Why do I find it hard to picture myself with someone who is not my same ethnicity?

I actually have the opposite issue. I prefer to date guys who are not in my culture. I was born & raised here in Canada there's just so many races to choose from. I like learning a lot about different cultures. My parents actually prefer me to date within our culture. I disagree with them though. I don't blame them, since they grew up with traditional mentality. You never know who you might meet. Skin to me is just a covering. If you happen to find that one person that captures your heart, ethnicity should not be an issue. Even though you might have had a bad experience with one person from a particular race, it doesn't mean everyone from that race acts the same. Its like the old saying "you can never judge a book by its cover"

What ethnicity are you? Some races just have a really strong culture & find it easy to be with people of their own race because there are a lot more similarities. It doesn't mean your racist or anything. Your probably just used to dating people of your own race. It sounds like you guys get along, and your attracted to her, so maybe give dating her a shot & see how it goes. It might not be for you OR you mind find that its way better than you thought. There's really nothing to lose.

Hmm well if you would have sex with her you should be able to have a relationship with her. She may be a sweet gal. One question is your family against new ethnicities into the family? That is a big one for most people. They don't want to disappoint their folks. So they don't follow their heart.

I'm originally white - my ancestors and descendants were Spaniards, Iranians and Russians but the part where I'm from is basically separated from Russia its called the Caucasus Mountains, Spaniards are not Hispanics - totally different ethnicity because all Spaniards by nature are white not dark-skinned. But I never really liked my own ethnicity partly because white guys to me are crazed-sex maniacs but then again which guy isn't (no offense) anyway basically I always liked Hispanics, African-Americans or someone else other than white - when I was younger I had this huge crush on a Dominican and the thing is to me somehow guys from different ethnicity (Hispanics mostly) - they somehow respect women although I hear otherwise maybe because I grew up among Hispanics all around me but that's how it is I mean only now I found somebody I'm actually really attracted to who is white and can't even get up the nerves to say hi actually I can say hi but I can't tell him I'm interested in him anyway your problem may be partly because maybe you hear all these stories about Hispanic women (there are people who say such things as all Hispanic women are sluts) which is not true I have so many friends who are from Puerto Rico, Dominican Republic, Honduras, El Salvador, Ecuador, etc. And none of them are like that or maybe your not attracted to them probably cause your afraid to get to know them that if by any chance you do get married to one of them you might get divorced or something I mean maybe its this fear that you have I mean try to ask her out see what happens it can't hurt! Your friends right would you rather date someone who's crazy and got issues or someone who wants a committed relationship?

I have wondered this about my guy friend. If we got together it would be an interracial relationship, but because of this and other issues we did not get together when we could have. Now he is dating a jacked up looking girl of his ethnicity who looks like trash. She has a child and I think she is looking for a father for her kid. My guy friend is very successful for his age and has everything going for him.

But he would choose to be with a piece of trash, that he hardly knows, that will give him sex (even though he says they aren't having sex) and may be using him to secure a future if she just happens to get pregnant she will own his business and he will do the right thing and marry her, than to be with me who loves him and is committed to him and wants to marry him. That is a question I want an answer to also.

You must be a tall, handsome guy. Gaining a woman's interest is about as difficult as gaining a stable career job in the auto industry in Michigan. If a woman is interested you, I say return the interest regardless of her racial ethnicity or bra size. You never know who the love of your life may be. Unfortunately, there are plenty of shallow people out there who will reject others based in racial discrimination.

Wish the best for you, hope this works out

Loyalty to your ethnicity stem from upbringing and usually the parents reiterating it to the kids like a daily prayer.

Your friend is right, I'd rather be happy than be miserable with my own kind. I definitely favor my own kind but I wouldn't let that stop me from falling in love with a different race. The heart looks and act the same underneath all of our rib cages, regardless of race and colour.

As an aside, you've dismissed her even before giving her a chance and you even admit you don't know why so I don't understand if it is due to her ethnicity? Besides, she did not say that she wanted to marry you or that she wants to carry your kids. She just asked you about your relationships and what type of fella you are. You may be reading too much into her line of questioning. Stylists and barbers tend to be quite social. Ask any of the girls and I think you'll find quite a few of their stylists know more about your relationship than you'll be comfortable knowing. :)