My boyfrind left me at 4 months pregnant, I am struggling to cope...

I think it is you who needs a reality check and face what's about to come. He's not going to come back. It's heart wrenching, but it's most likely the truth.

Don't play the "hard to get" game. The time for that was before you got pregnant! Figure out if you have a future together, or move on--you are going to get real busy in 5 months, be nice if you had a man by then.

Why did he move? And did he invite you to move with him?

Tell him to get his shit together, If he is a man he'll come back, actually if he is worth it for you and your baby he will come back if he doesn't f*** him. I didn't leave my girlfriend when she got pregnant I stood by her side, I was there for her to cry on, to talk to, to make her smile, and laugh, and of course buy and cook her food. I later proposed to her not because of the baby because I fell in love with her. If he doesn't come back and short of proposing ( you should propose because you are in love not a baby) should do the same thing I did. If not try, empisize try, its going to be hard, but find a guy who will love you and your child. They are out there.

if he lived in the same state and left you and was calling you id say ignore him for a little bit, but not if he's in a different state, maybe you 2 can work something out for your child, you guys really need to think about that right now!

When you talk to him, only talk to him about the pregnancy. Don't make small talk, don't talk about the relationship or anything like that. If its not about the baby then you don't have time for him. I wouldn't advise just playing hard to get because you are pregnant and you have a baby to think about, but don't let him back in your life romantically so quickly. He should be WAY more considerate to you and not just run off and think he can call you at his convienience. Let him know what he did was screwed up and unless he's talking about what he's going to do as a father you don't wanna hear it. That's his reality check. If you don't stand up for yourself he's just gonna think he can play you so you have to let him know how you really feel. Good luck <3

if you are together as a couple and if it makes you feel better accept his calls still cause remember every emotion that you feel your baby feels that's real.

if you guys are not together then yes cut him off and take this time to get over him so you can be stronger when your baby gets here.and girl before the baby is born have those childsupport papers ready for his ass.

what ever the case may be stay strong and calm for your baby sake. that little person feeds off your feelings and emotions.

YOU NEED TO NOT PICK UP HIS PHONE CALLS! It shows that you are sitting around doing nothing waiting for him... You have the right idea to ignore his phone calls and act not so available then he will be stressing wondering what you are doing who your with do you not care, and that will push him to talk about how he feels... If he still doesn't get his shit together... harsh but true... you don't want your child in the middle of this yo yo relationship and you need to do what's best... and its not all about you anymore its about your baby now too... it can have a yo yo father and be let down or you can move on find a real man and give your baby the best childhood possible.

Ignoring his calls and not being overly available is something you do when your trying to get a guy/just starting to date. YOU'RE 4 MONTHS PREGNANT! DON'T DO THAT! This is no time for playing those kinds of games(even though he is). You don't want to have to be regretful down the road and be like, man, I wish I would have comunicated with him more during my pregnancy.

You need to be realistic, you are hurting yourself, you miss him, you need him in this time. If you truly are busy then don't answer,but other than that there's no need for those childish games. I know you're hurt, but you should not pretend like your not, he needs to see the damage he's doing, he needs to hear in your voice that you need him. You never know, that one time you ignore his call could've been the time he was going to apologize

do whatever possible. Fight for your relationship. If it doesn't work out, at least you'll have the little satisfaction of knowing it's not your fault, you did everything you could.

When you talk to him stay calm. Don't make your pregnancy more stressful than it has to be. Talk to him about how your belly's gettin bigger and you really wish he could see it for himself. Maybe plan to get some professional pictures taken with you, him, and your belly. Even though your not a couple, it is still nice to have something to look back on years from now to show your baby.basically try to show him that this baby is your pride and joy-and he is missing out on a special time. Don't pretend like you don't need him, because I can tell from the tone you miss him so bad.

So.are you off track-maybe just a little although you have good intentions. What are you trying to accomplish by ignoring him? Make him miss you more? Give a reality check? Well-who knows maybe you talking to him happily and telling him interesting stories about what's going on and telling him how excited about the baby comming (okay-maybe this would be exaggerating a bit-but maybe this would encourage him-if you stay stong maybe you'll inspire him). Maybe he'll get the "reality check" that you're doing all these things preparing for the baby
and he should be by your side. This doesn't mean nag-just inform him. I know a lot of people on here might disagree with me. but I hope you get some good ideas from my point of view. good luck

No, tell him to get his sh*t together and act like a man. The definition of a man is a person who will be responsible and take care of his family.

I'de ignore him for while because I would be pissedin your situation, he should get his act together and be there for you. Hopefully he doesn't take too long to have his reality check.

if he just leaves you while your pregnant then he not right for he just going to call you till you have the baby then the only thing you are going to get from him is child support so move on with your life and break up with him or at least wait till the babys out then dump him

I say, just be yourself. If you miss him and you want to talk to him do so. I think it's too much torture on yourself to try to hold back to see if he will come back. Plus it could backfire. Is he helping you in any way?