Is it a good thing to have a long distance relationship with someone?

They are too much work I think, really romantic but it really wears off fast.

Bad, your young, you will get bored easily. There is no point in trying to keep it going from far away when you are so young. Long distance relationships are for situations where the relationship has been long-established and one person is forced to temporarily live somewhere far away (such as going to war or a temporary job assignment).

depends, sometimes it can become stressful without any kind of human contact.

Depends but If you really need to know, then you should try it first hand and realize how stressful it is.

Pro's and cons to it but there's a higher chance of cheating, and a lot of flaws dealing with affection, and loneliness. I try to stay away from them

I'm asking myself this too, and I'll try to give you a clear answer.

They're good if you both want the relationship to last. There will be fights, there will be times of loneliness, it is still a relationship, there are still feelings you just can't see each other daily as a proximal(short distance from each other) relationship would be.
You need to be able to meet them sometime, you NEED the physical contact, and you need to make sacrifices for them, to see them. Long distant relationships are just like regular ones where you can see each other often, but I think they are stronger if they last. In the emotion sense, because the time away can be lonely but it also makes the heart fonder. It makes the feelings for them and the time you do have together(or will have) so much more special.
Sometimes the phone can get boring, so can text. find creative ways to communicate, you have the whole internet! Try sending email, cards, cloths(perfume or sweat... Well, sweat has pheromones, and it gives them something to remind them of you), anything that is close to you, send to them so they always have something of you with them, it will bond you more. Use webcams to chat face to face.

You have to want it, because long distant relationships are more trying than proximal ones. But I think they're stronger because you appreciate them a lot more.
Hope this helps some. I have never been in a long distant relationship, but have been thinking a lot about it because of a girl. So I hope I didn't ramble aimlessly.

Mostly bad. Unrealistic expectations, complete lack of personal contact which I'm sorry to say is basically the heart and soul of any romantic relationship.

Then there is the distance being an issue, making time to meet up, making time to continue meeting up, someone having to move, the relationship taking far too much time in life logistics than is reasonable at that stage, I mean you might as well be engaged to your monitor for all its worth because the bulk of your "together time" will probably be in front of a keyboard or on the phone.

Its your choice and many people find that special someone through online dating/long distance and somehow it works but...

Most people just end up burned out. Your under 18 or so it says, your too young to be wasting time on long distance. My advice?, give local guys a chance, there is no rush for happy ever after, meet some guys, become friends, hang out and just enjoy the carefree relationships you can develop while you still got time to mess around.

People should only really consider long distance relationships if they are very serious and in love with their partner who is moving away, or try online dating only if they aren't having much luck on the dating scene.

Hope this helped.

The only thing that matters in these situations is if both partners are willing to change their priorities and efforts to at least make it work.

Usually though, people abuse the online privacy, and can't seem to blur the lines between reality and fantasy.

No one wants to be in one,so it's bad. I'm in one and it get's really hard sometimes,we've been together for two years and away for one. Do not engage in one unless you two are POSITIVE you love each other. Do it only for that reason,not because you still want sex or you're afraid to be alone. Only if you both truly love each other,other than that, move on because the bull-ish won't be worth the stress.

I'd say if he's a kinda new guy then that's definitely not a good thing unless you guys totally connected and have great chemistry and common interest and everything else you can think of. If you've been together for awhile and really love each other well then it can definitely work and will as long as it isn't for too long. So no, a long distance relationship is never a good thing It should be reserved for situations where there's no other choice. It's something that can work, but it's never a good setup. If by chance you're talking about meeting some guy online and that's how you mostly know him, that'll be a very hard situation to make it come together nicely and lovingly someday. Hope this helped.

My wife and I have not lived in the same zip code for the last five years. But it does get old. We are happily putting an end to the out of town job in January.

We make sure we enjoy every moment we get to spend together, and neither of us are the jealous type. So it really has worked out for us, but we won't say it has been easy.

Good Luck,
James

Depends entirely on both people in the relationship. Some can make it work (I personally know some success stories), others can't. If a couple is thinking it's heading that way, both people should decide the terms and make absolutely sure they can handle it. It's not easy.

Long... long... long answer short:

No.

Out of sight, out of mind.

