Getting over a broken heart

Well, you have two options here; forgive him and stay with him, or forget him and move on. Neither is easy. This is something you will have to decide, and work out with him. Since you have been with him for ten years, he's like a husband to you. If married you would probably be considering a divorce. Good luck, whatever you decide to do.

I have been with the same guy for 4 in a half years and I will be 19 years old in a few months. So, you can imagine that I have pretty much been with him every since I can remember. Sometimes when I try to think about how life was when he wasn't in the picture I CANT. I love him more than life and would do anything for him. I'm pregnant right now so things are a little harder but life isn't always so easy.

Well, you should ask yourself first IF you even want to be with him after this? 10 years is along time and I feel SO sorry for you. Sometimes guys don't know exactly what they want so they go try to find out in all the wrong places. People make mistakes but its up to you whether you want to forgive him or not. I have no idea what I would do if I was in your position either. I would be so lost and confused, probably the same as you. Just do what your heart is telling you to do. Ever heard the saying Once a Cheater Always a Cheater? You'll know if he is telling the truth by the look in his eyes. Trust your instinct. And if you don't mind than message me. I'd really like to talk to you :( Sorry you had to go through this. Don't forget to be there for your kids no matter what. They need you more than ever!

Forgive him. he's going through that stage of realizing that he is subdued to one woman. you have children so there is prob. a desire of a sexual need. try some sex. forgive him and allow him in the room and then have sex. but don't make it a normal sex routine. fire up some new things he might realize why he loves you. or let him go but at your age its going to be hard finding some one... make him prove he loves you more.

I was just in the same situation. 7 Years. Start a journal, workout, spend time with your kid's, keep yourself busy. I can't tell you to move on, because it's not that simple to give up your life. If he needs time then so do you to figure out what makes you happy and what he did that made you happy. I won't forgive my ex nor will I take him back. You deserve some you time and time to heal. He needs to stay away for awhile so you can figure out if you want him back not vice versa. I know it's hard that we chose these self centered jerks but, try to learn from it. Get your self esteem back and try to live a happy life for your children.

Ok so he has been cheating on you for a few months and you and him have been together for 10 years. How did you react when you found out? Did he tell you or did you just find out by yourself? If I was in that situation I would have cursed his ass out and I would ask him why did he did that to me, is there something that I did wrong? And if I did, why couldn't he talk to me about it instead of cheating on me and making the problem worse?

And that if he wants this problem to go away the 1st thing he has to do is tell the other woman to leave him alone that you and him have a family to take care of and that he don't want nothing to do with her. If she continues to bother him, go up to her and start talking to her and if she says something smart, then if I were you I would whoop her ass because you can't let no one destroy your relationship.

If you love somebody so much then you would do anything for that person just too keep them with you no matter what happens or what the problem is.

I don't think there is an easy or fast way to heal from this. If it's truly over, you need to let yourself go through the motions, or rather, emotions. Shock, unbelievable pain, sadness, anger, disgust and then fight to bring yourself back to where you were or better than where you were.

You can do it but it will take time. If you can, take a few days with friends or on your own sans kids so you can let go without them seeing and getting scared.

As hard as it may be, don't bash him around them. He's their father and you want to make sure the kids are as sheltered as possible from the pain he's caused - including knowing how badly he's hurt you and/or how much of a bastard shit-f**k he is.

Think to yourself how you are dignified, intelligent, capable and strong. Rise above it all and be a good person despite bad things happening to you and be a great mom.

You will get through it...Good luck