Would you date me?

I think that for a lot of guys, they see back girls as people who are loud, annoying and in general, embarrasing in public. The thought of a black girl yelling into her phone at the top of her lungs on a bus comes into mind.

Im a mixed race guy myself so I am always surrounded by either black or white people. Its easier for someone like me to see the misconstuencies of these two races with each other.

I have seen black girls acting rude and obnoxious, as if she's being watched by an audience and agree that this behavior is unappealling to say the least. When this happens it really makes you notice but then people fail to notice other 100 black people they passed who are acting like normal intelligent citizens.

Similarly black people will notice a bunch of obnoxious white girls bickering very loudly about boys, shoes, their problems etc. They will think white people are matialistic and racist, but they also never stop to notice the 100 white people they passed that where being normal citizens.


Theres 2 problems. The first is that races have misconceptions of each other and they belive things that aren't true just because of the way a minority of the race behaves.

The second problem is that people are used to the way people in their own race behave. So to a white guy, a bunch of blondies bickering loudly about their hair or badmouthing the girl she hates, yea that's just girls being girls.
A black guy sees black girls being loud with each other, yea its just girls being girls.
When looking at the quarks of a different race, people tend to judge more harshly. especially if they don't have many friends from that race, they just go by what they see. So ppele won't pay attention to the people acting normal...if he passes 100 black girls and one or 2 of them are loud and obnoxious, he will assume they are all like that since he has no friends to prove dissprove his false belief.

The truth is there's loud annoying girls everywhere of all races. We just don't notice it as much when its our own race because we are more used to it.

This is too general a question. I've lived all over the world and personally I look from the inside out, and that way, all these layers like race, religion, culture, language, political preference, and so on are avoided...I'm East Indian by race but I've dated many black girls and I cannot generalize and say that a black girl has to be a certain way because each black girl I dated was very different...

most of them look like them (native african)
don't have a good looking face

I have exactly the same criteria for black women as I do for all women. If you are a good woman, it doesn't matter what color you are. Are you a good woman? I'd be willing to bet you can answer that question quickly.

To be honest its about reputation,
Black girls are always the ones who are loud, guys like me like to take girls to a restraunt but they just don't work together. It just comes down to what you are like. If you are normal all the gys should date you

Pretty. Approachable. Friendly. Sincere.

Oh wait, those are my criteria for dating _any_ girls... :D

i love this topic. but I would not mind dating a black girl. in fact I would love to date a black girl. in fact I have dated 3 black girls and those were better relationships then with white chiks. I'm white btw

I'm Asian and have a black girlfriend. It didn't really matter what race she was. She could have been any other race and I still would have liked her. For many people, dating someone of another race can feel weird and many people won't even take the time to get to know someone of another race in a special way. We get looks from people and people talk about us, but it doesn't matter. Most decent guys won't care what race you are as long as you are what they look for in a girl. Then again there will be people who won't like you just because of your race. Stereotypes and discrimination is still a factor.

I have dated girls from every race except for black girls. But, this was not by choice. I mostly find black girls not interested in white guys, aside from the desperate ones who will date anything with a pulse. I see lots of black men with white, latin and asian girls, but I usually just see black girls with black guys.

That being said, I would date a black girl, but only a certain type.

Looks: Not into the "loud and proud" type. This means black girls who have corn rows, are overweight and wear revealing clothes, girls with HUGE butts, long blue finger nails or wear obnoxious amounts of jewlery. I also personally don''t like black girls who are Wesley Snipes Dark or have big noses.

Personality: I don't like black girls who are loud, confrontational, cheap, speak ebonics, always playing the race card or are bossy. Black people seem angry a lot too. If you get bad service or somebody doesn't like you, its not ALWAYS because you are black.

Now, what is desirable.

Looks: I like black girls who have a good sense of fashion, take care of their body, have nice long hair, no nose rings, nice big but not HUGE butt and nice curves. Skin tone not a huge deal, but I like the smaller nose. I don't mind full lips.

