Getting him back?

Ask if he wants to meet for lunch.

That way, you're not spilling your guts to him, and if he's possibly interested in reconnecting, he'll take you up on the offer.

workin on this right now lol. But in a little different way. I believe you need to just go with the flow. We both stated we wanted to stay close friends which is exactly what I'm doing right now. Its important not to get caught up and stuck cause what if he's not..hence the 'go with the flow" I'm not necessarily looking for a new guy cause I kinda want him to realize what we had...but you need to make sure if something comes your way don't just shove it away. I'm talking to him ...a little less...making him work for it and show me e WANTS to talk to me. So it's kinda the lose contact but not as harsh...At least in my situation I don't feel like that's the best route. I think it's better to be that friend ..that companion that's there when they feel sad or mad or need someone to turn to. I'm hoping eventually they will see what they lost...but who knows...im trying..but at the same time protecting my heart...so I say go with the flow...dont try so hard or else if it doesn't work it will hurt more..best of luck

I am a strong believer in the no contact route. It sounds weird, and when I first heard about it I didn't see how it could work but now I think its the best way to go.

Tell your ex you need some time and space for yourself and you can't have contact with him for a while to move on. Then, disappear for a month. He will start to think 'oh no! she is moving on, I have lost her' and want to fight to have you back. It is really hard to do, especially if your used to talking to him often, but its just so effective.

if it wasn't a bad breakup and he's changed for the good, then text him/ call him to see how he's doing and talk about it