My girlfriend and I have been together only 9 months. She has lots of issues such as Bipolor, depression. She has been taking meds for it and can control it most the time. The meds were not working and she needed to get a stronger one, but before that we had a large argument and broke up with her, she was way out of line at that time. That night she was up crying about it bc she was sorry for what happened. Then she told me that 3 months ago she got really drunk and slept with my best friend.
It was a one time thing and the day after that she broke up with me not giving me a good reason and was going to kill herself. She tried once 2years ago, and he doctors said she wasn't going to make it but did so I know she can do it again. She was so upset for what she did she couldn't look at me or even live with it bc of how much she loves me.
Her roommate talked her out of killing herself and after a few days of her asking me back I did. Now that I know what happened and broken up she is begging me back again. Its been a week and she has done nothing but cry and been begging me back. Her mom found suicide notes under her bed bc she can't live without me. She says she loves me and only happy with me and that I was her everything. She is very sorry and very upset by the whole thing.
This is the first time I have ever been cheated on and I don't know what to do. I miss her as well and love her alot. But I have a lot of different feelings and don't know what to do. Is she really sorry for it and I shouldn't worry about it ever happening again? Or should I let her go?
Update: Just found out that after that night she slept with him one more time to see why she did that and if I meant anything and told me that it didn't. I mean wtf? does that make any sense?
7 months ago
Dude what are you doing with this chick? You sound like a pretty nice and genuine guy and you deserve someone that appreciates that in you.
Sometimes people come into our lives to teach us something about ourselves or because that's the energy level that we are attracting at this point in time.
But it seems like you guys are on two totally different playing fields right now and I think your life will be so much better off without her in it.
She slept with your best friend. Twice. She's not confused, she's a bit of skank. Sorry to say
How much are you going to put up with? This depression thing (and not meaning to take it lightly) in many ways is used a something to get you HOOKED back in again
She is using guilt to keep you close, without really letting you in
Do you think that someone who does that really cares about you.
I reckon the best thing you can do, is to tell her to get help, get better and then when she is back to normal again you can think about having a friendship with her
Until then, don't bloody call her or contact her. You deserve so much better man!
If you don't want to get back together with her don't let her bipolar disorder make you get back together. She cheated on you and that's unforgivable. You could be friends with her or cut her completely out of your life but the next time you break up will be even worse and she might actually kill herself then. After that how could you live with yourself knowing you're the reason she's dead?
She is dependent on you and will never get better if you enable it. She cheated. If you can forgive that then that is great. But, having someone depend on you so much, and say they want to die? You need to step back and look at the whole picture. Do you want that on your shoulders? She needs help. She needs to join a group where she can talk about her issues. Putting that much pressure on you is not healthy. So No, I would not go back to her. Be her friend down the road, but do not enable her. Just be a friend. I would speak with her Mom if she is that bad off. She needs help and its not the help you can give her.
LET HER GO! I used to work in a psychiatric ward with these type of people, and if anything, those drugs they give out, are nothing but more trouble. Whatever drug she is taking, look it up, and google it with suicide or side effects, and you will see how the drugs most likely screw her even more. So even if you were to get back with her because you felt sorry for her, or maybe you do have feelings for her, later on, as she continues taking these drugs, she will find another reason to commit suicide.
Of course, people will tell you to stay, be supportive, whatever. All I can tell you is, good luck with that my friend. Good luck with that.
If I were you, I would try to help her by maybe weaning her off the drugs she is taking, but of course, that most likely won't happen cause then if something happens to her, you will get blamed for it....so, best thing to do is move on, and find a girl that is not taking any drugs, or has bipolar problems... I know this is a harsh and politically incorrect answer, but you're too young to commit yourself to this type of lifestyle. How does her life or presence enhance your life?
The important thing right now is to support her as a friend through her depression and such. Since, her depression directly affects your relationship though, I would suggest helping her get back on her feet, and just giving her moral support for now. If she can pull herself together and get over her mistake, then you could keep your relationship together as well.
As far as the cheating goes, it sounds like your gf has low-self-esteem, as well as other issues and the cheating might have stemmed from that. If you can forgive her for that and trust her again then you can try being supportive and working through it.
Whatever you decide, remember don't feel obligated to keep up the relationship because your gf is suicidal. She needs a supportive friend more than anything right now, and the ups and downs of a relationship will be harder on her. Concentrate on getting her help, and just being a good friend for now, and later make a decision based on what you want.
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