Should me and my fiance take a break?

I was thinking about giving a long explanation, but there really is no need to do that.
I've known his type. He is what is known as a loser. You need to get away from him, the sooner the better. It 's never going to get better if you stay with him, only worse if anything.

I don't have to tell you that claiming and doing are two different things. If he has the willpower to stop drinking at anytime then what is wrong with "now" as a time?

The way I see it, empty promises are easy to sell because the seller has no intentions of delivering on their promises. If they actually knew what it takes to deliver on their promise they'd be a bit more hesitant or at least request some time.

Having said that, I don't know whether your husband-to-be is an alcoholic but I don't really need to know, you need to ask yourself whether you can live with his current drinking and whether you want to bring a child into that union.

I am curious, did you call off the wedding solely because of the fight over the samurai swords or over many items? If only over the samurai swords then both of you are quite silly since it is a petty thing on your and his part. He clearly should not have gotten upset over it because he never vocalized his "rules" and you shouldn't also let other people, friends or no friends, touch items which may have great value - assuming those are authentic swords and not "Made In China" mass produced Ninja wannabe swords. :)

As for taking the break, ultimately it is your choice. Before making the decision you need to figure out what it is exactly that you want from the relationship with him, what you are willing to tolerate, what you are /not/ willing to tolerate, and why you'd want to get pregnant so quickly. Make sure everything has its right reasons and not an iffy "when-I-do-this-it-will-get-better" warm and fuzzy theory.

A guy should be able to trust you enough because if there is no trust there will not be a happily ever after so and this drinking seems to be a problem so make him stop put things in a balance threaten him that if he does not stop drinking he won't see his son (thats what my mom did and it worked dad stopped drinking) but try it

I wanted to add an additional comment. I read your profile and it says that you will be going to college (congrats! ). Don't throw away your opportunity to learn. Perhaps you can use your experiences with your Fiance as a way to empower yourself. There are some excellent women's studies classes, psychology, and art classes that can help you work through this in a creative way. Believe in yourself and leave this relationship. And if you are afraid if yourself you must seriously speak with the authorities and replace a restraining order. People like your Fiance are very likely to stalk you, threaten you etc. If you plan to leave them. But, you must do this. You are 21 take advantage of this. You have a possibly bright future. Take the right steps now.

Casey-troubles, I am sure you have heard this before and you will have to hear it again. Your fiance is a controlling person who seems to have some serious anger and trust issues. He also seems to have a drinking problem (that seems pretty obvious to you) -- it is also important for him to realize that he needs to help/assistance to help him with it. I suggest that you ask a friend or bring a AADAC brochure from your local community center or library. Now ask yourself: Would you want to raise a child in a household like this? Does a child deserve to grow up a household like this? You need re-evaluate whether you are holding on to this relationship out of loneliness and desperation. As well, I highly recommend that you re-consider pregnancy. Yes, children do initially tie couples together. But is a short lived honeymoon. And then things go right back to normal. Casey-troubles, you have recognized the early signs of a possibly damaging relationship - your fiance in time will not only bring down your confidence (if he hasn't already) and his controlling behavior suggests that he may become violence with you (those are some tell tale signs). You must speak with someone you trust immediately be it your family doctor, trust family member with a good head on their shoulders. Or social services. You still have the opportunity to get out of this. Please, take it. I wouldn't want to see your name in the headlines.

Sweetie, please please please listen to this advice, or the wise advice of other adults and GET OUT.
I don't want to judge you but frankly it is so difficult to read your story without getting worked up.
1. You are not even 21 yet and you are trying to have a child with an alcoholic who has a temper. This reads like abuse waiting to happen.

2. He lies and breaks promises. There is no way to "justify" the fact that he does not respect you, or for that matter, himself.

3. He keeps dangerous weapons (yes, Samurai swords are deadly) in plain view, but "tells" people not to touch them? PUT THEM AWAY.

4. Life has been hard for 2 months? Imagine 2 years!

5. He is a control freak, who won't "allow" you to live your life and make friends.

Combining the above is an absolutely TOXIC situation. I'm no psychiatrist but would venture to guess that you have a history of alcoholism in your family or some verbal or sexual abuse. Your desire to be needed and loved is clouding your vision. Please use birth control if you must continue to sleep with him before you get out.
Please seek out someone you trust, whether a family member, friend, work colleague, clergy, hairdresser...someone, that can help you get out safely. I think you are afraid of being alone and would rather be with him than no one. Please know that there are better answers for you. Here are some resources for you to seek out online:

http://www.snbw.org/
1800 799 SAFE

Good luck to you.