Went out with a guy for a little while, we moved into the relationship pretty fast. I felt so strongly about him at first, he told me he loved me, I did the same. We spent a lot of time together, felt comfortable around each other, but we hadn't had sex and he knew I wanted to wait. He told me he didn't mind waiting and he would until I felt completely okay with it. He was always so protective of me and extremely paranoid I was going to cheat on him. He also had lots of ex girlfriends, and I mean LOTS.
Our relationship was going really well, just before I went away for Xmas. When I was away, I heard from him very little, compared to his usual call-three-times-a-day. I got back after only 4 days, and saw him. He wasn't as all over me as he usually would be, and he said a few things that really made me think. One being that he got a new tongue ring and 'it's so much better to kiss with'. Two, he wouldn't let me even touch his phone, stating that he 'never lets anyone look at it or go through it', even though we both knew I had gone through it numerous times before. Three, he had many girls over whilst I was away and sort of avoided the subject when I brought it up. In reply to the tongue ring statement, he denied he said it and changed his words to 'it will be better to kiss with' because I had not kissed him yet.
So, then a few days later, I convince him to come into the city with me and a few friends for New Years Eve. He promised me he would, until the next day he says, yeh I might not be able to go into the city with you tomorrow night, I'm not feeling 100%. By this stage, I knew something was up. I try call him that night, trying to figure out what the hell I was going to do if he didn't come, and he answers none of his phones, states that his phone is 'f***ed', yet his best friend tells me he is able to contact him...wtf?!
He calls me the next morning finally and I first say, where were you when I was trying to call your house phone? He then says 'I wasn't home - I mean, I was sleeping'. Yes to me that sounded a little but sus. Turns out, he was too 'sick' to join me in the city that night. I got angry and accused him that he was going to stay home with the boys and get on every drug possible and get off their heads. He said 'Fuck ya, we're over' and hung up.
That was the end of it...Until that night, New Years Eve in the city, I saw his friend. I ask him 'Please be dead honest with me when I ask you this, but did ****** cheat on me?' The friend nodded. I burst into tears as his friend tells me the details. He had been dating her for a week before he dumped me, and when he cheated on me for the first time, they had sex, something he knew I was not ready to give him.
It's been three days. I sink deeper into depression when I realise he has not been hurt by our break-up and doesn't care at all about how I feel. No one is allowed to know about him cheating, and he can not know I know, which is so hard. How do I get over him?
Update: its been a week and 2 days. I still cry every night, I have gone out with friends every day, and yet I cannot stop talking and thinking about him. Every thought comes back to him, every time I see one of his friends, they remind me of him. Nothing helps
10 months ago
Clearly the guy is an arse. He is dirty cheat and he missled you.
Him hidding the new girlfriend may not be as selfish as it could appear. He could have wrongly thought that it would be kinder to end your relationship after new year. Young people do have some strange ideas about the best ways to end a relationship.
You do need to learn from your mistakes. Below are a list of the signs of a trouble relationship. -the relationship moved fast -he told me he loved me (saying I love you less than 3months into a relaitonship if a red flag sign) -he had lots of ex girlfriends -he was secretive about his phone
How to get over him? Just remind your self that the man you fell for, no longer exists, Your Boyfriend behaviour has changed and may have never been an honest behaviour to begin with. When you break up, you need to forgive your self for making mistakes in the relationship. In this case, you need to forgive yourself for allowing yourself to dupped/tricked by this guy.
I don't know the last time this was updated, but I just kind of started this. One of friends has a guy that cheated/ still cheats on her. She refuses to believe it even though she caught him! She is miserable. I truly believe that if you fall in love with someone you never fall out because some part of you will always remember the happy moments and to me that's love. Whever, I do believe a love can change and that everything happens for a reason. This guy broke your heart, insulted your dignity and really embarrassed you. If you get back together it will haunt you. Its better to walk accross the bridge and stay across. It hurts like hell and will for a while. But you are a better person for it. You can now reach out to others. You can live your own life and do what you like. Relax, sit back. Love sucks and Love rules. All in time you will be fine
Yeah well even though this was almost a year ago, there is a lot more that has happened between us. I cut him out, went through a lot of pain.He came back a few months later, I wasn't over him, we started seeing each other and he told me he has broken up with his gf. I find out he hasnt, then we stop talking, then we become friends, then the exact same thing happened again. Then I find out he has been seeing me, his girlfriend and another girl at the same time. And I'm still in love with him. - 18 days ago
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When: 10 months ago
My ex did the same thing to me and it hurt really badly knowing that he wanted some other girl. At first I wanted him back because I thought we were so good together and he was perfect for me. Then I realized he never would have hurt me so badly if he really was the person I thought he was. He also lied to me about the other girl and still tells me she was just a friend and it still bothers me that he won't be honest even though I have so much proof that he was with her.
Anyway, what I did was cut off contact completely with him and spent time with friends and focusing on school. It helped me to see that he was not my whole life and there was so much in my life to be happy for. However, after cutting of contact he went mad trying to figure out what was going on in my life and did everything he could to get back in touch. Now he's left the girl he left me for and wants to have sex with me all the time. I am not completely over him yet so I have given into him (as he knows exactly what I like). I know now I have to get him out of my life again and keep him out until I am over him.
So if you want to move on, just keep thinking about what a jerk he is for doing what he did to you and don't see him, talk to him, call him, text him, nothing until you are over him. If you have a strong urge to get back in touch then call a friend instead, go out and leave your phone at home.
You should be able to get over him quick just to know that he cheated and was treating you in a way that you never seen before. Remember this the way he got into that relationship will be the same way he leaves out of it. Karma, is a B**** you cannot go around hurting a person and think that you will get away with it. That guy is going to hurt him the same way he hurt you or worser than that. Be patient good things come to those who waite you deserve a man that is better than him he will come do not rush it. Take care! PRAY!
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