Is it fair?

i have not much advice for you. I have been through a few break-ups with the same girl, and never ever face to face.its always thru sms.so I understand how you feel. there's never a good ending imo. if you are looking for a good ending, those kinds where you can be friends etc, that means that you are hoping he still gives you a chance deep down inside. the reason he was so "hurtful" (to you) about the breakup could be simply because he didn't know what to tell you and couldn't bear to give you any more hope or hurt you anymore. hence the abruptness. by trying to seek closure, you will hurt yourself even more. that's how I tink.yea.hope it helps.

no it's not fair to you,

Life isn't about happy or sad endings, it just goes on.

If it makes you feel better, write him a letter saying how hurt you are by the way he ended things, but make it short and to the point, don't give him more importance that what he deserves and above all do not insult him in any way.

Even if he did break things up as nicely as he could, it is still a breakup for whatever reason. Just focus on getting yourself over him as quickly as you possibly can and move on with your life.

Good luck

That's amazing that anyone would do that after 2 years. Although I have heard similar stories, always when the problem is he's met someone else and just can't face the woman with that, too embarrassed and I think ashamed as well. I'm assuming that's what happened here as well.

Personally I don't understand how he can not have TOLdD you what was happening face to face! He could have just said he wanted to break up and didn't want to tell you why. At least you could have seen him when he said it, and you wouldn't have been planning that party!

You have the right to contact him and ask him why but I'd be VERY surprised if it were ANYTHING else! So you may not want to hear it all the same. That may be what he's thinking. It's easier on you not to hear about it. But of course you eventually WILL hear about it, in fact I'm surprised you haven't found out the reason. Or have you?

But of course he knows it's worse ending it like that, without a final goodbye even, and knowing you will probably find out eventually anyway. He knows that's not exactly going to spare your feelings, as you have explained. It's probably even more painful like this than if he had told you there was someone else, right?

That doesn't sound good at all but you deserve more than that. If the break up was very recent then you could contact him and just ask why although be prepared as it could hurt ya more.

Another thing you could do if the break up was like a few weeks ago. You could simply write a letter. Keep writing that letter to him untill you actually have nothing more to write no matter how long the letter goes on for. Seal the envolope and put it in a box in your room and forget about it. it weill help you say what you want to say then in a few years time you'll come across that letter and you'll not have no feelings for hm at all so burn it or keep it which ever.

Something very similar happened to me literally like two hours ago. Only we'd only been together for a year. And we never officially said we were dating in the first place. I found out he was done when he just randomly switched his relationship status on Facebook to "In A Relationship". I talked to him about it immediately after I found out and all he said was he was sorry and it was unexpected. Like that was suppose to help or something.

There's a part of me that so badly wants to yell and scream at him and tell him he's making a mistake. But that part of me is completely irrational and I know it. The deed is done. You let go, you cry, you write your feelings out in a letter you'll never send, and hopefully it will get better.

I agree with Shlei3, the EXACT same thing happened to me. All I did was send an email and attempt to move on with my life. It was hard but it was one of the best things that happened to me, my life has gotten WAYYY better without him, and I know in the near future you will see it that way too. Keep your head up and don't forget that this experience just made you closer to finding the one who won't do you like this! :)

Is it fair? No. But it happened unfortunately. What can you do about it? Well you could send him an email letting him know how you feel. It doesn't mean he's going to respond to it or even read it. But sometimes that's all you can do. Getting closure out of it is not always easy. But use it as motivation to move on. If he after those two years cannot be decent enough to talk to you face to face and allow you to say your peace than it shows what character he has. A text message is not a good way to end things. He chose this unfortunately. I'm sorry.