I Don't Really Know What To Tell Him

You really Love him! That's a goo thing. We should love everyone including him. That's why you will explain it the way you asked us the question. I love you BUT I'm not right for you and I want to be alone.

Dear Break-up Bebe: Unless he doesn't care it's gonna hurt. But it will hurt more if you drag it out, so just be honest swift and kind.

If he treats you well, then tell him what is missing.most likely it's compatibility and interests that are not the same. He may try to change for you, so you better tell him the truth the first time.

If he treats you poorly, then let him know.it could be possesiveness, clingyness, insecurity, immaturity, disrespectful, body odor(a whole different conversation), not goal orientied, or a control freak.

Either way, tell him the truth and be nice.it will go a long way. He may be angry, because guys don't take rejection well especially if they are trying their best to be with you. Don't try the friend thing because he will hope that you will have a change of heart. Make sure you are not being super picky about your reasons and that this is what you want to do. If you try to go back to him he will think you are playing games. Good luck.

I broke up with a guy earlier this year and told him God did not mean for us to be together. It's true God wants me to be with a good guy, not a jerk! The signs were there! LOL

There isn't any way to break up with him without hurting him. Whenever a relationship comes to an end, unless it's a mutual thing - someone is going to get hurt.

Here is my take on it -

Let him know as soon as possible. No reason to prolong the inevitable, the sooner he knows the sooner he can get over it and move on.

Don't be critical towards him. This isn't a time to pull out a long list of his flaws, it's a volatile situation and there is no reason to inflame high emotions. If he wants to know he did wrong, tell him you're willing to discuss it at a later time when things have calmed down.

Don't get defensive, he may lash out because he's hurting, but it is understandable. I don't know if you've ever been dumped but people say ugly things when they are hurting themselves. It's easier to be angry than feel rejected.

Try to let him know that you still care. It's obvious that you do because you don't want to hurt him.

Let him heal on his own. There is no reason to continuously call him and ask him if he's ok. If he's carrying a torch for you - all it's going to do is send the wrong signals. Give him the space he needs.

Love hurts - that's just life.