You want any relationship to work be it spouse, boyfriend, family or business you need to live in the same town and see people almost daily.

Its kinda a mixture of both , If you wanna rly wanna met that person and go see them that's good :)

I guess it could depend on how big the distance is. I'm seeing a guy right now that lives an hour and half away from me and things are great. We talk every day and see each other at least 2 times a week. But I honestly like it, I have no intention of cheating on him. I like it because I can still have my space, and it makes the time we do spend together really great---because it seems when you are constantly seeing someone you might start to get bored and annoyed, and that just doesn't happen with me and him because there is some distance.

Nooooooo, its so bad! Trust me!
Am going out with a guy who lives in chicago and I live in florida ://so we are pretty much far away from eachother, we haven't seen each other for
almost 4 months, and it sucks ass. We have so much drama, we fight alot.!
Over pretty much nothing... & we kinda have trust problem because he doesn't get
to see exatlly what I do, and I don't get to see exatlly what he does either :(
and the worst part is when we fight we don't get to make up (kiss,hug,sex),etc
iT SUCKS big time! we LOVE each other sooo much that's the reason why
we still together. But am moving in with him soon so that makes us both happy.

p.s sorry this is kinda long. lol

i loved him but, I broke his heart!
so it is BAD! BAD! BAD!

I've been with my boyfriend for two years now (I'm 19 and he's 24). For the past year we've been living together, but before that we were in a long distance relationship for a year. It started out as long distance, and I admit it was hard at first, but I can assure you it was really worth it. We saw each other way less then you see this guy, only every other weekend and on holidays, but still it really worked, and made us appreciate each other even more.

I guess it depends on your situation. But with me I was positive about the relationship working, because my boyfriend was the one who really wanted it and made every little sacrifice to make it work. I was away at boarding school and he was at college, so most of the effort came from him. He is an incredible guy and I couldn't be more in love.

What you have to do, is sit down and try to analyze your situation and the guy. Cause every relationship is different and unique. If you are both really into it, then I don't see why not. But your the one who has to decide. Pay attention to what he says, but also to what he does, as sometimes actions may mean more than words. Listen to other people, but in the end make the decision you want, regardless of where people think it's a bad idea. Your the only one who can judge what is really going on, and what you both feel for each other.

Still, you have to be aware that it's not easy, and you have to try and maintain enough contact, either by emailing, texting or calling. What really helped me was skype, because we basically used to talk and 'see' each other every day even though there was no physical contact.

In the end, if your relationship can survive the distance, especially for a long period of time, then it has a huge chance of working out. In this way, it's good because it tests the boundaries, and you can be sure that once re-united, the connection between you is strong :).

I'm in one right now. I think it's very stressful, very stressful. But on the other hand I think it's making us a lot stronger, and even closer.

I've tried it quite a few times..NEVER WORKED! the reasons were because we weren't close enough; someone else started liking me which caused me to stop liking my boyfriend; I jut stopped liking my boyfriend because I haven't seen him in ages and it's like he doesn't exist anymore.
I don't see any benefits in long distance relationships besides the fact that you guys will still be together.
it's strssful as well! you don't get to see him and sometimes you worry when he doesn't reply your texts or calls or he doesn't go on msnfor a while. you neve know what's happening on his side of the world! and you would never know if he's cheatiing on you either!

i think the sht is corny... no offense, really. its just the first thing I sed to myself wen I read this.

but yeah.. I think the sh*t is corny and not worth it unless you are just visiting a place for a set time.

like example.. I left for cali for a month... long distance relationship with my bf? yes?
but its only a month.. its not like I just moved away.. yano?

I feel that if you really love someone you will do any sacrifice necessary to make the long distance relationship work. That simple. It will involve a lot of hard work, but ultimately it will be more than worth it.

Two people that really love each other will do anything to make it work! Always!

Otherwise, in the long run, you weren't meant to be with that person.

I thinks its bad because you can't keep tabs on that person and vice versa

I would say no instinctively but I've never had one so its hard to tell in practice.

If someone had to move away for a few months and would be bk-like if they were travelling etc then I would try to make it work but if someone permanently lived a long way away then it would prob eventually fizzle out. Personally when someones not around you do tend to forget about them. not intentionally but other people do come into your life and you're doing other things. its hard to stay connected wit someone when ur leading completely different lives; you have to have something in common, least of all wher you live. It is out of sight, out of mind as someone else said.