Personality: Just be a lady. You don't have to act white. Be proud of who you are, but don't make it an obsession. Have class. Many of the don't likes above are not black girl specific. I don't like any girl who is loud, confrontational, cheap or bossy. Only big thing is the over sensitivity to race. Don't mention that you are black at every turn, we know that. Trust me, if somebody does mistreat you because of race, they would hear from me first.

Bottom line is this, be a sweet girl who treats her man well. Take care of your body and dress nicel

I would deffinetly be your freind, but me dating you or not would have anything to do with your race, every flavour of sugar is just as sweet I think, I would rather be your freind first and prolong the freindship before I was to make it go any further so that I was sure about you who you was. so really I don't care about the skin colour, I think really dark black girls look just as hot as really light skin girls anyway, I have no preference but I love both lol.
i think the way the black girl would have to be is like any girl I would want to date. just be herself, don't be fake, just caring, sweet fun girl, nothing specific. jsut rather her not try to be somethign she doesn't fit into being.
Good Luck God Bless

Cute, bit of a geek, intelligent, open minded.

The same rules I hold to any girl of any other race.

"so guys if you were to date a black girl, what would she have to be like and what don't you like about them"

Well, you're going to get a lot of answers, this is the same as asking what guys like/dont like about girls in general, every guy likes different things about girls..obviously. However with this question unfortunately you are going to get a lot of stereotypes thrown at you, some of which will apply to soem people. We also have to face the fact that the "average" white and average black girl have some cultural differences. So there's gonna b guys that prefer white over black girls, and they will only consider black girls that try and act/look like white girls. But then there are guys that genuinely think black girls are pretty regardless of what cultural background they are compared to or fit into it.

If you looked like beyonce, rianna or alesha dixon I would date you in a heart beat. But apart from that black girls generally don't do it for me.

I like to date white girls simply because I perceive them as being the most attractive.
I have nothing against black chicks. For one reason or another, they just don't do it for me, though.

nothing wrong with black girls...
im a white dude, so I prefer white chicks... but I have no problem whatsoever with any race...

She would have to be pretty, have a good family, a unique personality, and some what of a pedigree for having a good heart. Just like any other chick really.

you called it they are just lound annoying and ignorant so most guys just think most black girls are like that

Well your anon so I can't see any info on you, but I did date one black lady and she was very fun but wanted sex which I wasn't prepared to give. There is nothing wrong with you you will find mr right just time is a matter and I wish you luck.

I would never and could never date a black girl who the stereotypes (loud, obnoxious, talks in ebonics, attitude) were true of. If she wasn't though, I would have no problems whatsoever with dating her provided we had a few things in common.

There are a few physical traits common to black girls I find to be unattractive but they're not dealbreakers. Things such as the more sloping forehead, larger nose with large nostrils, and big lips. Again, they're not dealbreakers.

Also bear in mind many white guys are intimidated by black girls.

No offense, I'm by no means racist, but I would never date a girl other than white. I think it is a really good idea for people to stay in their own race. Just to preserve it.

Don't change a thing about yourself regardless of what anyone tells you on here. A guy who belongs with you will enjoy you for your personality not your appearance. Keep being patient and exactly what you are.

I'm married so I'm not really on the market as it were. However I would like to say that race is really not an issue with me. I think that women come in all sizes, shapes, and colors and can all be beautiful. I would look for the same qualities in a black woman that I would seek out in any potential girlfriend. Those being intelligence, self confidence, honesty and integrity, and while sort of related, and I mean no offense by this at all. I find black women with english accents very attractive and sexy.

As with any woman I date, she would have intelligence and a killer personality.

I personally cannot stand it when any woman (not just black women) talks in ebonics.
Instant deal breaker for me. I know these women are educated, so why do they make themselves sound completely illiterate when they say things like " I ain't fin to do that"
or "where he be at?"

Also, my woman would have to be classy and have style.

Girls like this : link but my age.

I'll be real honest. Its not a racial thing for me. It's a cultural thing. Admit it. There is are HUGE cultural differences between our races. That being said, I have always had an affinity for black women. I relate to them very well and have had many very close friends that also happened to be black and female. Its just that our worlds are very different and I don't think I could make the changes that would be necessary to meet the other person at least half way. I would NEVER expect the woman to make those kinds of changes for me. Maybe in a hundred years when our cultures have blended more things will be different.

