Does this guy really like me or just playing mind games?

of course he's playing mind games just think & go BACK 2 how you all met ...come on you were talking 2 HIS friend FIRST then you start talking 2 him HE's looking at you like can I really TRUST you he might like you BUT he making you PURSUE him 2 see if you REALLY like him WITHOUT him thinking you might talk 2 another one of his BUDDIES like you did on his other friend this what you do TELL HIM You WANT 2 BE WITH HIM & ONLY HIM & THAT You LOVE HIM ALOT & then don't CALL 4 A week

Play harder to get. Wait for him to call. I bet your grandmother never went around calling boys...gasp...

theres some type of girls/guys who are too f***ing chicken to say this ' I'm not interested anymore '. if I was you I will be like ' hey listen what's your deal ' if he keep saying I'm busy and that B S, tell him that you don't have time for high school games.

Either your in or out.

From a serious guy point of view ( doesn't fool around with girls)

There is more than one explanation:
1- is that I think he found out (through time) that you are not a good person or you are not satisfying his emotional need, and doesn't want to be with you anymore.
2- in addition to that he might me a cheap ass cause he wants you to call and text.
3- he either found someone else and still can't seem to let you go or he got don't love you anymore.

Guys have this feeling first sight and they think that they love the girl and want to spend time with her but after time he either looses interest or finds out that he was mistaken and he can not cope with this kind of personality/ mentality.

He might also want a simple friendship and doesn't want to be in a relationship.


*From a Player's point of view:

He just wants / wanted to get in bed with you -
a- if you 2 did get in bed then his mission is done.
b- if you didn't then he found out that he can't get to you and so he gave up and just trying to annoy you and acting in a way that " you don't have time for me I don't have time for you".

Sounds like he doesn't like you anymore and is either too afraid to tell you or wants to keep you around for other reasons. Just let him go if he likes you he will be back.

He might be losing interest.

Have you asked him *why* he feels pushed away? I ask because if he said something like "It feels like you're pushing me away," and you responded "No I'm not," your response invalidates his feelings ... your response might make him feel even more pushed away.

I suggest you ask him what specifically in your behavior makes him feel pushed away. Simply listen to what he says. Don't defend, don't deny, don't excuse. Simply listen and stay silent. This act alone from you might bring him closer.

Good luck!

If he's the one always saying he's busy and never answering your calls/ texts HE's the one stopping this going forward. Not you. But rather than own up to this he is acting like the victim in all this and making out like you're the one stopping things. When you know you're not.
Don't play along with his little game. Just tell him straight you want things to go forward and continue the way they were - and the only person preventing this is him.
Tell him it's up to him if he wants things to continue the way they were - then just walk away.

@Your Update - um easy, don't give up. it sounds to me like you are being a little stubborn, people get busy, you can't just throw in the towel because it isn't as thrilling as the first month together, give him a chance to wow you again... it will get better, you just need some patience.

Wow. I've had a similar experience to this.
Let me just say that there are some guys out there who like to flirt and whatnot, but if you take too long to respond to their calls, then they eventually get tired of waiting.
If this guy stops seeing you, it may not be because he's tired of you or anything though. He does have a life. And so do you.
If he tells you to call & text but he never replies:
1. He broke his phone?
2. If he's on some prepaid plan, then he has no minutes..?
3. The number he gave you was false.
4. You're wasting your money. Especially if your cell is on a plan where you have to pay for every text message and every call you make.
I think it's best you ask him, but don't let it look like it's bothering you. He might think you're desperate for his attention or something.
Good luck!

No, girl. Don't let a guy trick you into reaching out to him. You see, if he really likes you, HE'S the one pulling efforts to get YOU. And, girl, tell you what, guys aren't complicated. If they like you, they go after you. If they don't, then he's not worth the time. There are other guys. Make way for those who is more worthy of the time and attention of a goddess like you. :)

well you wrote in your story that you would spend 5 days out of the week together for the first month because HE was going down to visit you after he got off work, and now he isn't as much, and he isn't calling as much, well did it ever occur to you that perhaps he would like you to do your part in the relationship? I know if I was always the one calling a guy, and going to see him, and he wasn't doing his part, I would take a step back until I saw that his feelings for me were as strong as mine for him.

best idea is to break up with him

I know I guy like that. It sounds like he wants you to put all the effort into the realtionship. He doesn't sound like he's worth it. If he really is interested he'd make a real effort. Don't waste your energy on someone like that.

Sounds like he's doing the typical guy too chicken to dump her routine by being weird and distant
Happened me last year with a guy he was behaving like this...