I been seeing this guy 2yrs on & off about a yr. this last yr things been really good between us but I just can get him to admit to an relationship he knows that's what I wants, he told me that he knows him, I asked him what that mean I get no answer, when I try to break it off he always say he doesn't want to lose me, or he really wants to be with me. We don't say the L word to each other we only say I have strong feelings. I don't know what else to do. I don't want to break it off but if that's best then it needs to be done. As far as being hurt the damage is already done that why its so hard to let go, can I get some help here? I'm in desperate need right now.
Update: I haven't talk to him in a week he's been calling leaving messages I better call him back soon as possible and who ever I with I better leave and come see what he wants. to a person that can't commit that's a lot of demands do you think?
9 months ago
It sounds like your guy just isn't sure about committing to you. You need to decide if you want to stay with him and continue at this point. You may want to move on. Two years is a long time to not be able to decide where you're going in a relationship, or what you want out of it.
If I was in your position I'd break things off as soon as you can. I was with a guy for 10 years, yes he said he loved me, yet when I would ask things about moving in together he'd say things like I need my space yada yada yada. I finally come to my senses a few months back and ended it and haven't looked back. If a guy can't make some kind of commitment after 2 years, I very much doubt that he will. Move on and get yourself a guy who's worthy of you.
Im going through the same thing. THE L word was never said on his end. 3 days ago I had enough and asked him why he can't show much affection and he said that he doesn't have those feelings for me. I'm so confused because we have broke it off before and he came crawling back begging to be with me, I feel your pain girl, I think you should just ask him. Even though email, it might be easier for him to get his true feelings out. And once you find out how he feels move from there. You will know what to do.
I feel for you, and I can tell you it's like looking in a mirror. That's the same situation I'm in right now. I wish I had some good advice to give you, but really I don't. I can only tell you that you are not alone. I can understand why you stay even though he is not giving you what you need in the relationship. It's so hard to just walk away from someone you have given your heart to. You just keep waiting and hoping that they will decide you are worth it. You are worth it, and you do deserve to have someone in your life who can love you. He needs to know this, then let him make his decision on whether or not it will be him. Good luck with that. And if he decides its not for him, have the strength to walk away, and find that special person who will love you to bits. Thats my plan anyhow.
Ok ladies I wanna know why when your relationship is pretty much down the drain and us guys tell the girl that I think its time we go our separate...
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