Me and my boyfriend have been together for 1 year and I barely found out I was pregnant now I want to have an abortion cause I don't want it. I am young yeah I know I didn't think of that when I was having sex but now I don't know what do, what should I tell him I don't want to lose him ever.
Well you can explain you are not ready yet unless you both want a child and it sounds like you don't so you can talk about abortion or having the child and giving it up for adoption and when you are ready down the road try to re-claim your child but best thing is try and talk with him and maybe find help outside of the family circle to ask question about it.
Well it's your body if you want to do it then I guess you have a final say. You ex must want kids otherwise why have unprotected sex. Well you should talk to him and say you can have kids later and now is not the right time. Unless your ex is rich and wants to take care of you and the baby. Otherwise I am sure if you say having a baby is a hard thing limits college and work plus day care costs a lot but that's all up to you.
I would say go ahead with the pregnancy and see how things develop. The worst case scenario, you put the child up for adoption.
I think your boyfriend is upset that you want an abortion, some guys take it personally as they think you don't want to have that kind of commitment with them, or that they are worth dating, but not good enough to reproduce with. Also, maybe he really loves you and was thinking about getting married with you one day, and kids would have been party of that idea.
Good Luck making your decision and hopefully he sticks by you no matter what decision you do make.
I also forgot to add, having an abortion at a young age can make future attempts at getting pregnant more difficult. The next few attempts at being pregnant after the abortion might end with a miscarriage or some other problems... - 10 months ago
Ok so just tell him that your pregnant and discuss the options
First tell him that you honestly would like to get an abortion, tell him why you want one, if he doesn't agree with you ask him what would he rather you do and if he says have the baby then tell him it definitely would need to get put up for adoption and tell him your reason for not keeping it(even if he wanted too) but his opinion does matter because it is his baby too so you should consider what he wants
Don't get an abortion. Look at other options such as adoption. Why don't you tell him and you guys decide together. Don't jump to conclusions, he might want to keep it and see what happens. Abortion isn't the answer when you get pregnant, It isn't a form of birth control.
Very true. But, keep the baby and see what happens? It's not a toy you can return to the store if you don't like it or get bored. She has to face her responsibilities. - 9 months ago
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Never said the baby was a toy. If she keeps it and life turns out great, then it was worth it. If she decides she can't do it, then adoption is an option. Babies aren't toys. - 9 months ago
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Am just scared of everything at this point am moving with my parents to texas and then my ex boyfriend doesn't want 2 b with me because I want an abortion I know babys aren't toys but what should I do I wouldn't want 2 put it up on adoption - 9 months ago
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Have you talked to your Parents? You need to talk to them even if you are afraid. They will accept you no matter what. - 9 months ago
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I guess they well accept me am there daughter and its not like if am a bad person I finished school at 16 years old and trying to start a career so I guess ill let them know - 9 months ago
You're seventeen, so you've got plenty of time on your hands to find someone new. Ask yourself one very important question. Would you rather be with a guy who doesn't respect your decisions or be stuck with a kid? Then again, you realize that abortions are very expensive, right?
I personally wouldn't get an abortion. You could keep it and see how being pregnant is and see from there but maybe try to explain how you feel to him. my friend went through the same thing, she wanted an abortion because she was scared but she is keeping the baby and she has never been happier, she is younger than you but she is going to take it one day at a time. Even if after the pregnancy you decide not to keep it you can give it up for adoption.
Hunni I seriously do agree with you about being not ready and yes people can say to you. You have to face up to your consequences of having sex without contraception but thoughts people aren't thinking about you or the baby at all our only young you feel your not ready well then you are not ready and yes there is adoption but I think in my personal opinion that can be more hard than abortion! A baby does not deserve to be brought into a world if that world is not going to be the best it possibly can be for it! Have an abortion if that's what you want its nothing to be looked down upon on! But if you do have one have it early because not a lot of places allow it after certain stage! Your boyfriend is probably hurt by this but you are not ready and he isn't the one going to be carrying it and looking after it 24/7 he has to see it from your point of view and contraception isn't all down to you its his fault as well! I'm not saying have an abortion or saying don't! But I'm saying you are very young would it not be better to wait until your older and have a career and loving stable partner and a home of your own where you can provide everything the baby needs! Just have a long think about what YOU want to do! Do not let anyone talk you into having an abortion or talking you into not just do what you feel is right for you and the baby! Good luck <3 xxxx
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