As far as dating ANY woman... I would EXPECT them to be themselves.

I don't like really dark girls, but the ones that are very close to be latinas can turn me on.

Reasonably attractive, and nice (as in normal).


I saw a black girl with leggings and a Tshirt that had a heavy-metal band on it. My interest was peaked. I admit fully to my own shame that certain preconceptions come to my mind when I see a black girl...her taste in music...her attitude. I feel bad about it because I have never had any problem with black people but I've so easily just shrugged off a black girl as not sharing the same interests as me.

Saying that I have seen allot of black women who dress well and carry themselves really well, and many of them are really quite attractive as to put the white girls around them to shame.

In those cases I feel intimidated, she's out of my league and all that. :S


In answer to your question you sound reasonably intelligent, the rest I would have to know to make up my mind, but based purely on how you write you've already passed by basic literacy cut-off. :)

But TBH I'd be more worried about whether you would date me, lol.

Many of my co-workers are black, and are nothing like the stereotype. On that subject, most of them are in a relationship with someone.
But you know for me, the truth is I really don't care about race. Who you are as a person is all that matters. There are plenty of wonderful and plnety of terrible poeple from all races.
Who you are inside and how you treat others, is all that counts.

As long as we're compatible and she is not ignorant or extremely rude then Yeah I would date her...That's for any girl regardless of race

We shouldn't generalize anyone because nothing can be predicted.. I would date any girl if our personalities go well together.. I'm not white or black and I don't know all the stereotypes out there.. but there are positive and negative stereotypes about me and my people as well.. and I don't like them.. even though people say to me "hey you must be good at math" or "you must be good at engineering".. I laugh it off but inside, I lose a little bit of my respect for that person.. I don't take everything too personally because you can't blame people for how they were raised.. people might think positive stereotypes are o.k.. some think negative stereotypes are normal too. Fact is.. both will do more harm than good.

Either way, all a girl has to be is nice, approachable and open-minded..for me to date her..

There are "really ignorant" people everywhere.. regardless of race, origin, color or culture.. I'm not trying to sound preachy or anything.. its just the truth.

Wow. What a big question to answer. I'l try to answer as much as I can... We'll go with surface stuff here.

Hmmm... First off, for right now, she'd have to be under 32, and over, say 23(ish). I love a smart woman, but not someone condescending about it - like a know it all type. ick.

I'd prefer someone who has a good education; someone with a great sense of humor. Someone patient. I'd prefer if thew "religious" background was similar - though faith, devotion, and religion can be three different things.

I'd prefer a woman who made smart choices in life- someone who was wild and crazy and slept around with 30 guys had one night stands and got drunk all the time (and finally stopped) isn't really my cup of tea as far as someone I'd feel comfortable dating. Someone who can see (and weigh) the options and consequences before she makes her decision, and someone who has done that for a long time (not that we don't make mistakes, but I'd prefer to keep those things down, that's all).

Someone who is conservative in actions and thinking would be someone I'd probably get along better with, but don't read that as me wanting a hard core republican (or hardcore democrat). Someone who tries to think fairly and realizes that both sides do some pretty nasty immature things to each other; someone who votes based on what they think is in the person's character, not because they're expected to vote one way or another.

Someone patient and kind; preferably great with children.

As far as looks, I'd prefer pretty eyes. Someone I can have some quiet awe kind of moments with. Weight isn't really an issue - but generally I prefer thinner women. I suppose either a classic or modern style would be great, but I'd prefer someone who could pull off the professional look as well as the "nice out to dinner look" and relaxed look.

As far as what I don't like, so on and so forth, it'd be based on the person and traits, not the color of skin. I have things that I don't like about girls in general. But black, white, whatever... that's not an issue.

I would date a black woman as quickly as I'd date a white woman, provided they had similar traits that I'd look for in a woman.

I often find the stereotype to b true that most, not all, but most black girls are very loud, obnoxiou, and ignorant---big turnoffs especially loud and like the world to know they're problems whether in a cell phone or just being loud. what should she b like...quiet, funny, easy to please, and kind...and good sense of humor. and don't talk like a black girl, i.e. eubonics, etc.

