So, I'm very open to interracial relationships/dating/etc. Support them fully, have entered into some etc. Yet as far as African-Americans are concerned, there seems to be a double standard. In recent years it has become more and more accepted for a African-American male to be with a white woman, I have no problem with this at all.
What I am wondering is why is it still taboo for white men and African-American women to be together?
I've pursued African-American women and know other white males who have as well, and apparently it's wrong for us to do so and considered undesirable and on the occasion I have been harassed by both African-Americans and whites for attempting it. Some experiences have been good and bad, and I realize that one needs to look for more open and accepting women, but my question is still why is this combination still so taboo in our culture?
It is because of our past. I remember my dad telling me stories of how white men used to rape black women in font of black men or take advantage of slaves because of their power over them. And white guys tendency to focus on sex when we are with them doesn't help. It kind of reinforces these stories. I am not saying I think about these things but some parents keep the stories alive.
You know what? People will always think a certain way about something but never have a decent enough reason to back up their claim. People are people, if you want to date a woman who is PURPLE, who's to tell you that you couldn't? If she was interested in you and you in her, what's the problem?
Today it seems like I'm just going to have to agree with Budphillips on everything, but I'm quite sure plenty of people are familiar with Guess Who (With Bernie Mac and Ashton Kutcher). One can't assume that it's always going to be like that.
Sadly, for whatever reason, there are some things in our culture that are just considered taboo right now. Think about the way that popular culture portrays these types of situations. When there are music videos, very often there are white women with black men. On TV sitcoms, it isn't uncommon to see black men with white women. But what happens when there is a white male with a black female? They make an entire movie about how uncomfortable and awkward it is.
It starts with popular culture and in areas that aren't extremely open-minded or that have a lot of progressivism and diversity. I applaud you for doing what you feel is right and not getting too frustrated.
With time, all of the taboo aspects of culture will drift away. In the meantime, good luck. And if you find out the answer, please let me know. :)
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