Me and him like each other. (Secretly I have deep feelings for him, but don't show them) We hang out and make out, but no sex. We know each other for half of the year, but we're not going out, just friends with benefits because we're both too busy and well. Two weeks ago I lost m virginity to him. He often asks me if I have boyfriend before he asks me to hang out and of course I don't. I truly like him and I want to be in relationship now after we had sex, well I should call it intercourse, because we didn't finish it, it really hurt and I stopped. He's much older and experienced than me. Do you think now he wouldn't ask me out because I already gave him my first time and he would think I'm sluttish or too easy?.
I don't think that's the case. If he really does like you, he'll want to keep seeing you even though you've been to bed with him. There is still a chance at a relationship. Just keep seeing what you can make of it.
I agree with RFRFRF. I think he does have feelings for you, but don't make things too easy for him or let him think that he has you in the palm of his hands. I would be straight forward and just ask him for a committed relationship. it feels like you two do like each other and all's good in the relationship except you guys aren't using the term. so now is probably a good time to start making him your boyfriend.
Well if it took six months to get in your pants I would not say so. But you did give it to him without a relationship and for your first time that's pretty ballsy. Now he knows that he can have sex with you without commitment, so I would try to get commitment or cut off the sex before you get hurt. Cool?
Lol before that he said he likes me and he is alright if I don't want to have sex. At the beginning he wanted to ask me out, he said to his friend but he feared my age, now I'm legal to be dated, but he's still not asking me out, he called me on valentine's day when I didn't pick up & didn't call him back, which maybe made him think I'm only into friends with benefits thing. But I don't know how to tell him what I want. Since he doesn't open up either - 7 months ago
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No not picking up the phone gave you control and he hates that because he thought he had control. Don't fall for him saying sex doesn't matter, he got to give it up without commitment right? Give him a choice and take control, commitment or only just friends and his choice will show his true intentions. - 7 months ago
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Just tell him hey I've been thinking that I don't want to be friends with benefits that I need to be in a relationship or just friends, I like you a lot but I can't keep doing it like this because I don't think its fair to both of us. What do you want to do just friends or relationship? - 7 months ago
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Well if he is going to choose friends option, I don't know how it will turn out. He is straight foward and he will probably say I'm busy with jobs (i know that he is) and he doesn't have money to date. However I think money has nothing to do with when you wanna be in relationship. - 7 months ago
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Well at least you won't get hurt anymore by him leading you on, saying friends with benefits is a nice way to say I just want to f*** you but not be with you sometimes work is a bullshit excuse if that's the objection. If he really wants to be with you he will accept you offer, if he doesn't he will make excuses. And then you can move on and let go of someone who is taking you for granted - 7 months ago
Girl I wish my first time the man could care so much about me like yours. The most special thing you could give him your first time and I'm sure he is happy about it. I think he likes you. Six months and he still around yes, I think all this time he try to analyze who you really are.
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 7 months ago
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