some heartache because if you two don't break up then your probably going to be wondering who she's hanging out with? not because your jealous but because its normal. and seeing as she really doesn't want to make it work then it probably wont. You seem more invested in the relationship then she does. why put your self through that? well hope that helps
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princess25sarah
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princess25sarah (Age:18 to 24)      When: 4 months ago
If you love someone you make it work. No matter what. You obviously believe that, you just have to convince her. If she doesn't get it then she probably doesn't feel the same way.
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Katie88 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 4 months ago
I would ask her why she doesn't think you two can work. Ask her if it's really worth losing you. I mean unless she's moving super far away I don't understand. I would try to make things work but, if you notice she just continues to pull away then let her go because you deserve someone who wants you back. Good luck!
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Just-A-Random-Guy
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Just-A-Random-Guy (Age:18 to 24)      When: 4 months ago
Sorry, but logically speaking it's better it happen now rather than later.
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dohcrwd
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dohcrwd (Age:25 to 29)      When: 4 months ago
is she going away for college?
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bigboii6655 (Age:18 to 24)      When: 4 months ago
I know it may be hard to separate from someone you care so deeply for but you should respect her opinion on this difficult situation.

You seem like a loving and caring boyfriend which is why I have sympathy for you.
I think you should talk to her in continuing to stay together and seeing each other once every 2 weeks or something like that would not be too bad.
Some long relationships are successful, yours seem to have a potential to be so. But You and her both must come to an agreement or understanding.

But, if she persists on breaking up, you have to respect that decision. In this case, you should not make her feel worse then she already does, she obviously cares enough about you to sit down and talk about it. I hope for the best for your relationship.
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badass (Age:18 to 24)      When: 4 months ago
She is not that interested in you. Dump her, find you one that will truly care for you. This way it would be mutual from both sides. I'm sure you have heard: There is plenty of fish in the sea.
Also, if the break up is difficult for you, hit up the gym (there are always cute girls there). Concentrate on your work, money factor is important for a guy.
So you'll be pulling other girls in no time.

Don't sweat it! It is always important for a man to have a caring girlfriend or a wife.
Her loss.
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