Does my ex girlfriend want me back?

If you really feel this way, maybe you should ask her why she refused you.

she deffinatly wants to be with her but it sounds like you need to talk to her cause somthing mentaly is getting in her way of being with you she's worried about somthing I did the same thing to my x cause of menntal things just talk it out with her

I think she may not trust you. And she does miss your company. But you guys should not have ex-sex. lol It will confuse you or her. You first should straighten out the problem... and what you feel. You guys love each other but you don't know if her love is the same as yours. You want to get back with her but you say she doesn't want you. Yes, it's also your fault for cheating on her which may give her the feeling that she doesn't know if she should trust you because people do believe cheaters will always be cheaters. If you know you won't ever do that again, then make sure you never do. You know what you can lose which is this girl you are giving your heart to. Now you paid the consequence and she is not saying yes.

I don't think she used you though. I think she may still love you but I do believe she feels like she doesn't know if you are the same guy who will cheat on her. Once that happens, a person doesn't know what to believe. It's hard to forgive someone who hurts them anyway possible: emotionally, physically, mentally, etc. They will still love you and have those special memories, especially if she really wants to see you and kiss you and have the guts enough to say she loves you, but she needs to see that you wouldn't make that mistake and you dearly love her. It's up to her to make the decision since you already gave your answer that you want to work it out. I think she still is hurt about the situation.

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I think you should wait.
But while your waiting, ask her why she claims to love you but doesn't want to get back with you, she might give you a reason that will clear things up for you.
She could be afraid that you might cheat on her again. She might be sayiing no as a defensive tactic to not get hurt again.
You need to show her you really care about her and you really want to spend the rest of ur life with her. Prove to her that you really love her, and she might change her mind.
And if she came back to you after 7 years, even though you cheated on her, then she really must still have feelings for you.

maybe she just wants dick=/

maybe she is just afraid of getting hurt again..and maybe she just can't accept of not having you around..7 years is no joke..but it doesn't mean she still loves you..

prove to her that you've changed..she wants you to regret very badly what you've done..

a girl might smile..but in the end of the day..the pain of a cheater never really goes away..

That is so cute...But you did mess up buddy. It sucks big time to get cheated on. It sounds to me like she still loves you. Maybe you should pull out all the stops to get her back and to show her you really want her back...therapy, flowers, nice dinners, just quality time...she has to know you mean that your sorry and feel like she won't be making a mistake when she gets back with you...

What you need to do is talk with her about what she wants in life, what goals she has, what she wants to accomplish in her life before settling down, and you should tell her the same things. What are the things that you want, how long are you willing to wait for some things, or put a hold on others? Just something to think about. You may think you know her well enough, but just get to know her better and better all the time, and she will steer clear of this other guy. I hope it works out for you, but as long as you communicate your feelings with her, and figure out what hers are, you should be fine.

You know what you could do the best thing in the world for her by never talking to her again. Cheaters drive me crazy and she certainly deserves better than getting cheated on!

I don't often say this to guys, but she is using you dude. Move on.

7 years is a long time, so she should easily know if you're "the one" or not. If she doesn't know by now it's time to move on. Remember that girls like to be pursued (sp) and at this point you may want to have a serious discussion with her about what's going on and if that's why she is sending mixed signals. If it is, tell her to stop it. If now, find out what the real issue is.

Another side to this is you. If you are overly clingy or human super glue towards her, you may be making her uncomfortable. Ask her. Remember, 7 years... That's more than enough time to be able to be completely transparent with each other.

Also, once in a while, maybe once a month, ask her if you do anything that bugs her. Do this when there isn't an arguement going on and everything is pretty sedate because this could lead to some conflict, but I think it needs to occur. Otherwise couples just pile up stuff that irks them and they explode them all at once in an arguement.

This should be simple stuff like your alarm is too loud or you drink too much, or you nag her. etc. It's the whole point of asking. It's to see if there are things you do that are annoying that you would happily change or finding out if there are things that you do that are annoying that are not going to change. From that, compromise can ensue.

An example could be that you work out too often or spend too much. You could choose to reduce them slightly or point out a contradiction. She can't say you spend too much on a car stereo if she spends $100 a month on her hair, gets a pair of shoes once a week etc. The point isn't to argue, but it is to show that both of you can either compromise or both of you can just accept that there are going to be things about each other that aren't ideal. That's true of all couples.

Enjoy your weekend.

-mike