Hell no. She has to have a flat chest, light skin and a flat ass. None of those huge t*ts, 'bootylicious crap' or those big lips. And 99.9999% of them act all ghetto as well!

inb4 that's racist

no

Why aren't you interested in black guys? Not all black guys are ignorant either. Just saying.

dammm I love black chicks man
mainly cus they seem more confident than other girls

but there's somethin else about them idk

i think black girls are hawt O.o and I want to date one.. one day ..i just don't think they want me ha :\

Race isn't an issue with me when choosing whom I date. So just like any other girl of any color she'd have to be confident but not cocky, have a great sense of humor and love to laugh, be laid back most of the time but be uptight about things that warrant it and be a kind soul, for me to be interested. I am drawn to certain physical attributes, skin color included, but there aren't any physical attributes that I can think of that would put a woman down for the count with me.

I would date black girls. There no different form white or hispanic girls, they have to be fun to be around kind and want a relationship. And not be stuck up, shallow, or high maitnence

i love dem black chocolate girls

If I was a guy I will date you.

ok I can answer this for you. Guy don't like the stereotype black girls that's pretty much it. JUst be yourself but don't be too loud or they will think you are just another "black girl" eventhough that's totally untrue because white girls can get louder than black girls. There are plenty other stereotypes but I just used that as an example. Guys prefer different things but most don't like the stereotype black women.

I don't date black guys, not because I hate them or anything, all the ones I know share the same face shape as my brother, which bothers me. :P
I know a lot of guys who date black girls where I live, unless a guy is racist or has a situation like I do, I don't see any reason why they wouldn't date you due to skin color. Just be yourself, and someone will date you.

I have met many loud, rude, annoying, dumb ass white girls along with black, asian, latina, and whatever else! So to just point out the black girls is stupidity! FYI my grandma was mixed with black and white and she would always say she is 100% black for the simple fact that whites have done ignorant things. As for me I'm not a racist person but lets set the record straight ignorance comes in all colors!

Okay, I'm sensing a little self-hatred here. Why do you think you or your race are ignorant? Do not believe that because that's what other people/races want you to believe. Even if you have encountered ignorant African America females, every race has ignorant, rude, and belligerent people. Surely you don't believe EVERY hispanic, white, indian, korean etc., person is above that. What you need to do is be a difference and be above and beyond whoever you encountered that made you feel or think this way. You shouldn't be asking "what would I have to be like for you too date me and what don't you like about my race". Sweety, love yourself for who you are and don't restrict yourself to anyones idea of what you 'should' be like. As a young, educated African American female myself I try to be the exact opposite of what you stated here.

Unless you're acting like the stereotypical Hollywood black b*tch, then I see no reason why (younger) guys would not be willing to date you as long as they find you attractive. I'm surrounded by college guys, and I can't think of one who has a problem with dating black girls.

Older guys (like 40+), on the other hand, really don't like to date outside of their own race for some reason.

it does depend on the guy you go after. it might be where you live but I know a lot of black girls who are attractive. and there are stereotypes that aren't true too

I don't know where you live but I moved from Ventura, CA to Atlanta and it is a bit of a culture shock. I knew tons of white guys that thought I was really pretty and wanted to ask me out when I was 17 or 18 cause of their parents not approving and things along that line. I also think it has a lot to do with prsonal preference. Eeryone is attracted to what they are attracted to. Being a woman of color, since about 20 years old I really haven't had a problem. Guys ask me out all the time. I think you have to break the negative steriotypes out there by sowing them who you are as an individual.

Are you speaking of white guys or just any guys, but guys don't date black girls because they think they are ignorant?...I mean that may be a reason for some people in some cases but sometimes its because they are scared of what there friends and family will think, also there preference in reference to what guys like physically some guys are just scared to step outside the box.

I don't know where you get this idea that black girls aren't being dated a lot. I guess it depends on the area you live in. A lot of people should educate themselves and learn that black girls being loud and ghetto is just a stereotype.

Well, I'm not a guy, but just because your black, does not mean your not beautiful. Some guys can be really stuck up. There drama queens.

