Make them happy?

Why would I want a guy to do everything for me? I want to be in a relationship that has flaws, that requires work and can occasionally lead to an argument. That's realistic. If a guy wanted to cater to my every need, I'd be scared out of my mind. It usually means he has some reason to compensate in the relationship, drawing red flags all over the place.

You can make kind and romantic gestures, just take it easy. I want a boyfriend, not a maid. I have a friend whose fiance does EVERYTHING, and it makes me want to gag. She keeps his balls in a jar, and it doesn't even bother him... at least until he's drunk. (At some point, people reach their breaking point)

its hard to respect some1 when they kiss ur ass.

well for me I love guys like that, my Boyfriend of 7 mounths is like that and I'm head over heals for him. But majority of girls don't like it for several reasons,

1) if you are like that they feel 'imperfect' , 'not good enough', or 'flawed'
2) its not a challange or no risks
3) its not an intresting relationship
4) ur TO perfect

If you did everything what would be left? Nothing-nothing to say we want or feel like we should have for some dumbass reason that makes perfect sense to us because the guy would go and do it. It's not realistic. Life has arguments. loud unhappy moments that after they're done bring you closer. Its good to be willing to make her happy. be romantic and everything but it reminds me of a brand new puppy. following its owner aimlessly just happy doing whatever its told. sorry if this is getting a little offending. I'm done now

I would love for a guy to do that for me... If I liked him! I have a guy friend who does a lot for me... but I'm not attracted to him at all! It annoys me a lot. I know he likes me but I'm not into him. Now if it was my own boyfriend and he did the best he could to make me happy, I'd be in heaven. That's how he was in the beginning but he failed at the end of the relationship. lol

I love guys that make me happy!

I love guys that make me happy that means that they care for me!

Because it's so damn boring.I want to work for your affection.

Because it can't be all about one person, that's not how relationships work. Not successful ones at least. If a guy does everything to make a girl happy, it seems desperate, and like he's trying to buy her love. That's the type of guy who will let a girl walk all over him, and that's not what most girls want.

Because it can come of as insincere. We want to date a guy that's like an equal, not some doormat who does everything because he thinks it makes us happy. What about YOUR needs? People don't respect people that just do whatever because they want to be liked.

Because in many cases, those guys are just well...TOO nice- girls don't like jerks or mean guys but they do like excitement and fun, and a guy that seems to sappy - almost so desperate to make her happy that he becomes obsessed and clingy can get boring reaaallly fast- girls like the chase too xxxxxx

because if you try TOO hard to make us happy, we think of you as desperate and clingy, which is a turn off. We want our men to be strong, dependable,and have an active life. If you spend your time making her happy, it seems like you have no life outside of her, which gets claustrophobic.

Because they put their women on pedastels. Those kind of men show that they are worthless by having to resort to buying flowers, box chocolates, dinners, listening to their lame problems, helping them move, etc. in an attempt to try to attract women. Women are looking for a sexually attractive man with value, not some "boring" (ie. unattractive) nice-guy, the kind of guy that will be their doormat to make them happy (nice-guys make great "Let's just be friends").

don't try too hard and don't expect too much too soon.

Girls like guys who do things for them. But that can't be the soul reason why there's a relationship. The guy who waits on the girl will be the waiter, and the guy with personality will be her date across the table.

Ironically these "Nice Guys" who go over the top to please their girlfriend are kinda misogynistic because they see female affection as something they have to buy. Sure they value their woman so much that they put all their money, time, and energy into her but it is still something he is effectively purchasing, just at a really high price.

A better relationship model is something where you have two people who can stand by themselves, and invest money, time, and energy into improving themselves, meet and find that they each really like the other person. They like each other, and are attracted to each other, and eventually love each other, because of who the other person is. It is kinda strange perhaps, some people receive love, others don't, all because of what kind of person they are. But love isn't a commodity. You can't just do stuff in exchange for a woman's love, even if you do everything for them.