Would it be wrong to date him?

My initial reaction is to say don't date the guy if you're not interested. Ill call him B for that reason. True, a date is not committing to a long relationship, but he may see it as more than it is. Guys can be quite good at drawing conclusions like that. Be careful not to look at jealousy as a bonus. Its a double edged sword. You can end up attracting a guy who likes games or is only about the challenge. Mr. A ( the one you are interested in) could also take your actions as a reason to back off rather than pursue. But, if the interest is mutual, he shouldnt expect you to sit around and wait - or to read his mind. At least B is trying. He may seem over-eager, but could turn out to be a great guy who really treats you right. You might allow a bit of time for A to decide what he wants to do and that gives you more time to consider B as well. But that time factor works both ways. B could meet someone and be out of the picture. I guess I'm at a loss to understand why being friends first is bad. Maybe it hasn't worked so far, but it seems like the more you know up front the better. Help me out here.

If you are not interested in being with a guy you should just let him know. I do agree with not using him as a way to make your crush jealous, it probably will not end the way you want it. If there is no chemistry between you and another person (no matter how cool they seem to be) it would not be a successful relationship.

Let the guy you're feeling know how you feel, if he feels the opposite. Just move on.