It's a very-hard-to-work thing. Physical contact is the heart of a relationship and when that is not happening, it can be very difficult. When you are under 18 it is highly unlikely to work because you will have no way to work out seeing each other on some sort of regular basis. Even adults who can do that struggle with a lot of frustration in trying to make this work.

depends...not good from my persepcitve

It's like most things in life. It is neutral. It is not good or bad, but what you put into it and take out of it. I can tell you I have had a glorious long distance relationship with my now husband. I love long distance relationships (probably because it forces communication early in the relationship and allows for a physical barrier - for people who want to rush the intimacy part). It requires a lot of trust and maturity. While I have seen them go horribly wrong (with one or the other cheating "irl"), If you are able to actually make it work, you know you have some one for the keeps. Just my opinion though.

Obviously if you can't help it it's better to not be in a long distance relationship. I wouldn't actively go looking for one. I've been in one before that worked out in terms of closing the distance. We didn't work out in the end because we didn't work out together. The distance made good excuses for the flaws our relationship had. Like he was very selfish. I could see that when we were together and we'd get into fights about it. But when we were apart, we'd still get into fights about it, except I got into my mind the distance was stressing us out and contributed to our arguments.

I am in one right now, but it's so different. I've learned from my past and I'm more mature than I was back then. I fought the relationship too because I knew what a long distance relationship entails. It's tough work and shouldn't be taken lightly. But we work so well together. We are open with our communication. We trust each other. And we both try very hard to make each other happy especially since we are far away from each other. I think the key thing is that you both have to be extremely committed to one another and also be very compatible with each other.

it didn't work for me, it wasn't worth it.

if the guy and the girl are serious then yes it could be a good thing
if it's just a guy who's trying to get attention then no it isnt'a good thing
ldr are hard, there is more work invovled, and guys on line are different in person sometimes.
online they seem so perfect or great but in reality, they could be a totally different person, perhaps worst, perhaps better-it's almost like an illusion on line because who knows, it could be anyone
i take time to get to know a guy
if he seems weird or not so great, then I dump him or cut him out of my life
it's a tough thing to have. ldr's aren't that easy
but it doesn't mean they can'tlead to something genuinely good

Personally, I have been in a long distance relationship and it was a lot of work. My boyfriend moved to Europe for work and I was in the US and needless to say the timezones where completely messed up. I would call him after work and it would be like 2 am over there and would have to wake him up or otherwise he'd wake me up so we could talk. That's just one of the problems we had. The other thing is you feel like you want to hang with them and go on dates and such and you can't because he was sooo far away which made the relationship difficult.
The trust issue must be taken into consideration also. He might tell you he's out with a friend but instead he might be seeing someone, who knows, you're miles away.

So... in summary, I would be very careful in having a long distance relationship. I would consider other options first but if I really liked someone and really felt that this person is worth it than I would have a long distance relationship.. otherwise, NOT.

No unless you plannin 2 marry this dude. You shouldn't waste ur time because every1 knows long distant relationships don't work! Unless you really trust this guy nd know he's not gonna cheat on you then you can give it a try and let me know! Men have their needs nd so do women! I had a long distant relationship and I thought he was the 1 for me but he cheated nd I couldn't take it so we broke up. Hope this helps hun!

Both. It's really hard, I know from experience...but, when you do get to see him, it'll make your time together more special, and you'll appreciate that more. Plus, he'll get to know you for your personality. not just for physical reasons.

How I see it is if you really care about the person enough and know that it'll work out in the long run, yes it is good to have/be in a long distance relationship. I personally believe that it makes the relationship stronger.

I've had my doubts in mine and he keeps reminding me on how much he loves me and what not. It keeps me fighting for what I want. I get to see him in a month when he comes home for break; and he will only be down there until May.

I feel like I need to add more but I hope that will do.

If you both have something really special then take the plunge. You'd be surprised at how well a long distance relationship can work out. Granted, it won't be easy and you'll both go through your bouts of loneliness. However, the rewards for making it through are worth every lonely second. Hope this helped.