How can I be more confident with the ladies?

'I just want to be friends" has got to be the most said sentence on earth but its' popularity makes it no less hurtful. We've all heard it from time to time and we've likely said it as well.

The trick with confidence is that it is never based on how many external successes you have, be it in love, work or whatever. Rather it is based on how you feel about yourself internally. I once asked a salesperson, "How do you handle all the rejection with a smile? " and she answered, "I land 80% of the deals I shoot for. The other 20%, well, we are not the right solution for them and that's okay. " She spent her time working the right deals, not letting the wrong ones lower her confidence or rethink her abilities.

Here's a great article about Confidence that may help:

Http://www. Girlsaskguys. Com/Articles/Behavior/Confidence-Central. Html

Good luck!

Hey hey hey! Why give up so easily? Being turned down is part of men's life and women's too. Would you believe? That is very normal. If they do not want to pursue a relationship with you, then you are better off without these women. You are to find someone more deserving to have you. They'll regret it once they find out you have a girl. It's their loss not yours!

Forget women for a while and really focus on you. For a while I was in your boat, or maybe even worse because I rarely even got past asking a girl out (which universally ended with 'No' anyway).

So I said to myself 'fuck women', and did my own thing. Now I don't mean slack off and just play video games all day, sure we'd love to do that but you need to use your time to improve yourself. I started some new hobbies, got some new friends and started my own company. There are plenty of other things too that one could do, like work out, or try to do well in school, or anything else that makes you feel good about yourself, which is the point.

The basic idea behind "girls want guys with confidence" has nothing to do with them having confidence, in my experience. I mean, I hate myself and always have (I'm a mentally ill drug addict with a truck full of issues), but because I've done so much with my life, I'm now comfortable in my own skin, which I think is what confidence really means.

For example, I'm a fat guy, but do I hide it? Hell no! I take off my shirt at every opportunity, when I'm naked with a girl I don't do a single thing to try to hide my body, if anything I act like it's hot shit. Do I have any logical reason to feel this way about myself? Not at all, I'm probably the fatest guy most of the girls I've been with have slept with. Same goes for my friend, he's the definition of fatass but he has a smoking hot girlfriend because he's got his life together and doesn't take shit from anyone.

The point is, if you get your shit together with everything else in your life other than women, you'll have a harder time getting rid of them than attracting them. Anyone can pretend to be confident for a while, but real confidence has nothing to do with acting tough and everything to do with how you carry yourself, how you see yourself, and what you're doing with your life. Before I changed my life for the better, I was also very concerned with how confident I seemed (which was very not confident), but once I became who I am now it came completely naturally even though I'm far from perfect and have plenty of things to NOT feel confident about. Words cannot describe the change you'll feel when you're not even worried about feeling confident anymore because you're life is going so well that you don't care if some girl rejects you (which isn't to say rejection is easy for me to take, but I feel more like it's a loss for her than me).

So my advice is to take a break from pursuing women and become the man you want to be. The rest will fall into place. And the best part? It's easy! Just do what you want to do! The less you care what girls think, the more confident you come across, and you don't even have to try because the improvement in your own self image will propagate naturally to the rest of your life.