So my girlfriend broke up with me about a month ago because I "cheated" (ate lunch with a girl and she got kinda touchy and while I didn't get involved I didn't do anything to stop it and her friends got pics on their cells, ect.). Anyways we went back to talking on a regular basis after like 2 weeks and now we're back to our old habit of me pretty much talking to her for 6 hours. (about 7 pm until however long I can distract her from going to bed, she prefers 11 but that's never happened)
Whenever I ask her to go do something with me she doesn't say no but she always has an excuse why she can't. It's not that the excuses aren't believable because I know everything about her and they seem totally legit, it just seems odd that they conveniently appear any time I ask her to do something.
We have homecoming in a little less than a month and I really wanted to go on a few more daters with her before I asked her.
Does she still see the possibility of us getting back together if she's talking to me this much? I don't see her much during school cause of inconvenient schedules.
Update: So I asked her out on Sunday and she said:Her: "umm I really want to say yes.but no offense.if any member of my family sees you on my court I think they would smack you"Me: so it's a no?Her: idkHer: but probably not
2 months ago
Update: So what do I do. I can't get back together with her if she won't go out with me because of her family hating me. And even if I just wait and try again it's always going to go back to her family hating me problem. So what are my options?
2 months ago
Yea she's open to getting back but she'll take her time she wants you to suffer for what you did so if you want her your going to have to 1 give her time and no that doesn't mean stop what your doing. Keep working on getting her back but know it isn't going to happen right away. Two you need to show her you'll never do something that stupid again.! Like that girl that you got the pics with well you need to not talk to her again but more then that you need to have her fiends around when you tell her you wanna be with this other girl your working to get her back and you like her to not talk to you anymore. That should do it good luck
I haven't talked to that other girl since the day it happened, and pretty much my main motivation behind this is that after we broke up and I tried to fix everything she sent me a text saying "I'm sorry, I really liked you, but I just can't trust you right now." The "right now" part really struck me as that she was willing to go for it again if we waited a bit. - 2 months ago
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Yea give her the time she needs. and tell then don't to anything to stop her from trusting you agin. good luck - 2 months ago
Uhm , well I went thought the same thing with my boyfriend . We had formal coming up and he did the same thing but that's not th reason I had broke-up with him . If she shows any sign of still liking you then maybe . I good way to get a girl to wanna go back out with you cause it works for me . Start talking about memories from whenn you guys were going out . To get her thinking how much she loved being together . Good luck !
i agree with wangari7, but if it was me in her shoes, I wouldn't take you back. going out to lunch is one thing, getting "touchy" is another. the whole big deal is that she can't trust you anymore. she may eventually but it will be hard. all you can do is convince her that you really want her and want to be with her.
you hurt here trust. drop all other intests with other potential girls an you will win her heart back. once she see that and how serious youa re with your actions you'll ahve it good as gold.
Tell her this. Tell her you would really like it if you spend some time together. Ask her when would be a good time where she's free to spend time together? Did you two ever talk about the "cheating" incident in detail?
Not really in-detail. She found out what happened through her friends, she asked me about it, and I agreed, and then it was pretty much over. I tried everything to give me another chance (which I obviously didn't deserve) with no luck. I haven't brought it up since because I don't want to ruin what little of the friendship I've recovered by starting an argument. - 2 months ago
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I would really take time with her and basically rework the trust thing. She may come around and she may just not come around. Either way give her time and see where it goes. - 2 months ago
She probably still likes you but still skaken up by the whole thing.If you seem really sorry and seem like you really want to be with her she may come around, but right now I think she's just healing.
So do I just continue talking to her like I am now and asking her to hang every once in a while until she says yes? Or do I actually bring up the topic of what happened and how truly sorry I am? Because I know that if she's not ready and I bring it up then I'd have ruined all the progress I've already made. - 2 months ago
There's a possibility yes but your gonna have to work your butt off and find out why she liked you in the beginning and be that guy again and prove to her that you're trustworthy.
THe problem is that I was always the fun guy to talk to in chem who was never down about anything. I don't have her in any of my classes this year and don't see her on route to any of my classes either. And at lunch she has concert choir 3 days of the week, and clubs the other 2 (she gets lunch during her free 4th). - 2 months ago
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That's a tough one. err... could you change one of you classes to match hers? Or join a club that she's in? Or call her and see if she wants to go somewhere with you - 2 months ago
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It's not just about the periods, the classes we take are completely different too. I'm trying to join a club she's in right now and they do a bunch of field trips and she told me how fun it was gonna be passing time with me on those. - 2 months ago
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Try and meet up with her after school. Like at the mall or something "coincidentally" (don't do it too often or she'll think your a stalker) - 2 months ago
Ok first off, do you really want to get backtogether with a girl who dumped you because you ate lunch with another girl? That's a little extreme behavior. Just something to think about while you consider trying to get back together with her. It might be possible, maybe she just wants to keep you as a friend. Girls love to have guys who will talk to them for hours on end without any attachement. The only way to really know is to go for it. What I can tell you is that there are no signs that she absolutely doesn't want to get back together. Its a possibility.
Also on a side note. I have noticed that asking a girl to go somewhere and asking for a phone number and asking a girl in general for anything overall gets you nowhere. Telling a girl to meet you somewhere, telling a girl to give you her phone number is much more effective. So if you really want to get a few more dates in ask her when she is free and tell her to meet you at said time in said place that will work for both of you. You need to take initiative here; she's not going to.
wow,i think you have much chance to be her guy one more time.What you did was stupid I plead you don't repeat it again.I want to tell that just let her know you are very sarry for what happened and be submissive to her.ladies are too vulnerable and I think you should ask her out a few times .it will work.she needs you bad.
Why bother? You made the mistake of being touchy with another girl, and I wouldn't blame her for being mad at you. At best, I think you two will stay friends - nothing more.
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