I been dating this guy for almost a month now and everything seemed fine. We would always talk on the phone for hours, great chemistry, He keeps his promises, always on time to come see me, buys me things, etc. We would spend hours together too when we go out.
Because of this, we been number one on each others myspace page for some time. I even sent him a picture comment that said, "My Baby is all I need. " a week ago. Just yesterday he picked me up and we went to a movie and then chilled a my place.
Well, I checked his myspace page today and noticed that he moved me to number 3 and deleted my picture comment to him. What? I don't understand but he did tell me a couple of days ago that he's brother shares his account with him too but y would his brother do that? I'm so confused cause I know that everything is fine. I feel that he really likes me.
So you think I'm over reacting about this? Maybe it was his brother? Or what? Right now, I called him but he didn't pick up and he is at work. Am I jumping to conclusions too quickly here? I'm a little worry. I like this guy and I thought he was feelin me.
Update: To b honest, I think he was starting to feel like we were getting too close & it scared him away. I'm telling you everything was peachy, felt good &i knew he liked me. Now this? I called him once more after a whole full day. Still no answer.
7 months ago
I usually delete picture comments from my own page because I don't like a long loading time when people visit my site. I used to be a webmaster, and that is one of the golden rules when making a web page- less is more. I usually tell my friends to leave small pictures if they want to leave picture comments, or else I delete them. If you're asking why do I do that? Think to when you visit a page with tons of pictures that have to load, did you wait patiently, or get agitated and contemplate just closing the browser and forgetting about your friend's page? I share all this to point out there may be other reasons for deleting a picture from Myspace.
Anyways, I would say two days waiting to hear from this guy isn't so bad. If I am remembering your last relationship correctly, you were always having to guess the intentions of your ex. Make an effort to give this new boyfriend some room to breathe, and let him prove to you that he is different.
If he isn't calling you back, go to him in person and see what is going on. You need closure if the relationship has ended. If he is still interested, then he needs to know you feel left in the dark right now.
Its been 4 days now and I have heard nothing from him. I knew something was wrong. Something I did that day that I probably don't even realize. He could have just been playing me for sex and then got tired of me. I don't know but this has never happened to me when I felt this good about a guy. I haven't bugged him or nothing in 4 days and he don't seem to be missing me. It could b he really don't want me no more and I have no clue y. We were smiles and giggles the last time we saw each other. Then he's gone? - 7 months ago
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Well going to see him in person is better than guessing. The only answers you are getting now are your own doubts, and those are not a good thing to have. Go find out what is going on. Be a little proactive. - 7 months ago
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But don't you think he's avoiding me? I mean, I think he wants me to get the hint to leave him alone and I am but at the same time, this is so unreal to me. Everything felt so good, you know? - 7 months ago
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He has been silent for four days, maybe you should take a break from this yourself. Don't contact him for however long you feel comfortable with. See how you feel after that amount of time. - 7 months ago
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Well, right now, I'm starting to feel better about it. Like its wearing off being left like that. I don't know. I got so much other stuff I'm doing too and I can always get another guy. I kind of still wish he'd call but its not as strong as it was at first. I'll b ok. Its not like I was in love. Just was starting to feel for him. - 7 months ago
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It's good to read that statement. Knowing there are more fish in the sea is the right attitude :) His loss! - 7 months ago
Yea, I'm feeling really turned down. Its been almost 2 days now and I still haven't heard from him. I called once this mourning and that's it. Left no messages or anything. So I'm not bugging him. Maybe it is over. :( - 7 months ago
Do me a favor. calm down and take a deep breath. wow. I can feel the hypertension in your words, reading this was like drinking a giant cup of panic flavored coffee. do not worry. yes, you are over-reacting a little too much. his brother may have deleted your message you sent. send him another one. something different. and yes it does sound to me like you are moving a little too fast. why don't you treat yourself to a girls night out or something to get your space, and to give him his as well, then schedule something for you both to do later in the week. and then tell him to call you. next, just go about your business for a few days and see what happens. either way, don't get too wrapped up in a one month man. I know it sucks because this is such an awesome guy, but better to figure out he's not the one earlier than later. but like I said,,..calm down. before you go further. give yourself some room to think. and make sure you do ultimately what is right for you. -j
I thought about sending him another pic comment but then that'll make me look crazy, right? cause what if he deleted the comment for whatever reason. he probably got other girls and I'm messing up the game for him. I mean he does work at a club. but yea I should just relax and see what happens. thx. - 7 months ago
Well first he needs to get his own account away from his brothers, that would lead to many inconclusive answers because it could clearly be his brother, other questions to ponder who are the first 2 currently, does it look like one of his friends or does it look like his brothers friends. As a guy I don't usually delete comments on myspace, I wouldn't take anything too seriously yet, just keep your relationship rolling along, you'll know if his behavior has changed or his feeling for you are different then before
I don't think your jumping to conclusions. You should relax though. But no one shares a myspace account That's bs, I used to say that same shit. My advice to you is treat him the same way, then see how he reacts (Don't pay as much attention to him, miss a call or two ;).
I looked at your images on your profile. If you are seriously that person then you have nothing to worry about. Oh and who shares their MySpace account that's stupid. Tell his younger brother that opening a MySpace account is free, have him go delete stuff off his own profile.
I wouldn't place an immense amount of significance on a website especially when you say his brother has access to his page as well. If your really worried I would say look at his actions and behavior when he is with you. Have those changed? If not Id say you have nothing to worry about. Good Luck!
But if his brother did that, y? He doesn't even know me. I left him a message earlier today while he was at work and now its 2 I the morning. Still have not heard from him. He gets off from wk around this time and usually calls. I know he sees he has a miss call and message. I don't know. I'm scared he lost interest that quickly. I'm still gonna wait it out cause I'm not sure whats going on. I only called him once and texted right after that once asking if I did something wrong. The ball is in his court. - 7 months ago
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