What makes getting over an ex more difficult?

I say seeing them again.
After me and my ex broke up every time I saw him, all I could
think about what was all the good things about him. Then
he asked my bestfriend out and I got over that Real quick.

when I knew I needed to move on from some one because they were a total jerk. I wanted to do myself a favor. what helped me and I think would be best for any one trying to get over a break up is to get rid if everything that reminds you of them. out of sight out of mind. if you kept being reminded of them you won't ever be able to forget about them. you don't need to keep reminding yourself why things didn't work out it would just be painful to you. you also need to find peace with yourself and stay positive. it takes time to find that right person and some times you got to go through the pain to experience the joy.

step 1 find peace with yourself and stay positive. Don't ever think its your fault and something is wrong with you. that's not the case you are just meant to be with some one else that will make you happier. everything happens for a reason. know what your worth because if some one doesn't give you the time of day why should you give them yours. There not worth it!

step 2 get rid of everything that reminds you of them.DO IT!. I know its hard but its the best thing for you and after everything you been through why don't you do yourself that favor. Its ok to be friends and have them still be in your life but don't have them as a main focus and talk to them all the time because remember your trying to get over them. at first I would end all communication with them for awhile unless they talk to you if you still want them around. but if it becomes to much for you just tell them you need time/space and your will talk to them when your ready. some people find it hard to move on when that person is always around. if you really want to move on the best thing is to stay away. When there name gets brought up don't say anything. once you start talking about that person one thing leads to another and you get yourself all upset about it when there not worth it. stay off aim, facebook/myspace for awhile. get rid of text messages and photos. Anything that reminds you of them throw it away!

step 3 take your mind off of everything. You had some hard times and would be good to relieve stress and tension so go out and have fun with your friends. Maybe meet a few cuties cause remember you are single now. =]There's so many great and wonderful people out there please don't waste your time on an idiot that doesn't deserve you. there a loser and its there loss remember that. when you really want to move on, you will.

All of the above! An MySpace, and Facebook, and seeing them out, finding they're jacket at your house, etc. All things that remind you of that person are going to make it harder until you are well on your way to over them. For example, I once broke down at the sight of a pool table after a break-up because that had been my ex's favorite thing to do and he had spent most of his time in his garage playing pool. The craziest things can make it harder sometimes.

Their stuff and pictures of you guys around your place - out it in storage! It all goes into a box -it's the only way. Out of sight, out of mind.

if you really love them and been with them for a long time esp still talkin to your ex hat you still feel for makes it even more difficult. So its best to let the ex's go because holdin on just hurts more.

Raw feelings.
If you're not ready to break up, and you still have the same love you had for them before.

All of those things make it more difficult.

One of the biggest is not have closure.

Like having "Shoulda', coulda', woulda's".

Being left with so many questions and so little anwers can really lengthen the time it takes to move on.