Will a guy still see a girl as girlfriend material if she sleeps with him on the first date?

better off using sex on the 3rd date would be best. Rushing is never good and if you give it up easy there's no chase, hunt, or tease. Desert on the first date is lovely but your making them think its okay in the begining

sleeping with a guy on the first date send all the wrong impressions to me. and most other guys.

it gives off the impression the girl is easy to get with and any guy can hitt it so most guys avoid relationship with the girl.
gives off the impression she most likely to cheat.

make him EARN the privilege to sleep with you - that means playing some hard to get and/or setting some standards, time frames, etc. that way, there was some work involved and the guy won't think you're easy and/or lose respect for you and move on to some other girl right after hitting it. I can't really imagine a guy that would want a girl to be his girlfriend after sleeping with her on the first date - unless he wants an easy source for sex, which implies that he is needy. if you know that the guy has had genuine feelings for you for a while though, then it might be okay.. but the way that you ask this question makes it seem like you think sex is the make or break point. if the guy has had genuine feelings for you, sex early on wouldn't matter. besides, we all know that guys want sex anyway.. so no debate there. don't feel like you have to compromise your body to have a relationship - that's how some girls get taken advantage of.

most of my buddies relationships started by sex on the first that and it grew from there...theres a difference between a sleezy whore and a girl who you sleep with on first date you can just tell those girls apart who aren't worth your while but worth a one night stand so if your a good girl hell see it and you don't lose points by having sex if anything you win them...if your not sleezy that is

if the two of you known each other for some time sure he can see as a girlfriend depends on whose the guy that's the big question.

Like several people said, it depends on the guy. My best and longest relationships started with sex on the first and second date. So did all my one- or two-night stands. Every time I was interested in a relationship before we had sex, I was even more interested after we did.

There are some boys (and I use the word "boys" deliberately, though some of them do this well into their social-security years) who respect you less for sleeping with them. Personally, I think this is a very good sign that they are not boyfriend-quality material. It proves clearly that he has double standards: it's okay for him to have sex on the first date but immoral if you do it.

Of course, you shouldn't feel pressured to have sex right away. If you feel like waiting, then more power to you, and someone who cares about you should be willing to wait for as long as you need. But withholding sex to "prove that he really cares about you" doesn't prove anything. If a guy is desperate enough or views you as just another conquest, he'll often gladly wait weeks, months, or even years to sleep with you even if he's not at all interested in a relationship. To that kind of boy, waiting games are nothing more than a chase and a chance to show off his "game."

it's neither ruined nor helped..

i'm not gonna try and appeal to your fears like some people.. cough cough.. Tamikaze.. cough cough.. to push my little personal agenda..

but as someone with an actual penis and male brain.. I'll tell you this..

having sex on the first day does NOTHING.. that means NOTHING bad.. and NOTHING good..

the guy will NOT lose respect for you..

but you will also NOT "get" the guy by having sex with him either.. sex is not a means of "creating" a relationship.. so don't try and use it as such..

if a guy is interested in a girl.. he's going to want to get into a relationship with her..

the only way I could see the girl messing that up is by either having sex with other guys (in which case he'll think she's a slut.. and lose interest.. it's fine to be "seeing" other people.. but if you're sleeping with other people.. then goodbye).. and by sending out the wrong message.. (that she's not sexually interested in him)

remember.. he's the one who initiated.. he's the one who is pursuing and arguably chasing.. and he's also the one that's in a super-high risk situation.. he doesn't know if the girl is interested in him.. is just teasing him.. or using him.. after a while.. he'll start to lose interest as a way to protect himself from getting hurt (damage control)

you can send out this message in two ways.. not having sex with him.. or having "fake" sex with him (having sex with him for the sake of him not feeling like you're not sexually interested in him.. but before you really want to)..

if you have sex before YOU want it.. then if feels like you're treating us like some dumb sex crazed animal.. like having sex with us will make us want to magically want a relationship with you.. and if that's the kind of respect you have for us.. then expect us to have the same kind of respect for you too.. and lose interest in anything serious with you

but if you don't have sex even though YOU want it.. usually due to some tamikaze rhetoric you might hear from Cosmo.. then you just make things weird.. too weird.. and it seems like we want to have sex.. but you don't.. and we naturally start to think that you aren't sexually interested in us.. that you don't like us.. that you're not interested.. that maybe you're just teasing and playing games.. or worse.. using us.. and naturally.. to protect our ego.. (and out of fear of being used).. we start to lose interest and move on..

so honestly.. when it comes to relationships and sex..

don't be stupid.. be smart.. but don't OVER-ANALYZE things either.. ever notice how you have a habit for screwing things up when you do that? just a thought.. I would worry more about which guys you tend to fall for.. more than when to or not to have sex..

focus on knowing the guy first.. and giving him the chance to get to know you.. the REAL you.. not the girl you THINK he wants.. and then.. things will just flow naturally..

If they knew each before then I think there is a chance that he will view her a girlfriend matierial. However, if they had just met the guy will more likely think she will do this with other guys as well and lose interest in her as girlfriend material.

I think the situation dictates the outcome.

Most of the time, guys will automatically think it's not a good situation.

However, if it's a situation where both people are very much into one another, and both people have been forthcoming about their feelings and have communicated their intentions, this can lead to a relationship.

Like anything, it takes work.

some guys are cool with it, but most f**kers have their stupid double standard where they can do it but you can't/ ew jerks. anyway, it depends how long you two knew each other before the date. Otherwise, if you want him to be your b.f., Make him wait as long as your vag. can lol

if you guys were friends before I think that there could still be potential for a future relationship however, if not then I think it would be difficult to get into a serious relationship with them.

This is the problem, guys have an immediate physical attraction to a girl that they ask out on a date. If they didn't they wouldn't be asking you out. But, whether they can determine if you are someone they want for a girlfriend, that takes time. So if you sleep together the first night, you may have short circuited his ability to look any further towards getting to know you as a person and all he will have is a sexual connection, and that is not enough to create a relationship. It is a very bad idea to sleep with a guy on the first date, only because you are missing out on the chance for the two of you to get to know each other as friends and develop a connection that goes beyond a physical one. Also, by taking a while to have sex, you will weed out the guys that are not that in to you and were only trolling for sex.

The good news is this, if you have already done this and now you are wondering if it is ruined, well it isn't a 100% that it is. You will just have to wait and see. If he asks you out for dates and to do things, that is cool. If he starts contacting you sporadically and just wants to "hang out" and have sex, that is bad and you should just let him go.

i slept with my ex the first night we hung out and we were together for 9 years and have a child. he never trusted me though and he was extremly jealous throughout our whole relationship. that's why I recently broke up with him a couple of months ago. his jealousy was getting out of hand. he always thought that I might be cheating on him. so I suggest try your best not to sleep on the first date. at least a month or two. try to go places where there's no possible way to have sex so you won't do it. I don't shave my legs sometimes that way I know I won't have sex, lol. works all the time. cause you will be to embarrassed to have sex with hairy legs.lol.

It really does depend on the guy, but if you really don't want it to be a one night stand then don't take the risk of sleeping with the guy. If you accept that that's all it might ever be then do what you want. I know a guy who doesn't do one night stands and doesn't like being used but will happily sleep with a girl he's just met if he likes her. You can just never tell and I just don't do it if I want them to have respect for me and it also makes me get more emotionally involved before I even know the guy.