I broke up with him twice because of long distance. First time, I asked him back next day. Second time, we almost got back together, but I stalled. When I finally got around to asking him, he didn't want to get back together because of the long distance issue.
I called him in mid-December and ended up telling him that I missed him and was having trouble moving on. He was drunk, however, and we decided to meet up sometime when we're back at college because it was winter break.
He messaged me before leaving for break. Talked to me online during break. Then there was no contact for a few weeks. He went back to school. I'm still on break.
Today I texted him to see how he is doing and asked if he wanted to meet up beacuse I wanted to catch up. He said "that would be good."
Is he just being friendly? He MUST know that I still have more-than-friends feelings for him from my actions. He is a really nice guy, so I feel like I am taking advantage of him or pressuring him into meeting up with me.
I also broke up because I hated him going through the hassle (time and distance) of meeting up with me. I wish I could let him go. I have tried, but I can't. I had no idea that I even liked him this much. I can't seem to help myself.
If it didn't work out while you were together, what makes you think things will change after you get back together for the third time? It won't change a thing, you should move on.
If the guy is willing to make the hassle to see you then it is not one. It seems that you are well worth his time and effort for him to keep coming to you each time. Distance is rough, but if he is willing to make the effort to see you, I'd say let him keep coming.
Well he isn't. He didn't call me today as he promised. I'm not even allowed to get mad. I guess this is his way of telling me he doesn't want to meet up with me. I need to finally respect his decision. He doesn't want to be with me, just an acquaintance. - 7 months ago
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Yeah I Would tend to agree with you, sorry if its not what you want to do. - 7 months ago
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Why couldn't he just tell me outright? Why does he have to do the asshole thing and purposely ignore me? - 7 months ago
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Am I looking too into it? - 7 months ago
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Maybe he doesn't know any other way, or maybe this is his mask for his real feelings - 7 months ago
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Well I texted him yesterday and he called me and wanted to meet up yesterday, which is not a possibility. I am thinking of abandoning the entire effort now. I'm not sure if he wants to get it over with (meeting up) or wants to see me, too. - 7 months ago
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I think that would be the best situation for the both of you. Dropping the situation would help to save both of you a lot of heartache, and if there is a lot of feelings its going to be an awkward situation for each of you. - 7 months ago
To have a long distance relationship is very hard. It takes money to see the person, lots of letters and phone calls, a ton of commitment and 2 very strong hearted people who are very in love to hold it all together. If you are serious about being with him you need to tell him this and stop breaking up with him for the same reason. You can't just break up with him 2 3 and 4 times for the same thing and keep running back when you miss him. Doing this pushes him away and he will feel forced to just let you go. You need to take some time to yourself and think what you really want through. After college can you see yourself marrying this guy? Could you see one of you moving away from home to live with each other? Question yourself and think about it long and hard and then talk to him about it and don't be afraid to tell him the details. But for his sake.. don't keep breaking his heart over something like long distance... it's not fair to him.
I sincerely want to be with him. Well he was supposed to call me today to discuss the specifics of us meeting up, but he never did. I guess he is trying to send me a message, just not explicitly. I know I need to let him go.
I think I should let him go - 7 months ago
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I'm really sorry to hear that. If he can't even keep a promised phone call to you maybe he's not worth it. In your heart he is.. but in reality you can do better than that it just takes time. - 7 months ago
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It's been 3 months. Why can't I just move on??? He must just pity me. Do you think that's why he agreed to meet up? Because he's too much of a coward to tell me outright he doesn't want to meet up? I hate that I even care or wonder what he's thinking. - 7 months ago
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If you distance yourself from him and do other things with yourself you will be able to let him go and start thinking about him less and less. It's just a matter of time like everything else. Eventually you will meet someone better than him :) - 7 months ago
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What pickup lines do you use to start a conversation with someone you are attracted to?
- Excuse me Miss, I was watching you from over there and I have to say that I just love your smile. It makes me happy just to just sit and watch you smiling. Could you please do that again?
(she hopefully smiles and gives up a sweet happy laugh)
- Oh dear, you just made my day - both a lovely smile and a lovely laughter! Thanks for making my day, Miss.
How do they typically respond?
Well, to be honest I haven't tried it yet since I almost never go out nowadays, but I wouldn't hesitate it I was to be in this situation. The way I do it, I would not be pushy or anything. After my last comment I would probably leave her for now, but try to bump in to her again later that evening, smile and ask for that lovely laugh again. And then maybe, we can start to have a conversation.
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 7 months ago
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