You will have to find the right guy. When he comes along, you will know it.

And just because they won't date you because your black, is just wrong, and stupid, and completely immature. They would need to learn that colored and white people are all the same, and all beautiful.

And, if they say they don't want to date you, because your colored, all you have to say is.. "no need for the racism, all you have to tell me, is no, you don't like me. Simple. As. That."

Hope this works :]:]

Um... what do you mean guys don't date a lot of black girls? - last time I checked, the majority of black girls I know are in relationships or at least have guys that would like to be in relationships with them. I don't think it has anything to do with race at all. If a guy doesn't want to date a girl who is ignorant then he just doesn't want to date a girl who is ignorant, end of story. And if there's a guy you like who you don't think will date you cause he's ignorant enough to think you fit into some ridiculous stereotype, then he really shouldn't be the type of guy you would want to date.

This is because a vast majority of people for some odd reason to think all people of african descent are how they are portrayed in the hip-hop/rap world because that is what is seen. I don't say all people do, but a lot of people do which is unfortunate. There are ignorant people in all races that's just how it is. The main issue appears to be that of skin tone, and I'll be honest, I have friends that are white and some of them are darker than I am,lol. Everyone is to stuck on ethnicity being the biggest issues and it's not; it's peoples perception of people different than them. Everyone is looking for the same things in love. Someone you get along with and that makes you happy.

I hate this stereotype because I'm not like that at all. I actually hate when I hear loud, ignorant black people. I used to get made fun of for not "acting black." I just feel like a lot of black girls are unlucky because of that stereotype and a lot of guys of other races just don't find us attractive and a lot of black men don't want to date black women. And I always get hit on by either stereotypical black guys(who I just cannot get along with) or old men. *sigh*

Story of my life. I wonder what it is about me that guys can so easily pass over, even though they tell me how intelligent, erudite, creative, and funny I am. I'm not crazy and I don't like drama, yet and still I'm steady single.

* sigh *

I'm keeping hope alive, though.

Guys, would you date me? (Not to jock your question, I just thought I'd ask.)

I know exactly what you mean! I don't think I'm your stereotypical "black girl". I don't think they're ignorant (that's news to me), but I am so frustrated because most of the black girls I come across fulfill that stereotype of being rude! Many of them come off as dramatic and shady, and sometimes I wonder when interacting with them if they're just gonna start talking about me when I walk away. It surprises me to meet other black girls who are nice. And it shouldn't BE like that! It's so weird because I hear what people of other races say, and I can't even blame them because I see it, too. The black guys I am friends with are attracted to black girls. But I do notice that a lot of them are in relationships with other races. Which I don't mind. I just hate being thought of so negatively when I consider myself to be an open and well-rounded individual.

i know plenty of black girls who aren't ignorant obnoxious or loud that stereotype is false like the rest of them

i could care less about guys that don't like black girls. if other guys want to stereotype me why would I want to date them? if a person is so stupid to think "all black girls do _" or "all black girls are like _" why would you even want to date them anyway? don't change to suit someone who can't appreciate you the way you are. I mean you don't see any questions on here by girls of otherr races asking why guys don't like them. race isn't that big of an issue I'm sure there are plenty of guys that would date you. just don't beg for acceptance if a guy wants to be ignorant that's his loss

i know what your saying and it frustrates me because I don't understand what people see so wrong with us and why we are stereotyped and why people believe those stereotypes ughh and its not just with guys either it with everyone I believe and its not fair at all. But anyway I think we have many male admirers of the opposite race I honeslty just think they are intimidated by us because they think because were "black" that we won't like them that's what I think.

I wonder about this too. And maybe I find it more fascinating because my mother is white, my father is black, so I'm always categorised as black when really I'm half of each. I still mainly get approached by black guys. It's not all non-black guys though - there are plenty that don't really care what race a girl is, or who even have a particular thing for black/Asian/whatever girls.

If I get complimented on something by a guy, it's usually my lips or bum, and they're definitely from ma daddy! Consider that, black-haters ;]

OMG!
i ask the same thing all the time!
we are always stereotyped and that irks my nerves because people won't even give us a chance!
hunni I am with you all the way !